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If you conceived after 35?

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Yumyumcakes · 10/07/2024 09:46

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How long did it take?

this will be my third, I’m out from my 2nd ttc cycle and I’m worried it might not happen.

i track my cycle, use opk and temp. Any other tips?
my first took close to 9 months which I know is normal (partner and I were late 20s) second complete surprise (early 30s). Dh had ‘variable sperm parameters’

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Mamaneedsgin · 10/07/2024 20:21

The first time. I was 36, 37 when DS was born.

RubyShoesday · 10/07/2024 20:18

Age 35 - first month
Age 38 - surprise!!
Age 41 - first month

MojoJojo71 · 10/07/2024 19:47

It took a long time but we got there eventually. Started ttc at 36. Diagnosed with ‘unexplained secondary infertility’ (already had a DS who was conceived first month at 25). Had 9 cycles of clomid, 3 cycles of IUI, 1 missed miscarriage with surgical management, 1 complete miscarriage. Gave up at 40 and then my DD was a wonderful surprise at 41.

Littlemissnikib · 10/07/2024 19:31

I was 36 and 38 when I had my two children and I fell pregnant first month with both.

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 10/07/2024 19:19
  1. First month.
CedarFence · 10/07/2024 19:09

About 15 mins, iirr.

And I was 43

Spinachandcheese · 10/07/2024 19:02

Was 35. Right away. But we were rabbits. Would suggest optimising both your health as a first step.

LoveSandbanks · 10/07/2024 18:59

First took some months - around 9 or 10. 2nd again took some months, got pregnant, miscarried and got pregnant with ds2 straight away. 3rd was planned but we fell pregnant so quickly that we think we just talked about and BAM!

I was 33, 36 and 39 at the beginning of each pregnancy

madameparis · 10/07/2024 18:34

I conceived my third child at 36. It was not planned. I missed one pill at the wrong time in my cycle!

HappyAsASandboy · 10/07/2024 18:30

It is so varied for each person that this thread will only make you feel worse and then not alone and then worse and then not alone ....

ClemFandango1 · 10/07/2024 17:36

Was 39, going to the gym a lot. Not trying, a one off that took.

AgeGapBbe · 10/07/2024 17:27

Oh there was so much op, I really couldn’t! If you follow all the supplements (and I really suggest you do!) then there’s a lot! Get rid of all fragrance in your house, use Yuka app to scan any toiletries and make it all as natural as possible. I was on a really high dose of COq10 which is partly what I felt the key was. I think it was 600mg a day of really good quality stuff!

TheBirdintheCave · 10/07/2024 17:20

22 months, two mmcs, one round of IVF and a chemical.

DogsDinner · 10/07/2024 16:17

I conceived 3 times after 35, all either first or second month of trying. I did have very regular cycles though, and knew which day I was likely to ovulate.

My best advice would be to time sex for 2 days before ovulation; it’s best if the sperm is ready and waiting when the egg is released.

PeloMom · 10/07/2024 15:56

Was 38. Didn’t really count but I think about 5-6 months.

mondaytosunday · 10/07/2024 15:53

Had kids at 41 and 43. About four months with each. Did nothing other than the deed a few times a week.

lastgreat · 10/07/2024 15:41

Accidentally pregnant at 36 Blush

GabrielOakRose · 10/07/2024 15:40

3 months at 36. I used OPKs and timed it same day and 36 hours later. It had previously been quicker than 3 months doing that.

AuntieObnoxious · 10/07/2024 15:38

1st DC started trying at 37 - it took 2 years. We stopped trying, changed our lifestyles moving to a small cottage in the country, bought a 2 seater sports car, started looking at horses to buy, DH changed jobs to a more relaxed roll & I lost 2 stone and conceived. Finally had DC1 at 39. DC2 - tried on DC1s 1st birthday and got pregnant 1st attempt.
Ended up selling the sports car for an estate car, didn’t get a horse and had to build a big extension to fit us all in. 🥴

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Yumyumcakes · 10/07/2024 15:11

AgeGapBbe · 10/07/2024 14:49

Read it and utilise the changes would be my advice! There’s so much in there which can really help! I found it amazing

I’ve just torn my house apart and I can’t sodding well find it. Its probably in the abyss (the garage).

do you remember any of the key take away whilst I look?

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wickerlady · 10/07/2024 15:06

39 - 5 months

AgeGapBbe · 10/07/2024 14:49

Read it and utilise the changes would be my advice! There’s so much in there which can really help! I found it amazing

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Yumyumcakes · 10/07/2024 14:24

AgeGapBbe · 10/07/2024 14:18

You MUST read ‘it starts with the egg’. So much outdated information out there, even from drs/medical professionals. Me and DP took on the changes in the book and got pregnant 3 months later-exactly the time it takes for dietary/environmental changes to have full effect on mature eggs. We tried for just under 2 years in total, I was 37.

AMH is far more meaningless than they make out it is, and doesn’t measure quite how you think it does. Both sperm and egg quality can be improved fairly quickly and easily.

I’ve got that book, I bought it when I was ttc my first and was told I’d need icsi but never actually got around to reading it because I conceived

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Yumyumcakes · 10/07/2024 14:22

Overbythewaterfountain · 10/07/2024 14:11

If I were you (especially as you're feeling stressed about it) I would ditch EVERYTHING tracking related for six months and just DTD every other day. This is shown to be more effective than tracking because it ensures there are always fresh sperm available to catch an egg as soon as it's released. I got pregnant first month doing this at age 34 (second baby), my cycle was extremely irregular post-COVID (but has always been quite irregular anyway). I was also doing ovulation tests just for fun because a friend gave me some and I was still breastfeeding my first, but I never got a positive ovulation test!

Lying on your back with legs/hips raised for ten minutes after sex increases chances of conception by 20%.

So this is me, my cycle can be quite irregular.

but that’s some sage advice!

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Jaq27 · 10/07/2024 14:18

Doctors said I was sub fertile as I had long cycles (42-56 days) but I got pregnant the first month of trying age 35 - I had DD age 36.
Conceived our son when I was age 38 after one bout of unprotected sex.
fyi I had been using a device called ‘Persona’ for natural contraception for 2 years so I had begun to know signs of ovulation. Mucus changes, mittleschmerz, calendar dates etc
:) good luck x

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