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Some People In Prison Shouldn’t Be Allowed Visitors.

141 replies

Molone · 09/07/2024 20:42

Tonight I read the horrific story of a baby and his aunt being killed in a drink/driving incident.
Today the driver was sentenced to 17 years. While he will still be allowed to see his family weekly for visits, this poor mother will never hold her baby or see her sister again. What happened to them was horrific.

Why should he be allowed to see his loved ones when he has deprived her of the same? He should be locked up to serve his sentence alone and so should all the other killers of a similar nature.

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Crispysheets · 09/07/2024 21:04

Reugny · 09/07/2024 20:57

They need to know where their parent has gone.

They are screwed up enough with their parent suddenly leaving and depending on their age, conversations over their head about what has been happening. They also need to know why lots of people are avoiding them while a minority are being extra nice to them.

They will end up even more screwed up with a parent like that remaining in their lives.
People go No contact with family for far less.

TonTonMacoute · 09/07/2024 21:03

From what I read the only person who will be visiting that low life in prison will be his wife's divorce lawyer.

Lavender14 · 09/07/2024 21:03

Yabu. Their family may still want to see them - why shouldn't they be able to. They haven't done anything wrong and they deserve the choice to continue a relationship with the person in prison or not. Plus as others have stated there is still a duty of care to prisoners and connection with family etc is important for mental health but also for building good networks for successful rehabilitation if they are getting out eventually and reducing the risk of reoffending.

NeomDiffuser · 09/07/2024 21:03

FastFood · 09/07/2024 20:45

Because his loved ones are not responsible for what happened and they may want to see him as well.
And prisons are not going to get any better if inmates are treated like animals.

He is an animal

Lifeisamysterytome · 09/07/2024 21:00

I was reading this story earlier today. It's not often I'm moved to tears by a news story but this made me cry . Beautiful beautiful wee baby that his mum had to pick up dead from the side of the road. And his aunt had every bone in her body broken.

The driver showed no remorse.

It said he was returning from a holiday when the accident happened and that his wife actually left him when they were on holiday. She returned home earlier because of his behaviour. So with any luck no body will want to visit him in prison anyway.

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 09/07/2024 20:59

Probably stops a lot of them killing themselves

Reugny · 09/07/2024 20:57

Crispysheets · 09/07/2024 20:53

Kids benefit from seeing criminals in prison……why? …... because they are great role models for the next generation?? I don’t believe kids benefit from visiting prisons.

Also the families of the victims are punished every single day of their lives. They really haven’t done anything wrong.

They need to know where their parent has gone.

They are screwed up enough with their parent suddenly leaving and depending on their age, conversations over their head about what has been happening. They also need to know why lots of people are avoiding them while a minority are being extra nice to them.

OhHelloMiss · 09/07/2024 20:55

Yes kids do benefit

It's their dad and they still love him. There may be restrictions, depends on the crime.

Julyshouldbesunny · 09/07/2024 20:54

Surely better he has reminders of what he is missing?

Crispysheets · 09/07/2024 20:53

OhHelloMiss · 09/07/2024 20:45

Also,.....the visits are very much for the family left to pick up the pieces. Kids benefit from seeing their dads at visits....elderly family etc

Families don't deserve punishment

Kids benefit from seeing criminals in prison……why? …... because they are great role models for the next generation?? I don’t believe kids benefit from visiting prisons.

Also the families of the victims are punished every single day of their lives. They really haven’t done anything wrong.

pointythings · 09/07/2024 20:53

We don't punish the relatives of people who commit crimes is why.

OhHelloMiss · 09/07/2024 20:45

Also,.....the visits are very much for the family left to pick up the pieces. Kids benefit from seeing their dads at visits....elderly family etc

Families don't deserve punishment

FastFood · 09/07/2024 20:45

Because his loved ones are not responsible for what happened and they may want to see him as well.
And prisons are not going to get any better if inmates are treated like animals.

OhHelloMiss · 09/07/2024 20:44

No you are wrong

Sorry but patrolling the landings is dangerous enough.... depriving someone of their rights will only create more tension

Happy to have more staff assaults are you?

TowerRavenSeven · 09/07/2024 20:44

Yabu. Two wrongs do not make a right.

combinationpadlock · 09/07/2024 20:44

well, he wont be allowed weekly visits, and he will one day come out, and if you treat him as an animal, he will behave like one