What's your secret, selfish fantasy life?

I have a couple of different fantasy lives. I have one where we live in a larger family home, and one where I live alone. I also have one if I'd took a different paths over the years.

They have in common
Plenty of sleep
A non family friendly car
Mostly involve me being alone.

Most of my fantasies are quite nostalgic.

I'd live in a cottage near a sandy beach. I'd go for a walk on the beach every day, rain or shine, and would have a little garden to potter in. I would listen to music and watch films and read library books and just relax.

I can't remember the last time I got to relax!

Sounds fantastic OP. Very similar to me with three changes.

I would be near the seaside.

I would have a cat not a dog.

In the evening instead of a pub dinner, I would go for a walk along the seaside and then return home and have a light dinner.

It is nice to dream about when things get hectic!

Apartment in Paris.
My O’level French is suddenly more than adequate.
Pain au chocolate every morning.
Work in a bookshop.
The same weight and a foot taller.
Have a simple wardrobe..boho but just enough. I would look wonderful in faded denim jeans and a peasant top. Artifully simple jewellery and layers necklaces that miraculously don’t tangle.
Celine bag.
Out for lunch or dinner with lovely charming friends and intelligent conversation.
Husband would come alternative weeks.
Have dog full time.
Drink lots wine and cheese.

I thought I was the only person with a fantasy life!

I have been lucky to have lived most of my adult life in central London. Obviously, I've had to consider the additional costs involved e.g service charges to cover Concierge, security which I was happy to cover. I thought I would be happy moving to an adjacent City ...

I’d have the little cottage I visited as part of an open gardens day not long ago , all whitewashed with a beautiful cottage garden full of hollyhocks , sweet peas and roses ( yet would be strangely maintenance free🤣) and with a tiny stable yard for my two horses in a kind of Ruby Ferguson’s Jill way , next to a national trail . I’d ride every morning with my dog to keep me company , then spend the afternoon wafting about in a Nigella esque fashion pottering about in the kitchen until teatime , then curl up at night with dog and a good book . DH can come if he likes , as long as he leaves the bloody remote control alone .

I have a beautiful, imaginary 2-bedroom flat in a house conversion in London. It's very detailed, down to the art on the bedroom wall, and where I keep the vacuum cleaner. I love it and often spend time there when I need a break from the frenetic race to catch my tail working 7 days a week and parenting 3 kids.

Love that there are other people out there who have these escapist fantasies like I do.

Also helpful to remember that is exactly what they are-fantasy. And to not berate myself for having an ordinary life with drudgery, monotony etc.....just a reminder to snatch some lovely quiet moments for myself when I can!!

My fantasy would involve having two beautiful dogs and some cats, living in a small but perfect little home in the country....close to a pretty town.

I'd be a retired concert violinist, with a sideline in oil painting in my garden art studio overlooking something like a beach or mountain range.

I'd potter in my garden tending to dahlias and roses as well as a couple of veg beds. I'd read books, drink coffee and eat cake but never put on weight. There would be no clutter in my home and I'd live alone but never feel lonely!

love it :@Branster

made me chuckle

I'd live on my own between a smallish house with high ceilings, old furniture and shady garden in Italy in the summer and a modern flat in Sweden in the winter. I'd have 4 dogs.
I'd do a lot of reading. And basically laze about when not walking the dogs.
I might still do some baking but, otherwise, eat mostly salad dishes.
I'd also have a Swedish lover but I wouldn't want to live with him and wouldn't want to see him all the time. No local men whilst I'm in Italy but the Swedish guy can come visit me there if he sorts out his own accommodation in Italy for short breaks.
I would visit my current family for celebrations but wouldn't do any cooking, cleaning, domestic chores whatsoever.
My only big (and real) problem would be how to deal with spiders when living on my own. Once I figure this out, I'm off to live my fantasy life!

Just gardening and pottering and building random things, not working, children look after themselves and we just eat together and watch films have fun days out. Having big parties and being able to sleep them off for 3 days, the plants somehow water themselves, the house is tidied overnight by elves, big dinners where someone else always washes up. Staying miraculously fit and healthy despite eating, drinking and doing what I like.

Ahh, dreams.

I'd love a little house on the coast, with a reading room overlooking the sea. I'd get a dog and go out for long walks every day, and come home and make hot chocolate.

I'd be perfectly happy for DP to come too!

That's the beauty of it though - every morning resets so I'm always refreshed and ready for another day. Plus I can have a rest day and just spend it in my palace of a tent if I feel like it.

