Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son

This thread has given me some good chuckles! I’m constantly tugging at my swimsuit to make sure my cheeks are properly hidden - can’t imagine how mortified I’d feel in a thong! Good for you having the body confidence. Not sure about the teenage son, you should ask him. I’m sure mine wouldn’t have noticed.

As she hasn't said otherwise I'm assuming the OP and her son are British so what happens in families 'on the continent' is moot when it comes to how embarrassed or not a teen from the UK may be. There really is no inate superiority in things done by people in other parts of Europe, or in choosing to wear a thong over not. Personally it all seems a bit emperors new clothes to me. British women you too can be as liberated, cool and progressive as your sisters on the continent! Cast off your prudery and wear this! But..but..isn't it just going round with a bare arse? Ssh. Don't tell them that.

How do you know the kids aren't internally cringing but feel there's no point saying anything because it's so normalised?

On the continent people wear what they like and kids/teens don’t bat an eyelid at their mums wearing a thong or going topless. British people, however…

Do you spend a lot of your time trying to shame women?

"Unless it's smooth and youthful" that's gross 🤢
Either everyone can wear them, or everyone can't. Don't be a disgusting ageist sleaze about it.

Do exactly what you want but not in front of your kids

I’m in Portugal right now and was shocked to see that thong bikinis are everywhere, they are definitely ‘in vogue’ here - all shapes and sizes. So it might depend where you are going. Congratulations on your weight loss and wear whatever you feel good in.

Personally I think they’re ghastly but it’s certainly not going to damage your son.

For me it's not an 'age' problem- anyone of any age can look great if they take care of themselves and know how to dress for their body. i'm sure you look gorgeous and could rock a thong bikini as well as any Love Islander!

It's more of a 'you have teenage kids' thing. If you were childfree and off for a holiday with your DH, then I'd say wear what you like. By all means wear the thongs when you go away with your husband sans teenagers later in the year.

But because you have teens my advice is to be mindful. Kids that age are mortified by your mere existence, let alone your bare bum on show. Your son might do the teenage 'I'm not with you, I'm going to sit 100 metres away so you can't shame me' and ruin the holiday vibes.(But sometimes teens do that anayway!)

A good compromise might be Brazilian-cut bottoms if you still want to show some skin- they are a little sexy and show some cheek but not the full shebang. And IMO they are far more flattering on most people.And forgiving if you need to bend down

And congrats on your weight loss- it's a slog but you've stuck to it and you deserve to feel good in your hard-won body.

Just back from Crete and there were probably 20% thongs on the beach, but only for teenagers or 20-somethings. Still not a great or very hygienic look in my opinion - and a definite no when you have teens - but I agree they seem popular. But really only for the kids......

I personally hate seeing unnecessary flesh unless it's very smooth and youthful. Middle aged man in see through white speedos at the water park last year - gross!!

Well done for your weight loss, and enjoy your thongs when only DH can see.....😁

Well done for you for making healthy choices and getting fit. My understanding of a thong is that it is bigger at the back than a string bikini and tbh on some people they look fab . Maybe buy a bigger bottom pit of kindness to teenagers but keep the thong for when they are not about and feel proud of how you have prioritised your health - cracking example for your children.

Recently back from a sunny holiday. I don't think it looks nice on anyone in public. Lots of girls walking through hotel reception in a thong, or coming down for breakfast in a thong with a see through thing over the top. It wouldn't be so bad for sunbathing, but walking around...I don't think it's nice... just go to a naturist resort and take everything off. I also personally think late 40's is a bit old to be wearing what the teens and twenty somethings are wearing.

No. Just no.

And the string scything their labia 😖urgh!

The foul language you have used in your reply makes you sound like the slapper here.

Well of course no-one wants a sleazy perv for a husband.

Wow how rude and judgemental is that reply?
Slapper? Are you 15?

Eww you're gonna look like a proper slapper prancing around in a thong, they're not even fashionable anymore and anyone who does wear them has to be under the age of 25! As for doing it in front of your teenage son, who are you trying to impress, have you no shame?

lol I think anyone with their bum hanging out the bottom of shorts is classless. I’m not ashamed of my body but hanging around on a beach with zero modesty isn’t confidence.

I wondered how many have thought about how hilarious it is that people buy skimpy stuff for big ££. Makes a lot of money. Little raw material, less to see, more profits. And people running around thinking they’re so sexy. 😂

Unfortunately they are the norm in Australia

My kids last year in Rhodes kept asking why young girls in their teens (and many women) had their bums out wearing these. I’m one of those who feels you should wear what you like if it makes you feel happy but even I was cringing when I accidentally copped eyes on the undercarriage of a meer 15 year old who was bending down to straighten a towel right in front of us. I didn’t think it was appropriate and my sons are 13 and 9 who didn’t have a clue where to look. My kids have seen a lot of me and my DH over the years been on many holidays and we aren’t prudes but this crossed a line for me as a mum because it made my kids and DH feel uncomfortable. Yes wear these things if you want to but I don’t want my family seeing your arses and flaps every time you bend over.

How tacky - bad enough young girls who don’t know better - you do! Gross!

Wear what you like and don't worry about what anyone, including your son, thinks. Enjoy your holiday xx

They're gross.