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Some People In Prison Shouldn’t Be Allowed Visitors.

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Molone · 09/07/2024 20:42

Tonight I read the horrific story of a baby and his aunt being killed in a drink/driving incident.
Today the driver was sentenced to 17 years. While he will still be allowed to see his family weekly for visits, this poor mother will never hold her baby or see her sister again. What happened to them was horrific.

Why should he be allowed to see his loved ones when he has deprived her of the same? He should be locked up to serve his sentence alone and so should all the other killers of a similar nature.

OP posts:
OhHelloMiss · 09/07/2024 23:33

There are 'privileges' and their are 'rights'

2 different things

Crispysheets · 09/07/2024 23:23

VotesForWomen · 09/07/2024 22:57

I look forward to you recruiting to fill the gap that the remaining prison officers leaving would make because conditions have got so bad. And then working out what to do with the consequences of even more dangerously understaffed prisons. Likewise you'll be able to the fill the places left by the education teams and everybody else who tried to rehabilitate prisoners but can't do their jobs because the prisoners have lost everything that will motivate them. On ever reducing budgets of course. And when you've finished that, perhaps you'll address the CAMHS of the little girl whose daddy went to prison and was never seen again.

If removal of privileges would create that much carnage (and I’m sure you are correct in thinking that), then all it proves is the prisoners are beyond help and rehabilitation and do not belong in society.
They shouldn’t do the crime if they can’t do the time. And that time should never have included privileges for serious crimes like murder. But they expect an easy ride in prisons these days.

user1471505494 · 09/07/2024 23:23

Crispysheets · 09/07/2024 22:48

Taking that point of view though, neither is the prison sentence going to help the victims family.
Its about justice for me, and yes, that means punishment. And a scumbag who has killed innocent people having any privileges in prison (including visitors) is not justice in my eyes.
I know by the law of the land it is, but it’s why I would never be able to work as a lawyer. The punishments in this country never seem to fit the crime.

You obviously have justice and vengeance muddled up

user1471505494 · 09/07/2024 23:20

Crispysheets · 09/07/2024 21:55

Yes

I can’t believe how judgmental you are with no evidence to back such a ridiculous statement

catin8oots · 09/07/2024 23:18

Fuck me this place gets more Daily Mail by the minute.

Rainfallrain · 09/07/2024 23:12

He was driving at 141mph!
The only mistakes I make are things like burning the toast and forgetting to lock my car not drink driving!
I wouldn’t be visiting him in prison if I was a family member!
I doubt he will be rehabilitated, he doesn’t seem to feel guilty. Probably feels sorry for himself and sees himself as the real victim!

EatTheGnome · 09/07/2024 23:00

MartinsSpareCalculator · 09/07/2024 21:40

It isn't good for any machine to be running at its maximum output relentlessly.

Vehicles are sold globally, and speed limits differ geographically.

People drive cars on private land upon which there is no speed limit.

Majority of people are able to drive to the laws of the roads.

Depends on the road type though amd id say a alim number of people are involved in fatal accidents at ridiculous speeds compared to public roads.

Some of these stats are quite surprising e.g. 85% of cars exceeded the speed limit at 20mph sites.

www.gov.uk/government/statistics/vehicle-speed-compliance-statistics-for-great-britain-2022/vehicle-speed-compliance-statistics-for-great-britain-2022#:~:text=speed%20limits%20webpage.-,Car%20compliance%20with%20speed%20limits,roads%20and%2045%25%20on%20motorways.

VotesForWomen · 09/07/2024 22:57

Crispysheets · 09/07/2024 22:48

Taking that point of view though, neither is the prison sentence going to help the victims family.
Its about justice for me, and yes, that means punishment. And a scumbag who has killed innocent people having any privileges in prison (including visitors) is not justice in my eyes.
I know by the law of the land it is, but it’s why I would never be able to work as a lawyer. The punishments in this country never seem to fit the crime.

I look forward to you recruiting to fill the gap that the remaining prison officers leaving would make because conditions have got so bad. And then working out what to do with the consequences of even more dangerously understaffed prisons. Likewise you'll be able to the fill the places left by the education teams and everybody else who tried to rehabilitate prisoners but can't do their jobs because the prisoners have lost everything that will motivate them. On ever reducing budgets of course. And when you've finished that, perhaps you'll address the CAMHS of the little girl whose daddy went to prison and was never seen again.

