Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son

Where on earth are you going on holiday that the vast majority are wearing a thong? Nobody wants to see your arse, least of all your teenage son

OP wear the thing bikini! I am with you, I think they look great on a lot of people! even a bikini that isnt a thong bikini can show some butt cheeks so Its not so outrageous as people are making out on here!!

Wow, that's some serious 'bum' phobia you've got going on there!

I suspect most people pulling you down over this have issues with themselves and are projecting.

Bit of an assumption there.

Most people I suspect are just truthfully answering a post put out there on the Internet by a person asking for their opinions on thongs.

I broadly agree with you @5128gap. A choice based on comfort and personal aesthetics is ideal. Fat or thin, young or old, whatever demographic we fit in, It’d be wonderful if we just chose whatever we like to wear. (Capitalist directives aside)

my post was an attempt to encourage the op to feel more confident in herself, no matter her size, age or shape.

And, in part, it was a response to the onslaught of comments along the lines of: as a woman in your 40s you’re “too old, too sexualised, not feminist enough, not considerate of others feelings, not a good enough mother, too fat, too thin, too much cellulite, too…....” to wear a thong.

it’s tiring enough being a woman in late stage capitalism. I prefer to support other people to make choices that feel right for them.

And I hear what you’re saying about her son’s response and take your point. Yet i do believe that if we embody a positive, body confident position, it will benefit our children in the long run.

I agree! A bum is just another part of our body and it makes no difference if a bit of it is showing or a lot.

I have seen overweight women wearing a standard fit swimsuit or bikini bottom (as opposed to thong) and their big bottom is hanging out of it. I don't judge them and I am not offended by the sight of the buttocks so i am not going to judge someone slim showing a bit of their bottom either.

I find it sad that men are not encouraged to wear Borat style string bikinis to show they haven't lost themselves to fatherhood

This! Men lazing around in comfortable shorts with their pink hairy belly out and a beer in hand is what true empowerment looks like.

Username checks out.

Surely you see the difference between an adult male trying to control what his female partner wears, with all the connotations of ownership that implies, and consideration for what might be appropriate boundaries between parents and child, and a desire to spare your child embarrassment? As for identity outside of motherhood, surely most women have that through their work, interests, friendships, contributions to society? It really doesn't hinge on whether or not you display your newly dieted arse in front of your son. That could hardly be more reductive.

Would you consider it appropriate for your husband to have his arse fully out too?

Sorry, mankinis!

I find it sad that men are not encouraged to wear Borat style string bikinis to show they haven't lost themselves to fatherhood, or to prove how confident they are., or to show their wives that they are their own man, or to not let their kids dictate what they wear...

Why is that, I wonder?

Go for it!
Your teenagers will be mortified - but at their age all parents are embarassing!

Would you normally show your arse to your children ? If not why start now. Leave the thongs in the shop, nobody wants to see anyone's arse hanging out a scrap of material.

Wearing a thong in front of your teen lad does not prove that you haven’t “lost yourself to
motherhood “ that’s a slightly tragic view!

A string bikini, yes. A thong, no.

I'm surprised how strongly anti thong this thread largely is. It feels a bit... shamey?

I find it sad that on a website where, usually, women encourage each other to not lose their whole identity to motherhood, or to assert themselves if their husbands were to dictate what they wore, will then say "don't wear the bikini you want to because your kids will cringe". It's a weird double standard.

Wear what you're comfortable and confident in.

Up to you but is there a good reason why you need a bum tan?.
I have a 15 year old DS and I doubt he sees me as a woman with woman bits and his older sister has certainly worn a Brazilian bikini on holiday and he didn't seem too bothered, apart from when it got attention from men.
Men leering at his sister upsets him

How close are you getting to these people to stare at their bums? That's more weird than wearing the bikini.

I'm not prudish at all. But I wouldn't tell my DS to "get over himself" for not wanting to see my arse cheeks. I don't particularly want to see his either!

This.

Exactly this.

It's crazy to me that this is the part of the story that you chose to focus on.
Your friend potentially saved a life. Normal people around her will certainly not have been thinking about her swim wear, but rather worried for the Ill person and thankful that your friend was there will the skill and courage to act. SURELY!?!

I agree with this - I hate a thong as find them very uncomfortable anyway - but the Brazilian cut shows just enough 'cheek' yet still covers the bits no one needs to see.

Wow, there are some really prudish people on here.
I don’t think a child or a teenager should dictate what their parents wear, they can just get over themselves.
All the people up in arms about buttocks on show, what is actually wrong or dirty about buttocks? If you don’t want to see it, then don’t look. There is nothing dirty, disgusting or whatever about buttocks. They are just a body part. People wear thong bikinis it is good to expose the skin to sun and air. There is nothing sexual or exhibitionist about it. If you don’t get this, you need to get out more and see people all over the world in all sizes and of all ages enjoying their time on the beach. No one bats an eyelid at a thong bikini.