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Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son

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Behappyandbehave · 09/07/2024 22:25

I'm late 40's and have recently lost alot of weight. I have treated myself to some new bikinis for an upcoming beach holiday and some are thong styles. I did originally buy the thong ones for when me and DH go away later in the year alone. But every holiday I go on abroad there is so many people younger and older than me showing all their bums! When I was a teen it was rare, but not anymore. Just not sure I'm brave enough or if it would be a massive no with adult/teen children! Wwyd?

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Cucumbersandwich75 · 11/07/2024 19:02

There should be a beach or swimming pool specifically for thong wearers. Large or small bums, they do not look good, one woman bent over in front of me and I was treated to her exposed bum hole, it was not a pleasant sight.

BruFord · 11/07/2024 18:54

weststreet · 11/07/2024 18:50

This thread REAKS of jealousy. Of course some women look good in thongs. Some look incredible in them with the right figure.

You can smell the jealously a mile off😂😂😂

And yes to PP saying these woman actually just don't want their husband to look at the thong wearers. That's what it will be really, deep down.

I don't think it does, @weststreet People are allowed not to like a certain fashion, aren’t they?

As I said upthread, I saw my first thong on a beach at 16. I’d have looked amazing in a thong at that age, but I didn’t like the style. My DD (19) would look amazing in one now, but she hasn’t bought one, she prefers regular bikinis. 🤷

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 18:51

Middleagedspreadisreal · 11/07/2024 18:47

They're unattractive. End of.

To you they are, they aren't to everyone.

Only4nomore · 11/07/2024 18:51

I live in a what i have heard be called a naked family. Saw my mum naked loads when I was a kid and my children the same with me. My son doesn't care if I'm in bra and pants rushing round in morning. Just a bit ah for god sakes mum.
I think it depends on the type of household you live in.
if you are in a less body confident or a non naked household they would be more shocked and embarrassed to see you in little clothing if it isn't something they are used to.
We shouldn't be ashamed of our bodies. Everyone has one we are all different.
I have worn a thong bikini he doesn't bat an eye lid and couldn't care less. I think he would cringe if he saw my mum (his nan) in one though 🤣

weststreet · 11/07/2024 18:50

This thread REAKS of jealousy. Of course some women look good in thongs. Some look incredible in them with the right figure.

You can smell the jealously a mile off😂😂😂

And yes to PP saying these woman actually just don't want their husband to look at the thong wearers. That's what it will be really, deep down.

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 18:48

'Exactly, they are made for bare arses. Chairs are not.'
@LisaD1

Well your analogy still stands, no?

You said you don't want to sit on a chair where someone's arse has been if they've worn a thong. But you'll happily sit on a toilet seat, where people are NAKED, all fine. Whether it's 'made' for bare arses or not, there are no rules and regulations to say smaller bikini wearers can't sit on chairs.

So why, from a hygiene stance, are you okay with sitting on a toilet seat, but not sharing a chair when someone would be wearing underwear?

And to PP who said they put toilet roll on the seat before hand. Have you seen how thin bogroll is in public toilets? That ain't doing shit, sorry to tell you.

MartyFunkhouser · 11/07/2024 18:48

Even the youngest and peachiest of bums look awful in a thong bikini.

My sons would think I was wearing one as a joke.

Middleagedspreadisreal · 11/07/2024 18:47

They're unattractive. End of.

Julimia · 11/07/2024 18:45

Your call entirely but imagine your teenagers may die of cringe !

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 18:45

NaneePolly · 11/07/2024 18:20

Why would you want to show your butt cheeks, it’s so crass and very vain to think anyone would want to see them.

Some people don't want a dairy lea triangle on their arse when they've been out in the sun, Polly.

croydon15 · 11/07/2024 18:33

Don't know where you go on holiday but have never seen anyone wearing them in restaurant where l go it would not be allowed they are gross anyway, certainly not classy

NaneePolly · 11/07/2024 18:20

Why would you want to show your butt cheeks, it’s so crass and very vain to think anyone would want to see them.

