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Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son

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Behappyandbehave · 09/07/2024 22:25

I'm late 40's and have recently lost alot of weight. I have treated myself to some new bikinis for an upcoming beach holiday and some are thong styles. I did originally buy the thong ones for when me and DH go away later in the year alone. But every holiday I go on abroad there is so many people younger and older than me showing all their bums! When I was a teen it was rare, but not anymore. Just not sure I'm brave enough or if it would be a massive no with adult/teen children! Wwyd?

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CharlotteRumpling · 11/07/2024 11:40

Actually, I am going to start another thread about my concerns, because they are irrelevant to the OP and perhaps many posters. . Hoping no blokes turn up to that to tell us how much they love various women's apparel, but I guess they will.

FeelingSoOverwhelmed · 11/07/2024 11:33

Westfacing · 11/07/2024 11:29

So your mother didn't show you her arse - good for her for being considerate towards her teenage son

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Are you ok? I mean are you genuinely saying that any women who wears a revealing bikini is inconsiderate towards their kids? That seems very narrow minded. Like I said, growing up in a Latin family (but with one Scottish parent!) and having done a fair bit of travelling, I'm kind of used to being on beaches and at pools with people wearing a variety of swimwear. I mean South Americans have always worn really skimpy stuff - where do you think the Brazilian wax got it's name 🤣. I just find it disappointing that so many people are so disgusted by other people's bodies. I don't know anyone in real life who acts like this so this thread has been a surprise!

5128gap · 11/07/2024 11:31

BristolBloke · 11/07/2024 11:14

You sound very bitter. Almost jealous, even. 🤔

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Funny how we come across to others. Some might say a bloke drawn to a thread about thong bikinis getting all hot under the collar about how women should wear them sounds very 'invested'. Almost creepy, even.🤔

CharlotteRumpling · 11/07/2024 11:31

Surely you must know I am not talking about essential plastic surgery @ShallWeGoToTheFirepit? Illness is a completely different thing.

It's interesting how any woman who kicks back against the visual enjoyment of men is jealous, against the sisterhood and bitchy. And obviously this is a very complex issue and nobody knows where to draw the line, but it's disturbing that we have drawn it to mostly facilitiate men.

BristolBloke · 11/07/2024 11:30

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 11:29

As far as I can see, @BristolBloke has just said that some women can look amazing in thongs.

Many other women on here have said the same, and also disagreed. But because he's a bloke, his pov is dictated by porn.

Do you have sons? Do you tell them the same thing when they voice an opinion?

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Spot on.

Westfacing · 11/07/2024 11:29

BristolBloke · 11/07/2024 11:12

I wouldn't have given a shiny shite, whenever I was on a beach as a teenager my eyes were elsewhere.

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So your mother didn't show you her arse - good for her for being considerate towards her teenage son

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 11:29

CharlotteRumpling · 11/07/2024 10:57

Not you @ShallWeGoToTheFirepit I was talking abut @BristolBloke who is very keen to tell us what he prefers.

As far as I can see, @BristolBloke has just said that some women can look amazing in thongs.

Many other women on here have said the same, and also disagreed. But because he's a bloke, his pov is dictated by porn.

Do you have sons? Do you tell them the same thing when they voice an opinion?

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 11:27

CharlotteRumpling · 11/07/2024 10:56

Next, women who object to the lip filler trend are jealous because their husbands are looking at luscious lips. Can't be because we don't want our dds to not look like blow up dolls. Oh no, all women are either free spirited thong wearers or jealous wrinkled prudes. Nothing in between and no nuance.

Lavvvvvly dig at women there OP.

I have a bit of filler in my lips. I get them done every 2 years. Because chemotherapy destroyed my face and a little tweak here and there brought the life back in my face.

Nice to know that we all look like blow up dolls :)

What a bitchy, bitter person.

ruethewhirl · 11/07/2024 11:26

You sound very bitter. Almost jealous, even. 🤔

Have the school holidays started already?

Beezknees · 11/07/2024 11:24

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 10:31

@Westfacing

I've been to Spain this year and last. I can confirm the thong wearers were male and female. Teens to pensioners and beyond.

No one bats an eyelid apart from the gasping pearl clutchers rocking in the corner on MN.

They dress it up as 'I don't want to see arse', what they really mean is 'I dont want my partner or husband looking at a pert arse in a thong because I feel insecure.'

It's hilarious.

I don't have a partner or husband, don't care about seeing arses myself but I respect it if my DS doesn't want to see mine!

