My husband and I were discussing this the other day and I thought I’d bring it here as we may get actual answers.
I want to preface this by saying I am prochoice and not wanting to discuss the morals of abortion, just the mechanics.
I just had a miscarriage at 9 weeks pregnant. Aside from being absolutely devastated, it was the most painful and traumatic thing I’ve ever experienced. My body did this naturally and I didn’t need any intervention however because my miscarriage was a missed one, we knew baby had died before it started and I’d read up on the options (medical or surgery).
From what I understand, the options to move a miscarriage along or help if our bodies haven’t done it completely on their own is the exact same process as an abortion. I understand surgery wouldn’t be painful as apparently it isn’t but by all accounts the medical management is worse than the natural.
it doesn’t make sense to me and the only thing I can think is that the stigma around abortion means that even less people talk about it then miscarriage so it actually is painful - but only people who have one know.
AIBU: it isn’t painful at all.
AINBU: it is painful - people just don’t talk about it because of the stigma.