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Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son

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Behappyandbehave · 09/07/2024 22:25

I'm late 40's and have recently lost alot of weight. I have treated myself to some new bikinis for an upcoming beach holiday and some are thong styles. I did originally buy the thong ones for when me and DH go away later in the year alone. But every holiday I go on abroad there is so many people younger and older than me showing all their bums! When I was a teen it was rare, but not anymore. Just not sure I'm brave enough or if it would be a massive no with adult/teen children! Wwyd?

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Scorchio84 · 10/07/2024 00:25

Iaskedyouthrice · 10/07/2024 00:17

No @Scorchio84 words like grim, tacky and nasty have been used numerous times. Also lots of comments on age. Or does that not count as tearing another woman down?

Was it not just said in the abstract though, so not personally about the OP just in general, I think people are allowed to have opinions on clothing, it's not a personal attack attack on @Behappyandbehave at all

People are allowed have opinions & answer the question that was posed, many have said "wear what you like" etc so I really don't believe anyone has been tearing anyone down

poshsnobtwit · 10/07/2024 00:21

My teen/adult children would have disowned me if I wore a thong in public, let alone in their line of sight.

Firefly1987 · 10/07/2024 00:19

I wouldn't have worn a thong bikini when I was a size 8 but I admire your confidence if you really are brave enough to consider it, teenager or not. Always wondered how other women feel comfortable/confident enough to wear certain clothing (or lack of) in public. Wish I had some of that confidence!

Iaskedyouthrice · 10/07/2024 00:17

No @Scorchio84 words like grim, tacky and nasty have been used numerous times. Also lots of comments on age. Or does that not count as tearing another woman down?

Summerhols26 · 10/07/2024 00:15

For a laugh my brother (who is comical) has for years kept his kids going that he is going to buy a mankini for their hols. My niece and nephew used to scream in horror at the thought and they weren’t even teens yet!

Thong bikinis are rank on any age! On a middle aged woman - really cringe.

Scorchio84 · 10/07/2024 00:11

Iaskedyouthrice · 09/07/2024 23:56

Fucking hell the bile on this thread. Some women really hate the thought of another woman having a body to be proud of don't they?

I don't think in this case anyone is having a go at Op for wanting to wear one, it's more our own personal preferences it's the fact that her teenge son will be with her & most definitely will be embarrasssed, we've all more or less said save them for her holiday with her husband , also many posters have congtratulated her on her weightloss, so no tearing down another woman at all

Ahlovetoloveyoubaby · 10/07/2024 00:10

oakleaffy · 10/07/2024 00:03

I read that as ''Pubic hairs''...

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Talking of which…where does the hair go? If they get rid of it- how? Asking for a friend obvs.

Iaskedyouthrice · 10/07/2024 00:09

Bbq1 · 09/07/2024 22:43

Ugh. Big wobbly full arse cheeks on show - vile and nasty. Even on a size 8, exposing your entire bum will make it look huge. Eurgh, really tacky on a 20 year old but just not right on a late 40's body. Any teen boy seeing their mum like that would absolutely be disgusted and also be simultaneously so embarrassed and rightly so. Not even pleasant to be faced with on an "adults only" holiday.

Take this post for example. The language used. The insecurity just shines on through doesn't it? It was written in anger which is strange considering it's just a thread about a bikini.

oakleaffy · 10/07/2024 00:03

SwanRivers · 09/07/2024 22:31

Thongs look good on no-one.

Honestly, you could have the most perfect figure in the world but you'll be sitting and moving your barely covered arse hole all over the public chairs and sun loungers! 🤮

Not sure how your teenage son will feel, but I would've given my mum a very wide berth if she'd worn one.

I read that as ''Pubic hairs''...

lazzapazza · 10/07/2024 00:03

Would you like to watch your sons arse hanging out of a thong bikini?

Wear something a bit more appropriate around your child FFS.

Aquamarine1029 · 10/07/2024 00:02

Iaskedyouthrice · 10/07/2024 00:01

Read what I wrote again.

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Nah. It was ridiculous the first time.

