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If you conceived after 35?

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Yumyumcakes · 10/07/2024 09:46

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How long did it take?

this will be my third, I’m out from my 2nd ttc cycle and I’m worried it might not happen.

i track my cycle, use opk and temp. Any other tips?
my first took close to 9 months which I know is normal (partner and I were late 20s) second complete surprise (early 30s). Dh had ‘variable sperm parameters’

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TaraRhu · 12/07/2024 08:26

35 with first - first cycle

38 with second - third cycle

I used the period tracking app on my phone as it told me when I was likely fertile. It worked!

steppemum · 11/07/2024 09:41

started trying for a family when I was 35
3 kids (but also 4 mc)
each on was conceived within 2 cycles.

kids born aged 35, 37 and 40.

So, yes I conceived quickly, but 4 mc shows that they weren't all good eggs I think

I know so many people who took 6 months or more, but got there in the end.

Vizella · 11/07/2024 01:05

Read The Impatient woman’s guide to getting pregnant by Jean M Twenge. She tells you such good advice like take Co-Q10 enzyme supplements to conceive more easily, have sex the day before or two days before for your best chance of conceiving.

I conceived at age 36.5 after 4 cycles and gave birth at 37 to a healthy DS.

momtoboys · 11/07/2024 01:03

Conceived 2nd set of twins at 36. First time we tried. I swear I could have gotten pregnant over the phone! I didn't realize how lucky I was until I had nieces that struggled to conceive.

FluentRubyDog · 11/07/2024 00:54

38 after 8 years of trying, lost count of cycles, 3 IVF cycles due to PCOS, 5 losses, found out I have endometrial issues too, 2 FETs under a clinical trial across the country and I'm finally cradling my little miracle at home after giving birth at 24 weeks and spending 4 months in NICU. Literally took everything I've got to get here. She'll be an only as obs/gynae doctor warned me not to do it again.

smellsfishy · 11/07/2024 00:48

DC3 was conceived when I was 37 - looking back I think it was the beginnings of hormonal mayhem as he was conceived right after I'd finished an unusually heavy period. Not when I'd have expected to be ovulating at all, not that I was testing - we were on holiday & it was a "let's see what happens" scenario. DC2 took 3 or 4 months of trying 5 years before but I did buy the ovulation tests after a couple of cycles.

mrsed1987 · 10/07/2024 23:59

I was 35 and took 4 cycles.

At 30 it took 3, so not much in it apart from 5 years!

bringmorewashing · 10/07/2024 23:54

I was 36 with my first and it took about 4 months, successful the first time I tested for ovulation and realised it happened a bit later than I thought.

Montydone · 10/07/2024 23:28

Took years to get pregnant with my first, with my second (age 40) I got pregnant first try!
best advice I got was to start trying as soon as period finishes, rather than waiting (and missing) the ovulation window!
good luck

Sapphire387 · 10/07/2024 23:25

I was 37, first month of trying.

But also conceived my older two in the first month (in my twenties).

EndlessWashingUp · 10/07/2024 23:24

Conceived DC1 at 35 after 1 full month without contraception and conceived DC2 when DC1 was 15 months. I had had no period in between as I was breastfeeding right through - made for an interesting moment when the midwife asked me the date of my last period with DC2!

TheBirdintheCave · 10/07/2024 23:21

TheBirdintheCave · 10/07/2024 17:20

22 months, two mmcs, one round of IVF and a chemical.

Oh and I was 35 when we started trying.

WineIsMyMainVice · 10/07/2024 23:20

What this thread says is that everyone has a different story. Some what they hoped for, some surprises, many disappointments, some sadness ….
we should all be mindful of each other’s struggles and stories as well as the joys…

WeightofExpectation · 10/07/2024 23:15

I was 38 when we conceived and it took 3 months of trying.

maybein2022 · 10/07/2024 23:14

I was 38 when I conceived my third baby, one contraception fail and that was that. One time. I was exceptionally lucky (we weren’t planning on a third).

MoistTowelette · 10/07/2024 23:12

I was 36/38 when I had my children. Both conceived quickly (within 2-3 months). Both times had gone on a health kick beforehand and lost weight before I conceived.

RebeccaRedhat · 10/07/2024 23:09

My 1st rook 6 months, Mt 2nd was a 1 hit wonder and my 3rd was 3 months, ages 28, 30 & 35 x

TheKeatingFive · 10/07/2024 23:04

The guts of a year, at 36.

Compared to first month of trying at 32.

Isthisreasonable · 10/07/2024 23:02

1st (and only) at 44. Was pregnant within 5 months but it was a surprise as thought it wasn't a possibility.

CheekyHobson · 10/07/2024 22:56

First cycle trying both times at 36 and 38.

Chocolatefrenzy · 10/07/2024 22:54

2 months aged 34 dd1
3 months aged 37 ds

ladygindiva · 10/07/2024 20:48

I was 41, it took 3 cycles.

Meltedchocolateteapot · 10/07/2024 20:37

Had first baby at 34, second at 36 and then ttc for two years at age 38 with no success, just a miscarriage. Tracked cycle, used ovulation kits etc to no avail. Stopped ttc at age 40 as that was my mental ‘cut off’, but without trying at all found out I was pregnant at age 41. Expecting baby number 3 at the moment and pregnancy going well so far. Funnily enough got pregnant during a really stressful time in my life with a bereavement and a house move, wasn’t doing anything ‘right’ to help me conceive. Best of luck with ttc!

AthenaBasil · 10/07/2024 20:31

Took about 4-5 months at age 37. I was starting to worry as my cycles were all over the place. On the month we were successful it was so lucky. I was ill for a lot so only tried one time and it looked to be outside fertile window but it somehow worked.

Scirocco · 10/07/2024 20:28

Years.

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