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AnonSoc · 10/07/2024 13:19

Started TTC age 36. It took almost a year and I conceived a month before turning 37. However, it turns out that I had an underactive thyroid, which was probably contributing to my difficulties.

Emmanuelll · 10/07/2024 13:17

Yumyumcakes · 10/07/2024 09:46

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How long did it take?

this will be my third, I’m out from my 2nd ttc cycle and I’m worried it might not happen.

i track my cycle, use opk and temp. Any other tips?
my first took close to 9 months which I know is normal (partner and I were late 20s) second complete surprise (early 30s). Dh had ‘variable sperm parameters’

I was 38, 4th try.

WobblyBoots · 10/07/2024 13:16

DC1 -35 - TTC 2 yrs
DC2 -38 -TTC 1yr
DC3 -40 - TTC four glasses of wine 😬

I did have a MC at 39 after 2-3 cycles of trying. Then decided not to go for a third.

JaninaDuszejko · 10/07/2024 13:14

My 3DC were all conceived the first month of trying. I was 36, 37 and 40. I am now 53 and have not gone through the menopause yet.

Edited to add: I did not track ovulation, we just had regular sex throughout my cycle. Less stress, costs nothing and more fun.

NewShoes · 10/07/2024 13:11

Second baby conceived at 36 took 10 months.

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Yumyumcakes · 10/07/2024 13:06

Keepingcosy · 10/07/2024 12:41

Put sperm in an empty container, mix with pre-seed lubricant found on Amazon, insert using a Calpol style syringe (i just used a new Calpol syringe), lie on back, legs up and think of England for 30 minutes! Did every night 3 days before ovulation and then over the 3 days of ovulation to increase chances - so 6 days in total.

You can buy nice kits off Amazon to do the same job.

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That’s interesting, I thought sperm had to be ‘prepared’ as it were. Did he just do his business in a cup?

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JustSaltPlease · 10/07/2024 12:58

@LindorDoubleChoc

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JustSaltPlease · 10/07/2024 12:57

38 first time via IUI

Nelbert19 · 10/07/2024 12:53

4 cycles for first at 33
20 cycles for number 2, eventually conceived when I was 36. I was waiting for my period to start so that I could start taking the hormonal treatment for IVF but I was pregnant instead!

all hormones, anatomy and sperm normal, tracked ovulation etc. She just took her time! 🤷🏻‍♀️

Keepingcosy · 10/07/2024 12:41

Yumyumcakes · 10/07/2024 11:35

How does one do DIY insemination?

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Put sperm in an empty container, mix with pre-seed lubricant found on Amazon, insert using a Calpol style syringe (i just used a new Calpol syringe), lie on back, legs up and think of England for 30 minutes! Did every night 3 days before ovulation and then over the 3 days of ovulation to increase chances - so 6 days in total.

You can buy nice kits off Amazon to do the same job.

IamOliveOil · 10/07/2024 12:15

Came off the pill in sept 2020 aged 35 ttc first time, pregnant in March 2022 resulted in miscarriage. Ttc since, became pregnant again in Feb 2024 now 23 weeks 🤞🏼 a friend of mine first ttc first time aged 38, had the coil out and 6 weeks later positive test. Everyone is different, good luck xx

Beamur · 10/07/2024 12:11

34 - 4 months but miscarried
36 - over a year

LindorDoubleChoc · 10/07/2024 12:08

Yabu. Why can't you ask in pregnancy or conception?

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Yumyumcakes · 10/07/2024 11:35

Keepingcosy · 10/07/2024 11:29

8 months with DC1 at 35
2 months DC2 at 38 - but used a DIY insemination method over a period of a week rather than the natural way as I thought it'd be easier (which it was).

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How does one do DIY insemination?

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Keepingcosy · 10/07/2024 11:29

8 months with DC1 at 35
2 months DC2 at 38 - but used a DIY insemination method over a period of a week rather than the natural way as I thought it'd be easier (which it was).