Choochoo21 · 09/07/2024 22:56

I understand what you’re saying.
Some people’s crimes are truly evil.

But the punishment is being in prison and having most of the freedoms taken away.

Also his parents/kids did nothing wrong and this also affects them.

There is also the prison staff who have to deal with these men and there has to be some privileges and punishments to keep them on track, else they would act worse than feral animals.

outside1inside · 09/07/2024 22:52

Chartreux · 09/07/2024 22:43

How could this possibly happen? Are we seriously going to tell children routinely that their parent conveniently dropped dead at the moment of conviction? What happens when the parent comes out of prison? What if it turns out that the parent is in fact innocent?

He shouldn't be alive. Why does he get to murder 2 people, serve his time and go back to his life? Murdering bastards should be done away with.

I know a lot of people think they should be rehabilitated but I genuinely don't understand why. If it is that clear that you have made these decisions that lead to multiple deaths why the fuck should you be allowed to continue your life as normal.

Flamme · 09/07/2024 22:50

How is this workable so that it's fair? For one prisoner who might desperately miss his children, there are hundreds who really don't care. Why should that one prisoner get a punishment that is disproportionately much worse for him than it is for all the others?

Crispysheets · 09/07/2024 22:48

Chartreux · 09/07/2024 22:40

But realistically depriving the prisoner of visitors is going to do precisely nothing to help the families of the victims.

Taking that point of view though, neither is the prison sentence going to help the victims family.
Its about justice for me, and yes, that means punishment. And a scumbag who has killed innocent people having any privileges in prison (including visitors) is not justice in my eyes.
I know by the law of the land it is, but it’s why I would never be able to work as a lawyer. The punishments in this country never seem to fit the crime.

CheeseWisely · 09/07/2024 22:47

First of all, has the OP never made a mistake?

A mistake is leaving the iron on, overstaying the parking you've paid for or putting a red sock in with the whites.

Getting 3 times the drink drive limit and going at double the speed limit while using your phone is not a 'mistake' for fucks sake. It's a deliberate act. 3 deliberate acts added together.

The comment in this thread about not 'othering' him is the most ridiculous thing in a crowded field of ridiculous things I've ever read here. God forbid his feels get all hurty eh?

Lifeisamysterytome · 09/07/2024 22:43

JWhipple · 09/07/2024 22:33

He took a photo.of the speedometer on his phone where it showed 141mph
He was on WhatsApp whilst driving
He stated something along the lines.of.accidemts happen and isn't it sad..That he drove into a car

He was also three times.over the limit.

His defence was he has a daughter.

He's a grade a.... Something.

Howevwr his family should have the ability to visit him and have contact. It's then up to them if they choose not to, or slowly reduce the frequency because they are rightfully disgusted at his actions and lack of remorse. That will have more impact than it being banned and him seeing it as yet another example of him being the victim rather than a consequence of his actions.

Well actually I agree that he should have the right to receive visitors.
I still hope no one does visit him.
Also I know that prison time is supposed to include rehabilitation as well as punishment. So that a prisoner such as him can be re educated into actually accepting his guilt and regretting his actions. Unfortunately due to the state of the prison service I doubt whether many prisoners these days get much in the way of re education and rehabilitation.
In fact after the Woman Prisoner Officer sex scandal it appears a lot of prisoners don't even get punishment.

Chartreux · 09/07/2024 22:43

outside1inside · 09/07/2024 22:36

Oh my god! Has anyone on this thread actually read what this bloke did??? He deserves to be hung drawn and quartered as far as I am concerned. Drink driving at over 140mph while taking selfies and flirting with the nurses when he was taken to hospital.

The mother found her little baby, dead, 50 meters from the car and her sisters body was shattered because of this (literally can't think of a vile enough description)

His children should be told he is dead and be able to get on with their lives. Not dragged to meet the murderer every week in prison.

How could this possibly happen? Are we seriously going to tell children routinely that their parent conveniently dropped dead at the moment of conviction? What happens when the parent comes out of prison? What if it turns out that the parent is in fact innocent?