BristolBloke · 11/07/2024 11:14

CharlotteRumpling · 11/07/2024 10:56

Next, women who object to the lip filler trend are jealous because their husbands are looking at luscious lips. Can't be because we don't want our dds to not look like blow up dolls. Oh no, all women are either free spirited thong wearers or jealous wrinkled prudes. Nothing in between and no nuance.

You sound very bitter. Almost jealous, even. 🤔

BristolBloke · 11/07/2024 11:12

Westfacing · 11/07/2024 11:08

Would you have liked your mother to show you her arse when you were a teenage boy?

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I wouldn't have given a shiny shite, whenever I was on a beach as a teenager my eyes were elsewhere.

Westfacing · 11/07/2024 11:08

BristolBloke · 11/07/2024 10:42

Brilliantly put. 👏

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Would you have liked your mother to show you her arse when you were a teenage boy?

CharlotteRumpling · 11/07/2024 10:57

Not you @ShallWeGoToTheFirepit I was talking abut @BristolBloke who is very keen to tell us what he prefers.

CharlotteRumpling · 11/07/2024 10:56

Next, women who object to the lip filler trend are jealous because their husbands are looking at luscious lips. Can't be because we don't want our dds to not look like blow up dolls. Oh no, all women are either free spirited thong wearers or jealous wrinkled prudes. Nothing in between and no nuance.

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 10:55

CharlotteRumpling · 11/07/2024 10:45

Ah nice, men telling women that they feel insecure for standing up to porn culture.

Erm, I'm a 30 year old woman..

What have I said that stands up for porn culture?

CharlotteRumpling · 11/07/2024 10:45

Ah nice, men telling women that they feel insecure for standing up to porn culture.

BristolBloke · 11/07/2024 10:42

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 10:31

@Westfacing

I've been to Spain this year and last. I can confirm the thong wearers were male and female. Teens to pensioners and beyond.

No one bats an eyelid apart from the gasping pearl clutchers rocking in the corner on MN.

They dress it up as 'I don't want to see arse', what they really mean is 'I dont want my partner or husband looking at a pert arse in a thong because I feel insecure.'

It's hilarious.

Brilliantly put. 👏

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 10:31

@Westfacing

I've been to Spain this year and last. I can confirm the thong wearers were male and female. Teens to pensioners and beyond.

No one bats an eyelid apart from the gasping pearl clutchers rocking in the corner on MN.

They dress it up as 'I don't want to see arse', what they really mean is 'I dont want my partner or husband looking at a pert arse in a thong because I feel insecure.'

It's hilarious.

FeelingSoOverwhelmed · 11/07/2024 10:29

Westfacing · 11/07/2024 09:31

Very nice to have a continental take on the uptight British, but did Spanish mothers wear thongs in the presence of their teenage sons?

That was the question the OP was asking.

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Yes they do. Like I said, we're less uptight than the majority of people on this thread 🤷‍♀️

gingercat02 · 11/07/2024 09:56

Westfacing · 11/07/2024 09:31

Very nice to have a continental take on the uptight British, but did Spanish mothers wear thongs in the presence of their teenage sons?

That was the question the OP was asking.

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Across the broad selection of European mums/sisters/grans in our hotel, beaches, and water park, we have been to. Yes, they do.

Westfacing · 11/07/2024 09:31

FeelingSoOverwhelmed · 11/07/2024 08:12

I have only skim read this but oh my days, British people are so uptight and I am very glad I wasn't brought up here!
Grew up in Spain, near the beach and was very used to seeing skimpy European swimwear worn by all ages and sizes. I can't imagine getting so worked up and angry about women's bodies 🤣🤣🤣
So weird.

Very nice to have a continental take on the uptight British, but did Spanish mothers wear thongs in the presence of their teenage sons?

That was the question the OP was asking.

FeelingSoOverwhelmed · 11/07/2024 08:12

I have only skim read this but oh my days, British people are so uptight and I am very glad I wasn't brought up here!
Grew up in Spain, near the beach and was very used to seeing skimpy European swimwear worn by all ages and sizes. I can't imagine getting so worked up and angry about women's bodies 🤣🤣🤣
So weird.

thatstakingalongtimetoboil · 10/07/2024 21:28

I really don't get why you want to wear it. I understand young girls but really when you're 40 and with dh and kids just why. I don't get it.

letsgoooo · 10/07/2024 21:23

@Yousaidwhatagain

Sorry op this. Basically walking around in underwear. With your kids around that's a big No.
Errr. ALL bikinis are like basically walking around in underwear 🤷🏻‍♀️