Olika · 10/07/2024 11:24

I got pregnant right away at 37 but MC and it took us 2.5y to succeed.
I watched a really good interview with a fertility doctor on YouTube recently and she said you should have regular sex for sperm quality as when you don't 'old unviable' sperm keeps coming out and blocking the way for new viable sperm needed for conception.
You DTD every other day is good to avoid the above. I personally would look into taking Ubiquinol (both and and DH) besides fertility supplements but that's just what helped us on our journey.
I definitely believe that when you don't get you fall pregnant faster than when you are trying but it's just so difficult to forget TTC when having a baby is so important.

KnittedCardi · 10/07/2024 11:08

Pretty quickly with both DD's. Didn't do anything except have more regular sex!

80smonster · 10/07/2024 11:05

12 weeks. I’d got my cycle days confused so we were trying on the wrong days the first month. The third month we fell pregnant. I was pretty annoyed tbh, everyone told us it would take ‘years’. Remember to test in the morning… I did not know about this rule, so consequently got false negatives for the first 6 weeks of my pregnancy.

MaryShelley1818 · 10/07/2024 11:00

DS (at 39) took 5mths.
DD (at 42) took about a year, we had all the tests done and were diagnosed with unexplained secondary infertility, then Covid happened and all our appointments were cancelled so we drew a line under it and moved on, and along she came 😊

tarheelbaby · 10/07/2024 11:00

DD1 was conceived when I was 34 after 5-6 mos of trying. I was just starting to freak out a little. DH was going away when I thought I would ovulate so we gave it the old college try but earlier in the cycle. Bingo.
DD2 was conceived when I was 37 on the very first try - learned from previous time and started trying just after period. DH was a bit taken aback. He'd been hoping for a 'long campaign'.

Ponoka7 · 10/07/2024 10:59

My Mum had me at 40 (1968), her first at 28. My Dad had put it about, but I was his only child, so there was possibly sperm issues. She had come off the pill because of issues, took a few chances over four months and then thought I was the menopause. A lot of women would get caught 40-45, thinking that they didn't have to be careful. I think that you are worrying too soon.

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Yumyumcakes · 10/07/2024 10:57

Houseshmouse · 10/07/2024 10:53

Don't stress about it. Your body won't let you get pregnant if you are too stressed!

This is so true, I think it’s the difference between my first and second… however for some reason I just can’t stop

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Sorrypinkfish · 10/07/2024 10:54

First child at 19, wasn’t expected so no idea on time taken to conceive, second at 25 after about 6m of trying. Third at 37 first month trying and fourth at 38 within one month of breastfeeding ending.

My second baby was the only one I obsessed over trying to conceive and was the one that took longest.

Houseshmouse · 10/07/2024 10:53

Don't stress about it. Your body won't let you get pregnant if you are too stressed!

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Yumyumcakes · 10/07/2024 10:49

Bells3032 · 10/07/2024 10:44

Thanks. 3 months is not that long to try unfortunately and even a perfectly healthy couple its normal to take up to a year. If you've conceived twice before then it's less likely to be any issues but if worried you can usually google nearby fertility testing clinics who will do a sperm count (or at home tests though not as accurate).

My husband had cancer so it took a few years of treatments before we conceived. his numbers are still well below the normal parameters but i seem to be the most ridiculously fertile person on the planet, despite a very low AMH, as got pregnant accidently whilst doing IVF the first time and this time only had one month didn't conceive. but i do come from a family where the women joke their husbands just look at them and they're pregnant

35 is not a cliff edge. fertility does decline with age but it's still young enough to not stress too much

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I’m hesitant of going down that route again because we did originally and was told due to his numbers it was a lost cause, we’d need icsi. That just created this sense of panic

his morphology was 2/4%. He had a few tests and the numbers went up and down, but we learned that the longer he goes without ‘releasing sperm’ for want to a better phrase the lower motility he has and every other day is the best for his count which overall was fine. It was just morphology that was low

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