AnnieSnap · 11/07/2024 18:12

I wouldn’t wear a thing in front of my son.

Marine30 · 11/07/2024 18:07

Bikini yes - thong, good heavens no!

ElizaJ74 · 11/07/2024 17:56

I say wear what you want.
Teens will call you embarrassing by existing near them, so if they die of cringe RIP 😁

Nightjar33 · 11/07/2024 17:47

Horrible things look unhygienic and uncomfortable at any age
stick to nice bikinis

LisaD1 · 11/07/2024 16:42

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 13:36

So, out of interest, do you not use / share toilets? They are made for 'bare arses..'

Hilarious 😂

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Exactly, they are made for bare arses. Chairs are not.

LisaD1 · 11/07/2024 16:19

letsgoooo · 11/07/2024 15:23

You sit on a chair in swimwear without putting a towel down first? Ewwwwww have some manners.

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lol, if that’s what you take from my comment then that’s on you 😂

Allfur · 11/07/2024 16:12

DoraSpenlow · 11/07/2024 15:59

You put a layer of toilet paper between the seat and your backside, surely?

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I don't

letsgoooo · 11/07/2024 16:09

@Allfur
If you look at the white pants in the photo you can see the thingy bit. It's between the butt cheeks but not pressed up against the butt hole.

I I sat cross legged it probably would. But like all bikini pants there is periodic readjustment going on. I find all bikini pants end up in a wedgee from time to time.

letsgoooo · 11/07/2024 16:07

@Allfur

Surely it's the same result, a piece of fabric right up ones crack?
I don't know if it depends on how far under the front piece goes or the musculature or structure of the butt but mine don't really go 'right up' my arse crack. They go between my cheeks but don't press up against my butt hole.

The front piece goes down and under past all the goodies and up a little bit past the fun bits and then narrows. Then it widens further up again like in the pictures. So the narrow piece sort of somehow doesn't quite ram itself up against my butt hole.
Not sure if you know what I mean 😂

DoraSpenlow · 11/07/2024 15:59

ShallWeGoToTheFirepit · 11/07/2024 13:36

So, out of interest, do you not use / share toilets? They are made for 'bare arses..'

Hilarious 😂

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You put a layer of toilet paper between the seat and your backside, surely?

Allfur · 11/07/2024 15:32

letsgoooo · 11/07/2024 15:21

I mean as you describe, very skimpy bottoms but not an actual string. Tye lower bit is invisible. Then they go up to a high rise pant.

I wear them. I have a good arse

If someone didn't have a good arse and wanted to wear them then good for them. It's not like other bikinis are covering a whole lot more.

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Surely it's the same result, a piece of fabric right up ones crack?

letsgoooo · 11/07/2024 15:23

LisaD1 · 11/07/2024 12:50

No, just no.

nobody wants to see antibody else’s arse cheeks, least of all your teenaged son.

i certainly don’t want to have to sit on the same chair as your bare arse. Grim

You sit on a chair in swimwear without putting a towel down first? Ewwwwww have some manners.

letsgoooo · 11/07/2024 15:21

sallyal · 11/07/2024 11:47

Do you mean an actual thong though like a piece of string up your bum crack ? Or do you mean the ones that are like a little triangle the cover a bit of your bum but they aren't a full brief ? If you mean the triangle ones then yeah (I live in a hot country near the beach) I see loads of people in them. If you mean an actual thong then no I don't see many people in them i don't think they are that fashionable now tbh 🤔 it's up to you really 🤷🏻‍♀️

I mean as you describe, very skimpy bottoms but not an actual string. Tye lower bit is invisible. Then they go up to a high rise pant.

I wear them. I have a good arse

If someone didn't have a good arse and wanted to wear them then good for them. It's not like other bikinis are covering a whole lot more.

Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son
Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son