Wearing a skimpy bikini around teenage son

Surely @LuckySantangelo35 wearing trendy clothes is very different from hte hypersexualisation of thongs, not least because men also do it.
Just like wearing lipstick is very different from getting massive lip fillers, because women now have to look like porn stars.to be empowered.

So where do you draw the line then when it comes to making your kids opinion centre and not embarrassing them?

so if you like wearing trendy clothes for example but your teen finds this embarrassing should you then start shopping in M&S Per Una in order to appease them?

Well done on your weight loss! I have 3 teenagers, 2 dds and 1 ds. All of them would be mortified if I wore a thong or went topless on a beach. You can still look amazing in a normal bikini without upsetting and embarrassing your kids. Save the thongs for your holiday with your dh if you really want to wear them.

Why do we need men to do it? I don't get this at all. Oh well if men are doing it it must be a good idea. There are lots of things men don't do that women do, and it doesn't make them any less valid?

Are you a naturist family?

Covering yourself head to toe "as per some religions" or wearing a thong are not the only two choices.

I suppose one could draw the line at a "woman's choice." But our choices are framed by society. And as a mum of a DD, I am fed up that she gets respect for showing off her body parts, and her brother gets respect for his achievements.

The OP is not a poster child for body positivity. She is not a woman who has decided to throw off the chains of oppression and wear whatever she feels comfortable in. She's a woman who has achieved a body she is proud of because it now falls within the range of what she believes is acceptable to society and will be pleasing to men.
And fair enough. We did not create the world we live in or set these standards. We simply each navigate it the best we can. And if OP is happy now she has a body that looks good in a thong bikini, I don't begrudge her that, its a simple pleasure.
But the question she has asked is whether wearing it will embarrass her son. The answer is, quite possibly, but only he, not MN can tell her for sure. The second question is, should that effect her decision. Personally I think it should as my sons comfort would take priority over any pleasure I got in showing off my body, as being admired and looking good is a very small part of life and my enjoyment of a family holiday would be very little impacted by whether random men liked the look of my body or not.

And I guess the point is this is thread concerns a mother not being sure about wearing a bikini around her son. Not about her other achievements.

Wearing revealing clothes is pandering to male gaze disguised as freedom & liberation. It really isn't, it's another misogynistic scam women So, are you going to detail how revealing is too revealing? If I wear a vest top with spaghetti straps am I just falling for the misogynistic scam. Should I cover myself head to toe as per some religions? Would that be more freeing?

By the way, I am a mum, a friend, a partner, I work in the third-sector campaigning for human rights and all of those form part of my identity. I wear an itsty bitsy bikini on holiday and it doesn't feel like anything to do with my identity. It's easy to get on and off when I go to the toilet and I love the feeling of wearing hardly anything on holiday.

Fails the “are the men doing it”test. If middle aged dads are getting their arses out to prove they are “their own person” then I’m listening…

I partially agree.

I do campaign for a change in the law (around creating a fairer CJS for victims of violence)
I have my own business and am on the path to a PhD. I have raised two (now adult) children, largely on my own. I am very proud of these achievements.

AND I will also wear whatever I please. And choose to wear not much at all on a beach, as often as I can. I care not a jot about my cellulite and dimples. I applaud others who do the same.

my adult children were once embarrassed teenagers. And now they are my biggest champions: “Mum I love your wrinkles” “your stretch marks look like tiger stripes, they’re cool” are two of their comments that some to mind.

@ghostlyliving finally the voice of reason. Thank you. Wearing revealing clothes is pandering to male gaze disguised as freedom & liberation. It really isn't, it's another misogynistic scam women have been brainwashed into believing.

Its the same narrative that Strippers are strong indpendent women who are making money by taking advantage of stupid men
Utter bollocks

I find it really sad that our culture has convinced women that showing arse in public is a sign of being your own person, being independent and being an accomplished achiever.

