Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son

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yeah until they want you to buy them something.

LOL!!! if he isn’t going to see the bikini on you, he’s going to see it on someone else. And chances are, he’s already seen it all.

better to have a pretty sexy mum than the one who isn’t comfortable in her body 😏

What a grim view, so only young women should be showing their arse cheeks... yuck.
No-one should wear them, they are unhygienic. You don't see men in them.

I think there is a point when you wearing so little you really ought to choose a naturist beach. Wearing a thong in public is indecent - no one wants to see someone elses arsehole whilst they are on the beach.

On a recent holiday people were wearing bikinis that left nothing barely covered and then they wrapped themselves in a towel to cover up and got changed 🤣 bearing in mind that apart from a few bits of string everyone on the beach had seen it already!!

Wow some of the replies on this post are awful!

Realistically, inciting a bunch of strangers to spew out their opinions on what other people (specifically women) wear doesn't really answer the question.

Ask your son what he thinks, then you have your answer!

I wear a thong every day of my life, and pretty small bikinis when I'm on holiday. My children have never said a word about it. None of their bloody business!

Hahaha!! I just choked on my tea!! This in spades...brilliantly put 🤣🤣🤣

But why would you PURPOSELY do it? I think it's a really immature mindset to say fuck it I'll do what I want and never mind what my child thinks.

Well, too bad teenagers are easily embarassed by everything their parents do, so one might just choose themselves as well. They'll be judged - by their kids or society - either way.

I don’t want to see men in them either (or those things Borat wears). It’s not sexist to not want to see anyone’s arse in public.

I do agree though that’s it’s nearly always women who want everything on show and not men. This goes for pop stars too. Why?

This, 100%. Why aren’t men wearing this crap?

Get one for your DH too, for your ‘grown up’ holiday

Same here, my parents thought it was perfectly acceptable, they would have said I was fine with it, I wasn't, I wasn't given the choice. I was very aware that my friends parents didn't walk around naked.
That was back in the 1960-70's even now I cringe at the thought of it.

It's not "people" wearing them though. It's Women. I personally think they look awful but if you want to wear one go ahead. I'm not "shaming other women" or "pulling them down" but I am for equality. People can only buy what's available to them, unless they can make their own beachwear. My point is, why aren't these thongs designed and produced for men? they must be desperate to wear them too.

I am beginning to be very suspicious of this neo-liberal Western mindset that women showing as much of their bodies as possible is women's empowerment. If so, why are the men not doing it? Why is Kanye West wearing huge baggy clothes while dragging his wife around in a thong?

Thong bikinis are really tacky - why would you want your arse cheeks on display? Your son will be so embarrassed ... or pop a boner. Don't do it.

The OP isn't wearing the thong because she's a strong minded woman though, is she? She's wearing it because her weight loss has achieved a body that she believes makes it acceptable and makes her sexually appealing. If she was confident and body positive she'd have been wearing whatever she liked fat or thin, and would likely make her choice based on comfort and what she liked to look at. I mean, without a two way mirror she won't even benefit from the sight of her own bare arse. It's quite clearly a look designed for the spectator not the wearer.

Not that there's anything wrong in women showing off their bodies if they choose, but its a bit daft to try and frame it as an act of empowerment. I'm sure her sons would survive the embarrassment but pretending it's in their interests because she's role modelling something positive is a big stretch. As is the thinking that because we're not responsible for the feelings of others we have a green light to show them no consideration.

Hahaha, sorry, the teen thing made me laugh!

Looking attractive and wearing a thong are mutually exclusive in my view.

Hate this fashion. Dh and I anc have this issue but in reverse. I was internally judging a woman wearing one on holiday last year thinking it must be an Italian thing them lo and behold then my own two teens walk out wearing if anything even worse bikinis. Roll on the end of the bum emphasising fashion

Gross. No one wants to see that much of a 40 odd year old.

This. It's not fair. If you are asking the question, why are you even considering it? Why does you showing off your body to a bunch of strangers trump how your kids feel?

Save the thong for the other holiday and grab a cheap one with more coverage.

I wouldn´t wear a thong bikini full stop. Not even as a teen. Don´t wear thong underwear either, never have. Massively uncomfortable.

If it was completely normal to wear a tutu to a wedding then this analogy might work, but it doesn't because no-one wears a tutu to a wedding, but plenty of people wear bikinis on the beach and it shouldn't be age or body shape dependent.

You can be both at once, but there's a time and a place.

I wouldn't purposely embarrass my child in the name of "body confidence" I think that's quite dismissive and selfish.

The class comments? 😁 the nastiest replies do not contain one speck of class so we will just bob that to one side.
The 'nobody has a good body after 40'? Women who look after themselves do. Women who naturally have good bodies do and there's lots of them around.
Thats by the by though because even if all of that were true... and? This is the difference between people who are insecure as well as judgemental and people that aren't. It just would not occur to me to worry about what ANYONE thought of me when I'm by a pool or on a beach. Its hot, I will be in and out of the water so I wear a bikini or a one piece, whatever i fancy. That's it. I can't imagine how awful it must be to be so self conscious that it makes you uncomfortable, even on holiday, but the answer isn't slating other women who don't care (not you but a lot of the replies on here).
Have you never been on a beach in another country and seen women of all ages and sizes from said country not giving a shit? It's a lovely thing.
Oh and I wouldn't personally wear a thong bikini, I don't wear thongs. My underwear comes to my belly button these days, so comfy. I just do not take it personally that another woman does choose to wear a thong bikini, go topless or whatever as long as the vajajay is covered. That's my line in the sand.