Createausername1970 · 09/07/2024 22:42

What happened was truly dreadful and he deserves the sentence he received, and I can't for one moment imagine what the poor mother went through.

BUT OPs comments are vindictive and that's not the way to go. Prison is not just for punishment, ideally it brings rehabilitation and a recognition of guilt.

Chartreux · 09/07/2024 22:40

Crispysheets · 09/07/2024 20:53

Kids benefit from seeing criminals in prison……why? …... because they are great role models for the next generation?? I don’t believe kids benefit from visiting prisons.

Also the families of the victims are punished every single day of their lives. They really haven’t done anything wrong.

But realistically depriving the prisoner of visitors is going to do precisely nothing to help the families of the victims.

DontCallMeKidDontCallMeBaby · 09/07/2024 22:39

MounjaroUser · 09/07/2024 22:28

Prison officers need something to withhold from him if he doesn't behave himself, OP. Managing someone with nothing to lose would be very scary.

This. I work in a prison, it’s dangerous enough. We don’t need to make those conditions any worse.

OhHelloMiss · 09/07/2024 22:38

@outside1inside yes we read it

outside1inside · 09/07/2024 22:36

Oh my god! Has anyone on this thread actually read what this bloke did??? He deserves to be hung drawn and quartered as far as I am concerned. Drink driving at over 140mph while taking selfies and flirting with the nurses when he was taken to hospital.

The mother found her little baby, dead, 50 meters from the car and her sisters body was shattered because of this (literally can't think of a vile enough description)

His children should be told he is dead and be able to get on with their lives. Not dragged to meet the murderer every week in prison.

Jonismorf · 09/07/2024 22:34

Personally, I think that, depending on the crime, prison sentences should be a period of punishment followed by rehabilitation. The punishment being basic nutrition, recommended reading material only and no visitors. If it's a parent who committed a particular crime, then yes, his or her children should be allowed to visit during the rehab part, but not the punishment part. This would be a valuable lesson to the child that their parent committed a crime without any regard for them at all. Kids need to know that crime is a bad thing from an early age. Obviously this sort of sentence would not be across the board, but only in certain circumstances should it be made an option for judicial sentencing.

JWhipple · 09/07/2024 22:33

Lifeisamysterytome · 09/07/2024 21:00

I was reading this story earlier today. It's not often I'm moved to tears by a news story but this made me cry . Beautiful beautiful wee baby that his mum had to pick up dead from the side of the road. And his aunt had every bone in her body broken.

The driver showed no remorse.

It said he was returning from a holiday when the accident happened and that his wife actually left him when they were on holiday. She returned home earlier because of his behaviour. So with any luck no body will want to visit him in prison anyway.

He took a photo.of the speedometer on his phone where it showed 141mph
He was on WhatsApp whilst driving
He stated something along the lines.of.accidemts happen and isn't it sad..That he drove into a car

He was also three times.over the limit.

His defence was he has a daughter.

He's a grade a.... Something.

Howevwr his family should have the ability to visit him and have contact. It's then up to them if they choose not to, or slowly reduce the frequency because they are rightfully disgusted at his actions and lack of remorse. That will have more impact than it being banned and him seeing it as yet another example of him being the victim rather than a consequence of his actions.

DdraigGoch · 09/07/2024 22:33

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 09/07/2024 20:59

Probably stops a lot of them killing themselves

I've got to be brutally honest, in his case I wouldn't shed a tear if he did.

The man was drunk. He was speeding (and not by a little). He was on his phone. I can't think of any ways in which he could have been more reckless than he was. He showed not an ounce of remorse. He is an utter bastard of the lowest order. May he burn in hell.

MounjaroUser · 09/07/2024 22:28

Prison officers need something to withhold from him if he doesn't behave himself, OP. Managing someone with nothing to lose would be very scary.

SharonEllis · 09/07/2024 22:27

Also, from a practical point of view, if you dehumanise prisoners in such a way how do you think you manage a prison? Where is the incentive for good behaviour? What sort of conditions will the prison officers & other prisoners be living under? Vindictiveness is a very bad way to run a prison system in a healthy society.