To be jealous of DH work routine?

Can you move closer to your job to reduce your commute?

The simple answer is that YABVU. Them's the breaks - you have your dream job, but sometimes the dream has nightmare bits!
It doesn't help to see your nearest and dearest seemingly having a ball, but this is just a blip! if the sun came out, 6am is a perfect time of day!
It will pass

OP's job would still be the same even if her husband worked in an office, though.

And lots of people have always worked from home or done hybrid work.

Awwwww I hear you. Even just the laundry, come the weekend and I’ve got five days of full outfits to sort and he’s got a couple T-shirts and a pair of jeans.

And the chat! I know he’s been alone all day and wants some interaction but I just want to stare mindlessly at the wall and think about nothing. I do feel bad for him as well cos it must be a bit lonely all week, though like yours he does have periods where he’s away and seeing people.

Theres sod all you can do about it, I think of it as an investment in later life cos the money is good and it’s a good job, and lots of people do the same as we do - I’m sure he envies me sometimes in a ‘grass is greener’ way as well. But it is tough sometimes!

It sounds very uneven.
Can you move closer to work.
How long are you together?
Is this your future?
If it is, is it really sustainable?
Are you now supposed to fund your joint lifestyle by a 12 hour work day?
Dinner should be cooked by the time you get home, plus all household jobs.
Things need to be rejigged.
A long working week has a MASSIVE negative impact on weekend energy levels.

I think that if your husband didn't wfh there would be less issues with your job

didn't most of us work in an office day after day after day before Covid?

Is there 1 day a week you could do from home? Surely you must have admin/desk related tasks that don't require you to be on site? Or even half a day so you have one day a week where you don't have to get up at 6am?

Look at the end of the day this is the path you've chosen and sometimes it sucks but honestly if you don't want to or can't make changes then you need to be honest with dh about your feelings and that you need down time at the weekends. If he's not very understanding then maybe the problem isn't your job?

YABVVU to complain about something you chose. If you wanted to vent then maybe post in Chat not AIBU?
You have a well paid dream job many others like nurses , teachers etc don't WFH have long commutes and are paid a pittance.
No point in whining unless you're going to do something about it.

Me and my husband are the opposite and I envy his opportunity to dress up, pub lunches, actual people, social drinks.

wfh is boring AF.

id like somewhere in the middle ideally !

Can you drop a day and go part time?

Could you have one day a week wfh on a regular basis when you do all your phone calls and admin stuff?

Do you have a cleaner or could you get one so that's less to do once you're home? Even a robot hoover could be a slight help? What about a laundry service?

Move nearer to your work?

Is it quicker driving to work but nowhere to park/too dear to park - get your partner to drive you in and pick you up once a week perhaps with a meal out on the way home?

Who cooks? Get him to do it or order healthy takeout twice a week.

Surely you made a choice to take on this 'dream job' and career and you knew that it involves office presence?

So I think it is unfair to resent your partner being able to work from home.

As other people have said, you have other choices:

• you could get another job
• you could both agree to move closer to your workplace.

Nothing wrong with venting. Vent away.

What I will advise is to put your foot down on the weekends. You need some downtime. Yes husband might be sick of seeing the same walls but if you don't get downtime, you end up burning out.

I'm jealous of my husbands work routine but I do not earn squillions and do not have my dream job

I think you're winning at life OP. And if you want to change it it sounds like you're in a position to. You're in an enviable position that you can choose the money and dream career or choose to drop to a wfh job.

I'm not actually sure what you're wanting!!!

Keep gym kit at work? Keep shoes at work? Buy lunch? Work from home Fridays?
If you are senior negotiate a late start one day? Suggest wellness time/days?

What you describe as tedious sounds absolutely idyllic to me

If you can't move jobs then move house imo - closer to the office and reduce the burden of the commute.

I understand corporate life as the spouse of someone in a much less stressful role very well. Do you have to be on client sites all day every day? Even one day a week WFH without a commute or once in a while would be a help.

Do you really have to power dress every day? Nowadays most jobs are rather more relaxed and realistic, and don't expect the full make-up and hair thing for women every day.

Flip the thinking in your head... imagine his day

Wife goes offto wprk. Thats the last face he sees all day long until you return

His day is exactly the same no afterwork events, no need to get dressed up, the only conversation he is having is with the dog

Sounds utterly tedious while you have your dream job and high salary

Is it really a dream job if you're exhausted all the time and never have any time to yourself? It all sounds a bit miserable and like you're just running on a hamster wheel to me.

Could you cut one day off your working week to allow you a day relaxing at home -then you may feel more like going out at the weekend ?
No point I having money if you have no time to enjoy it .

Sounds like you're physically and mentally exhausted, I was feeling like this so decided to make changes to my diet. I switched caffeine for matcha and increased my water intake and introduced a daily electrolyte that I mix in water. I also started taking vitamin b12 and magnesium glycinate supplements. Absolute game changer, I have more energy, I'm thinking clearer and I don't mind the long day & work commute. I feel so much better.

What are you hoping to get from this thread then?

FWIW, I’m in corporate real estate and I WFH 50% of the week so it’s definitely possible and in my sector fairly standard. The industry had to shift post covid to keep people here.

Move closer or just decide to be grateful that you're very well paid in your dream job?

Feels a bit too much like your diamond shoes are too tight to me.

Concentrate on being happy that you have got where you are and it’s where you want to be. The less enjoyable stuff is the thing that allows you to be there.

Exactly. Before all this wfh lark started, everyone went into work every day. The majority still do. Like pp said wfh can make your world feel claustrophobic.