It's probably being disabled that makes me so keen on this dream. I'd settle for just waking up each morning pain free and full of beans in my every day life if it was a possiblity.

I like to mess with some of the variables of my life but make it work out that I still get to meet and fall in love with my partner, but I don't have to go through a really tough marriage first. I try to fix it so that I still get to have my kids, not some sort of butterfly effect situation where I still have children but I don't recognise them. My kids rock.
Sometimes I try to alter the variables so that my marriage worked out. No birth trauma or PND. Different hospital regardless of family opinion (different one is statistically much safer and it could have been way better for us) and ask for help way sooner. I wonder if things would have worked if I'd been more affectionate, outgoing, more like I am now. But then, I remember that I used to get yelled at for cooking the 'wrong' meal. Yelled at to the point where I felt physically sick. I could never have become who I am now if I'd stayed and been crushed into a tiny fraction of a person.
I had to meet my partner to learn how hugging my loved ones becomes second-nature when I am safe and loved and that I'm more outgoing and way more confident because of those changes.
Sometimes I mess with it to the point where I didn't have children and it feels luxurious for about five minutes, and then I just can't.

To live nearer to my daughter and grandchildren, for DH and me to be mortgage free and have retired/working part time - 5 year life plan!🤞

I'd live in a small villa in Greece, (doable, I'm an EU citizen) with a small guesthouse to rent out for my meagre income. I'd invite the guests for meals and give them good holiday tips. Employ a cleaner to help when they've gone.

Practise yoga and dance each evening then see to my cats, before a large vino and plate of fish on the terrace before bed with the windows open, ready for a sea swim first thing and a breakfast of bougatsa

Exhausting referred to the festival goer!

That sounds so exhausting!

I'm so surprised how many people's dream is to work in the service industry. Having worked in a cafe and a shop it would not be relaxing for me.

I'd keep the kids and my husband. We are happy where we live, but knowing my parents have good care, a bigger house and an increased libido would be my dream. (It's been a tricky year).

I would spend the Summers either where I currently live, or in the Scottish Highlands where my DD lives though I'd downsize to a quaint little cottage, but the Winters would be spent in a traditional townhouse in Spain. Probably Seville. Though maybe Granada as it has the advantage of being near the Sierra Nevada so handy for skiing when I felt like it. (I can't actually ski...I've been in a dry ski slope once...but this being fantasy land I will be swishing down the slopes like an expert drawing admiring gasps from all who see me.) I will have a small staff in both my homes, ensuring that I never have to clean or do any ironing. I will spend a lot of time cycling, sailing or hiking, painting water colours and playing the piano.(I can neither paint nor play an instrument but that's just a technicality obviously) I will eat lots of cake and never gain any weight. I will have chickens and a very well behaved medium sized dog that doesn't chase the chickens, smell or shed hair anywhere and has ears that flap adorably in the breeze when it's in the passenger seat of my classic soft top sportscar. I'll also be about 6 inches taller than currently, but the same weight.

My fantasy is very specific, and I'm taking the "fantasy" part of your question seriously. I would be one of the witches from the Lancre coven in the Discworld (there are 4 of us, I'm not replacing anyone). I have a little cottage in the Ramtops and am a sort of scholarly witch. I read up on the latest magic but apply it to the local tasks. I have my DC with me, and they play out in the countryside and village.

I'd love to have a sort of groundhog day at my favourite festival. Every morning, I wake up without a hangover regardless of how trashed I got the night before. I'm also in my body from my late twenties, before I got arthritis, so I've got loads of energy and I'm fit and strong. My tent is like a cupboard to Narnia and I've got a lovely bed, a full fridge, and a projector so some days I can just lie around watching films and listening to the rain. I've got mountains of cool clothes. I get to choose every morning which year and which day of the festival I'd like to visit. I can see my favourite bands or random bands from every angle I feel like and I can meet whoever I like, including friends and handsome strangers. I spend every day exploring, getting drunk, maybe high if I feel like it, and dancing into the night.

Mine is kind of depressing because I moved a few years ago and my dream life would be to go back to my beautiful old city, I miss it so much.

Of course it the fantasy I'd have a nice town house in the centre instead of the little flat, the weather would be better, and I'd have more time to pursue all the creative hobbies fantasy me would have, and endless happy days with DC at the beach.

That sounds ace! I love the fact you'd goto the pub and watch the football! I want to do that on Wednesday but can't find anyone to go with !!

Mine is being transported to the 24th century, being a Starfleet officer and the love of JLP's life.

Or Q sends JLP back in time and we find each other. Spending all our time together.