How about reframing ' not losing yourself to Motherhood' as less about your arse and more about having your own achievements and accomplishments outside the family? You know, like inventing something, creating something, campaigning for a change in the law, organising to help people affected by disadvantage or discrimination, starting a local community group, becoming an MP, starting your own business, becoming a competitive power lifter?

I'd much rather support women to do any of that than support them to take up an arse revealing fashion inspired by anal sex scenes on misogynistic internet porn.

Probably thought glad someone could save the persons life 🙈

Also, how can you be scarred by an image you have never seen (you stated you weren’t there ?)

My mum just wore a thong bikini bottom in France and Spain in the 90s. My brother and I have seen her boobs daily for the whole of our childhood so wasn't really a problem for us 😂

The thing is these are both things but very different so are we thinking this

https://www.prettylittlething.com/candy-pink-mix-match-string-thong-bikini-bottoms.html?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=google_shopping&utm_content=uk&utm_term=product_target&istCompanyId=3b233929-048d-4b79-a672-b37827e7282d&istFeedId=995a7449-4b91-4f81-8010-f9c5da786479&istItemId=rltpirtpx&istBid=t&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw4ri0BhAvEiwA8oo6Fz6wyGPXkyVddp50Jv1IimVh-YRvIpT2J8KuCCRUQ9EvOh7ob0h2FBoCalQQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Or are we thinking this

https://www.boohoo.com/high-waist-thong-bikini-/HZZ00390-105-18.html?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw4ri0BhAvEiwA8oo6F9MATR2VZf4H8Ce4g15h15TatBDIdV6S1uBWYbQ-WUCz-SwyZGSrlxoCzZwQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Because they're both thongs but I'd not wear the first set but I probably would wear the second. The second is what I very often see. The first not so much.

Yes I totally agree that women have much more choice generally, and it’s a lot easier to look smart in warm weather with women’s clothes. But men’s clothing is usually more comfortable and doesn’t require extensive hair removal (would anyone wear a thong bikini with a full bush I wonder?) and is usually more forgiving and flattering.

See how horrified men are if they have to wear skimpy clothes, I’ve seen loads of threads about them having to wear Speedos in French swimming pools. Aren’t the standard women’s bikini bottoms just as revealing? Obviously nobody has to wear the skimpy bikini bottoms, but they are the easiest to find in shops IME.

On a related note about men’s stuff being less of a faff, see also hygiene products aimed at men, it’s all 5-in-1 shower gels whereas if women listened to the ads they’d buy about 3 different products just for hair.

Wear what you like on the beach
To Asda? No.

Don't do it

Don't be ridiculous.

You sound like you need a lie down.

It's only women who are pearl clutching over a pair of thongs.

'No one ever looks good in thongs'

Many MANY people, including a lot of men, would whole heartedly disagree.

If you don't feel like you have the figure to pull a thong off, that's fine. But that doesn't mean every other person would also look 'awful' as some would suggest.

I recently went to Majorca and there were plenty of 20-40 year old women wearing a thong bikini. They looked great. Including myself. I don't get a huge white dairylea triangle on my arse from wearing big full briefs in the sun. Plus I have a toned, nice behind that I've worked hard for, so I don't care to hide it away.

It's an arse. Everyone's got one. Has no one on this thread worn a thong in the bedroom for a spicy night with their partner?

If anyone says 'that's different' well not according to 99% of posters on here, as thongs apparently look awful on everyone. So that would apply to the bedroom.

This place gets weirder each day.

Absolute mega mega cringe. Save it for when you're not with your kids. My six year old would find this cringe let alone a teenager.

..... most of Europe?

I think the rest of Europe don't have the same fear of bum cheeks like the English apparently do according to this thread!

In regards to thrush, it's no different to wearing a thong for underwear. Normal thongs don't cause thrush?

As per the boots website, it says there is no evidence to suggest that things are bad for any reason.

So much hysteria over a type of underwear on this thread.