Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son

Going against the grain here: Wear the thong! Or wear whatever you like. It’s your body.

People will judge (as is made abundantly clear in this thread). Let them.

Teenagers are likely to feel embarrassed about pretty much whatever you do. Let them.

It’s not your job to regulate other people’s feelings.

You’ll be showing your teen that you are strong minded, sure of yourself and body confident. These are great qualities to embody and role model.

It’s OK to feel attractive and to be a mother. The two are not mutually exclusive.

And, as an aside, just return from SE Asia where the vast majority of people of all ages were wearing thongs. Most people just don’t care (unlike on MN!!)

He did. My childhood was.....different 😂

The Love Island women are chosen for the programme because they look a certain way ( and are all early 20s and undamaged by the ravages of pregnancy). Sadly in real life the women wearing thong bikinis and those scrunch bum leggings tend to have the flat, dropped bum of normal people. That never looks quite so good in a ' LOOK AT MY BUUUUUUM' kind of way.

Wow, this thread is nasty.
So glad I spent most of my youth experiencing other cultures & didn't get so hung up on the cut of a bikini.
What would all these people say if a man was making these comments about his partner?
Everyone bring so judgemental, critical etc. seriously
Wear what you feel comfortable in, wear what makes you feel good, enjoy feeling good about yourself

Your dad made his own pants? 😂

My boys would scream murder if I put a thong on. Seriously can't you just take pride on your own and not go flaunting your bum. I get quite disgusted with seeing all those bums out and I think Im not the only one. It screams "look at me" and at 40 I think you should have passed that stage. And I'm not jeallous, I "could" get away with wearing one as I'm fit but I would not want to 1. Embarass my children 2. Having men looking at my bum 3. Making other people uncomfortable who might not fancy seeing a bum while eating their ice cream.

My parents did this in front of me and my 2 younger brothers well into our teens in the 70s. Believe me the ' cool with our bodies' thing is not having the effect you think it is. My father used to walk around the garden in the tiniest pants he could . He made them himself because he couldn't buy them in the shops.He had a sunbathing-naked area in the garden. We used to shout loudly that we were coming into the garden so he'd cover his genitals. It's the same as when you realise your forty-something parents are having sex. They're just things that teens don't want to know or see.

My mum went topless every family holiday as did most people in the med where we holidayed.

We survived including my teen brother.

Obviously your DS has the choice to take himself elsewhere if he's uncomfortable but it's your body.

I agree with this. It comes directly from porn culture. Why on earth take your inspiration from that?

I don't even think Hailey Bieber looks good in a thong, as posted upthread. I just don't like the look. It's very, very naff.

So erudite

Totally inappropriate around your son
Save the bikinis for holidays without your son as mine would literally die of embarrassment

I’m in holiday at the moment with my two teen sons 17 and 19. They both just looked confused and says they couldn’t care less. That said, at 50 I wouldn’t wear one anyway and the only people wearing them here are the early 20s Russians.

Definitely a no from me. But I think it’s nice to keep some things private and special for your partner and not show everyone at the beach / hotel.

Loving the comments on thongs, so funny!

😂

What a crock of shit.

Well done on the weight loss.

I am sure you have a great bum. Do your teens really need to see it though?

Why not just ask them? I wouldn’t wear this but if I did I might chat to my teens. But we are very close and open about stuff.

Oops! I misread "annals" ! 😇😊

As a teenage girl I would have been mortified to see my mum prancing around in a thong 😂 Forget the fact he’s a boy, it’s a thong!! Leave it until it’s just you and DH.

God people are so uptight on here.

It's the beach.... it's hot. You wear as little as possible to be comfortable. Full swimming costumes sticking to your wet stomach or bum is uncomfortable. The beach is the perfect place to wear a thong.

They are fine for whatever age. I like by the sea and the majority of people wear thong bikini from 20s to much, much older.

I've never seen the point in thong anything, well having said that I think some call flip flop type footwear thongs, but to me no one's arse crack needs flossing.

Thongs look horrible on everyone. I don't wish to see anybody's bum cheeks on full display on the beach or round the pool, even if they are young, pert and brown. It's just not nice.

I think it's less about what you look like and more about the message it gives off. To me a thong bikini says 'I feel confident and sexy '. I don't think any teen would want to be privy to that from their mum??

Sorry OP its a firm no. My 13yo wouldn't bat an eyelid in the house, but out in public he'd just die of humiliation and probably refuse to be seen with me. That aside, they are very 1980's ( I'm older than you) and incredibly naff and try hard. Also cause thrush, in holiday conditions.