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Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son

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Behappyandbehave · 09/07/2024 22:25

I'm late 40's and have recently lost alot of weight. I have treated myself to some new bikinis for an upcoming beach holiday and some are thong styles. I did originally buy the thong ones for when me and DH go away later in the year alone. But every holiday I go on abroad there is so many people younger and older than me showing all their bums! When I was a teen it was rare, but not anymore. Just not sure I'm brave enough or if it would be a massive no with adult/teen children! Wwyd?

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BobbyBiscuits · 09/07/2024 23:12

You should wear whatever you feel comfortable in. I'd hope your teen would be respectful enough not to pass judgement on your appearance or choice of swimwear. When you've just bought them a beautiful holiday!
I personally would never wear a thong. I'm more comfortable in boy-shorts/ cycling shorts along with a bikini top. But each to their own.
I will be honest and say that the very skinny or very large don't look amazing in a thong, I'd also question it's comfort and practicality.
But as long as your happy that's all that matters!

Ineedaholidayyyy · 09/07/2024 23:12

God no, at least you have come to your senses!

Pamparam · 09/07/2024 23:11

I grew up with parents who went around naked at home, my mother would sunbathe naked most of the summer so I could never have friends over and I found it excruciatingly embarrassing as a teen!

Runnerinthenight · 09/07/2024 23:07

Just no!

HungryLittleCrocodile · 09/07/2024 23:07

pinkpillowlady · 09/07/2024 22:59

My piles are crying at the thought of a thing

EWWWWWWWWWWWW! 😂

oldwhyno · 09/07/2024 23:07

Why would you want to wear a thong bikini in front of your children? What have you got to gain?

BirthdayRainbow · 09/07/2024 23:07

No one wants to see someone else's arse. The don't look sexy. They just look gross. In front of your child even more a no.

FrancisSeaton · 09/07/2024 23:06

Nobody wants their mothers bare bottom inches away from their face- even Freud would have said fuck that mother

Charlize43 · 09/07/2024 23:05

It all sounds so thong!

Ohnobackagain · 09/07/2024 23:04

@Behappyandbehave if you have the figure for it, fine. However, probably best to avoid photos of you and DS on SM if DS’s friends will see as, no matter how great you look, the pics could be a source of a lot of teen mickey-taking and comments about you (good as well as jokey) from his friends that might mortify him.

Catnipcupcakes · 09/07/2024 23:03

Troll post?

I don’t care how slim and vital you are, if you’re late forties and have teenage DCs you 100% shouldn’t be wearing a thong on the family holiday.

You asked for opinions.

Moveoverdarlin · 09/07/2024 23:03

If you’re under 25, under 9 stone, have a nice, cellulite free, brown bum, then maybe.

LuckySantangelo35 · 09/07/2024 23:02

Janedoe82 · 09/07/2024 23:00

What would possess you! You are too old and they are tacky.

@Janedoe82

ageist.

LuckySantangelo35 · 09/07/2024 23:01

DinosaurWhizz · 09/07/2024 22:40

Late 40s is way too old for a thong bikini. The cut off is about 26. Very undignified OP. A normal bikini is fine as long as it's generously cut

@DinosaurWhizz

why are you so ageist?

women can wear whatever bikini they want - yayyyyy!!

Janedoe82 · 09/07/2024 23:00

What would possess you! You are too old and they are tacky.

Alittlebitwary · 09/07/2024 23:00

I disagree with the majority and I think thongs look awesome on a nice bum. And nice bums do come in many shapes and sizes! I wish mine was one of them and if I could pull it off / was comfortable in one, then I would do it. I can see that it might embarrass your teen, so yes maybe save it for a non family holiday - but don't be ashamed of your bum! I think good on you for being proud of your body.
I also agree with a PP that Brazilian style ones also look really nice in shape but are a little less revealing?

pinkpillowlady · 09/07/2024 22:59

My piles are crying at the thought of a thing

Menora · 09/07/2024 22:59

I really don’t think there is anything wrong with a decent bikini. Swimsuits are so annoying and uncomfortable especially go to to the loo in I don’t like them. I don’t think I have the most amazing figure but I’m not about to stop wearing a normal bikini for anyone!

CeruleanDive · 09/07/2024 22:57

Unfortunately I'd probably get arrested if I popped to the supermarket for a loaf with my own baps out.

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ThePoshUns · 09/07/2024 22:56

I've worn bikinis on holidays with my sons but there is no way I'd wear a thong in front of them. No one would feel comfortable.
Also no one looks good in them.

Humtum · 09/07/2024 22:54

Wear whatever you want. Its how you feel. My reality changed when I visited a Berlin park (and loads other places) many families are enjoying the sun in bikini's or completely nudo! It's a culture thing.

HungryLittleCrocodile · 09/07/2024 22:51

Flowery57 · 09/07/2024 22:49

This. Sorry but they just look trashy.

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This. And less than 1% of women have the body to wear them.

GoThatWay · 09/07/2024 22:51

Rewis · 09/07/2024 22:49

Seeing your parents naked at home/private space is very different from them walking around in thongs in public. Unless you let it all hang out in the town then I'll take it back 😅 op should do what she is comfortable with

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I let it all hang out when on holiday, on the beach and by the pool etc, I suppose you could say that's public in a way.
Unfortunately I'd probably get arrested if I popped to the supermarket for a loaf with my own baps out.

Flowery57 · 09/07/2024 22:49

bellamountain · 09/07/2024 22:28

I think the trend for thong bikinis is awful, whatever your figure and whether you have teenage kids to embarrass or not. They just look horrendous. Not classy.

This. Sorry but they just look trashy.

gingercat02 · 09/07/2024 22:49

I'm currently in Portugal, and literally everyone has a thong bikini 15-60yo. Not me. My arse needs all the help it can get