Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son

You don't just wake up at 40 looking 80. Not that you can't wear a bikini at 80 either

This is making me chuckle- I didnt realise that on the stroke of midnight on your 40th birthday you suddenly turn into the crypt keeper 😂

I wouldn't care about it being around my son I just hate them, I think they are gross and even when I see them on someone with a gorgeous body I hate them, I just don't want to imagine the string rubbing someone's asshole. I also don't want to see someone's ass.

Well, exactly, I agree, if you like it enough to buy it, then wear it. It's nothing to do with anyone else.

I'm 48, Madonna is old enough to be my mother.

You don't just wake up at 40 looking 80. Not that you can't wear a bikini at 80 either.

What dreadful misogynistic and ageist comments.

It's a big no from me.

Sounds like a good plan. Well done you for working hard to get into shape and for having confidence in your body. It really is a breath of fresh air to actually hear a woman talking positively about her body.

I'd love to know why so much of society has decided that you can only look good if you're virtually naked.

Why is a normal bikini brief not overtly sexual and a thong is?

Nope.
Even the most toned buttocks look faintly ridiculous.
They should be consigned to the annals of naff fashion!

Don't do it, to your son, or yourself.

Oh come off it. Nobody has a 'good body' after 40. Nature sees to that. Connective tissue and collegen are decreasing, few bits are tight

This is utter garbage. Plenty of people have great figures over 40 and plenty of people under 40 are really out of shape.

Do as you please, no one actually cares about the way we look but us!

Thongs look good on no-one

This lol, even Giselle would look dodgy in a thong, they are so deeply unflattering, and they also remind me of Peter Stringfellow.

A normal style bikini is fine. I wear those and have teenagers.

Oh, it certainly hasn't. But it is not the same as it was.
That applies to everyone, so put away your magis mirrors and face the truth

I mean how thong are we talking here? I think lots of people have ditched the big cover the whole bum nappy style and have ones that kind of skim across half the bum cheek - quite flattering. Or are we talking proper up your arse thing? That would be a no from me!

I think you can wear what you want, but my tip would be to put it on and video yourself from behind walking, jumping, bending over to do up your sandal etc, and then make a decision.

Standing still with everything clenched may look very different to how it actually looks in motion.

If you're still happy it looks good after that test, my hat is off to you, and have a great time star-jumping and cart-wheeling down the beach!

I’m not saying that at all. Have you never been unsure about an item of clothing and asked for someone else’s opinion? The OP wasn’t sure what her adult/teen children would think, so why not show them what you have bought and see what they say. So many people ask MN the question instead of asking the actual person. Personally if I liked it enough to have bought it I’d wear it.

Put it on and ak your teenage son and get his opinion.

@Sondheimisademigod Nobody has a good body after 40? What?

Your body might have gone to shit. Doesn't mean everyone elses has🤣

In that case, I'm quite happy to be classless. Seems a much nicer, more relaxing existence, than having to be so vile and judgemental about other women's bodies and clothing choices.

Well done you
Boasting is not an attractive trait

It's not about looking good vs not looking good.

It's about the sexualisation of bodies. Thongs are an overtly sexual item of clothing.

It's fine to show skin, but thongs just highlight that naked bodies = sex. That's literally what they were designed for, and that's why they are not particularly suitable to wear on holiday in front of your teenage son.

Being nude in an appropriate, non-sexualised context would be better than wearing a thong.

Shouldn't we be trying to teach the next generation that bodies don't always have to be sexualised?

Oh god, imagine being classless! The horror!

That 'DH would love it' extra reinforces 'not in front of your son'.

You don't look hot for your husband in front of your DC.

Seriously? You'd let your son decide what you wear? And how would you feel in future when he thinks he has a right to tell his partner what to wear?

Great lesson to teach him 🤦

Oh come off it. Nobody has a 'good body' after 40. Nature sees to that. Connective tissue and collegen are decreasing, few bits are tight.
Madonna still looks ridiculous, despite her 'toned' body.
People are not spouting bile; they are showing that they have class, whereas those who think it's ok for any middle-aged body to be on display in public, clearly are demonstrating they don't. Because class means you consider the effects of your actions on others. So thise who think they can do or say what they want, when they want, are entirely classless