YankSplaining · 10/07/2024 00:02

TheChosenTwo · 09/07/2024 23:38

I don’t know who hailey bieber is (Justin bieber’s sister?!) but I certainly wouldn’t want to her see arse on the beach!
I don’t want to see anyone’s arse on a beach tbh, I never really considered myself as a prude but maybe I am after all 😂
I once heard someone talk about thongs and what they must smell like when you take them off at the end of the day and I’ve hated even the idea of them ever since.

Hailey’s his wife - and even she doesn’t look like that picture at the moment, because she’s pregnant.

Iaskedyouthrice · 10/07/2024 00:01

Aquamarine1029 · 10/07/2024 00:00

There is a stark difference between pride and ego.

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Read what I wrote again.

MrsSkylerWhite · 10/07/2024 00:01

Iaskedyouthrice · Today 23:56
Fucking hell the bile on this thread. Some women really hate the thought of another woman having a body to be proud of don't they?

Quite proud of mine, tbh. Never felt the need to embarrass my kids when they were teens, though. Less is more.

MumblesParty · 10/07/2024 00:01

Iaskedyouthrice · 09/07/2024 23:56

Fucking hell the bile on this thread. Some women really hate the thought of another woman having a body to be proud of don't they?

No you’re missing the point. People don’t want to see other people’s naked bums in public places. It’s nothing to do with body pride.

CrikeyMajikey · 10/07/2024 00:01

It’s a no from me. They’re awful and my kids would die of embarrassment.

Aquamarine1029 · 10/07/2024 00:00

Iaskedyouthrice · 09/07/2024 23:56

Fucking hell the bile on this thread. Some women really hate the thought of another woman having a body to be proud of don't they?

There is a stark difference between pride and ego.

liveforsummer · 10/07/2024 00:00

I am no prude having lived and worked many years, and had both my DC while living in ayia napa. Even I'd draw the line at thong bikinis around dc old enough to notice though ESPECIALLY teenagers, and mine are girls- probably worse of you have boys!

SwanRivers · 10/07/2024 00:00

Iaskedyouthrice · 09/07/2024 23:56

Fucking hell the bile on this thread. Some women really hate the thought of another woman having a body to be proud of don't they?

Yeah maybe, I dunno.

But there's been no sign of it on this thread has there?

I mean most people have said they look awful on anyone (personal opinion) but go for it if she wants to 🤷‍♀️

Given the way most people on MN feel about not wearing shoes in the house, they're not going to be welcome arse holes rubbed along chairs, are they? 😂

RosyappleA · 09/07/2024 23:59

I can just about handle it when women wear shorts and parts of their bum cheeks hang out at the bottom with all the cellulite under them. I do wish I was a more confident dresser though but rather keep it classy at the same time.

Iaskedyouthrice · 09/07/2024 23:56

Fucking hell the bile on this thread. Some women really hate the thought of another woman having a body to be proud of don't they?

xsquared · 09/07/2024 23:54

I've put YABU because your teen will disown you if you wear a thong bikini in front of him, and thong bikinis do not suit anyone, no matter how peachy their butt is.

CarpetSlipper · 09/07/2024 23:54

If you want to wear one then wear it! My teenager doesn’t care what I wear, I probably wouldn’t choose to have my arse out in front of him but I really don’t think he’d be bothered if I did.

SwanRivers · 09/07/2024 23:54

Sockmate123 · 09/07/2024 23:47

No I wouldn't wear no matter my age or body type. Currently on holiday, 2 young girls with great bodies wearing at the pool and they still looked horrendous. After sitting down for a while when they walk around the bum cheeks are red and blotchy like they've just been slapped! Awful awful. Another girl had one on and hair poking out. They are just nasty! 🤢

After sitting down for a while when they walk around the bum cheeks are red and blotchy like they've just been slapped!

Oh God yes I forgot about that!

When they've been sitting on the edge of their sun lounger and their arse looks like a map of the underground 😁

ISeriouslyDoubtIt · 09/07/2024 23:51

LuckySantangelo35 · 09/07/2024 23:01

@DinosaurWhizz

why are you so ageist?

women can wear whatever bikini they want - yayyyyy!!

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Yes they can. But they can't stop other people looking and thinking how awful they look.

Thong bikinis look terrible whatever age you are. Last year on a UK beach there were some teenage/early twenties young women wearing them but as it was a bit cold they had loose longish t shirts over the top. As they walked along with their arse cheeks hanging out it looked exactly like they'd forgotten to put their knickers on.