To be jealous of DH work routine?

I am your DH in this scenario.

WFH full time, can exercise before work, or at lunchtime, walk dogs, clean, do laundry etc.

On sofa by 6pm latest watching TV.

My husband is a builder and is very jealous, but it has been this way for 25 years so he is used to it. I earn double what he earns too.

If you want this lifestyle, there are well paid jobs out there that offer it, go and find one.

Could you not stay one night a week in a city hotel to save the commute and early start ?

Yeah, but you didn’t refer to the op when you first made this comment.

Yeah, I don't think the OP has engaged that much. Hence why I said 'pure' venting posts.

YANBU to think his day sounds much nicer. I'm out of the house 10.5 -11 hours a day, no option for wfh ever, and earn a lot less than you. I do get long holidays though.

It sounds like you work hard so just make sure you reward yourself by playing hard too!

have trips booked to look forward to. Doesn’t always have to be big expensive exotic holidays. Just weekend breaks here and there. Make the effort the book in spa days with your girlfriends etc.

Realistically there doesn't seem to be much that people can say, though.

You can't work from home, you can't/won't move closer to your job and you don't want to change career or hours, so your options are pretty limited.

Chucking money at the domestic stuff could help a bit - pay for a cleaner to minimise what you both need to do around the house, sort out things like "cook" meals so that you don't need to cook etc.

Disagree. The whole point of venting is you let out frustration.

And sometimes it’s easier to analyse a problem if you see it written down.

Also, everyone’s feedback - even if you can’t or don’t want to put it in to action - is helpful.

I WFH 4 days a week, some months I don't go into the office at all (July is one due to various holidays). Yes it has its plus points, no commute, gym at times that work for me so not in the evening when it's mega busy, don't have to worry about what to wear.

Downside I'm bloody lonely and can go for days without speaking to anyone (I live on my own). I miss the social side of the office but even if I did go in there's no guarantees that I'll actually speak to anyone if my team aren't in. I also end up doing way more hours than I should and not being able to switch off.

I moved to WFH in covid and love it, finally have a work life balance after years of the slog. Can't really go any higher unless I go back to travelling internationally again so i'm happy where I am. I feel your pain, on the odd day I go to my office it absolutely wipes me out.

Well yes, because it's not sustainable.

But you don't seem to want advice, just sympathy, which is fair enough!

I think this is why pure venting posts don't work on internet forums. There is no point to them.

I wouldn't describe moving jobs or house as "turning your life upside down".

But I do know from experience that working long days like you describe isn't sustainable long-term for most of us. I suspect there's a very good reason that your DH doesn't do it anymore.

If you're complaining about your dream job you'd also be complaining about WFH.

You know that your options are doing something about it or sucking it up.

If you dont like it why not just change jobs?

Anyone would be tired working the hours you do - maybe you need to be realistic about how sustainable it is long-term.

If I have to attend the office a lot in 1 week I will have the middle night, say Wednesday in a hotel next to the office. The long evening by myself and late breakfast after a lay in is amazing! and you can still have full days in the office and not feel so bad. Highly recommended (not cheap, but if you can afford it then it's great).

@Notamorning - you are allowed to have a little moan. However, you don’t want to change anything! There’s little more irritating than people moaning about their lot, yet in the same breath saying they wouldn’t change anything about it. You just have to put up with it. What do you do, out of pure nosiness?

I think your dh should take over the meal planning, food shopping and cooking tbh.

Why ruin your Sunday doing meal
planning? He can take that on surely? Especially as you have done it with him up to this point. He must know the ropes.

It’s a shame you can’t have one day a week working at home, as that would help a lot.

Good grief.

I get up at 6am and take a 40 minute bus ride to and from work. I get scratched most days, sometimes nipped and clients can be absolute cunts sometimes. All for minimum wage, but nonetheless I adore my job and wouldn't want to do anything else.

My other half works from home and works about 3 hours a day but earns much more than me, but I don't care because I love my job.

If you're pissed off then it's not your dream job. Plus if the men don't need make up then neither do you.