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Some People In Prison Shouldn’t Be Allowed Visitors.

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Molone · 09/07/2024 20:42

Tonight I read the horrific story of a baby and his aunt being killed in a drink/driving incident.
Today the driver was sentenced to 17 years. While he will still be allowed to see his family weekly for visits, this poor mother will never hold her baby or see her sister again. What happened to them was horrific.

Why should he be allowed to see his loved ones when he has deprived her of the same? He should be locked up to serve his sentence alone and so should all the other killers of a similar nature.

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Custardandrhubarbcrumble · 11/07/2024 09:17

I'm not really sure why you specifically target a drunk driver.... I'm not remote excusing it, and actually think sentences for drink driving should possibly be higher. But drink driving is an act of impossibly selfish stupidity. It's not an act of deliberate evil like when someone deliberately plans to and goes out to kill or rape someone. Or the systematic abuse of children over many years. There are far worse criminals in prison than this drunk driver. And they all get visits from their family, if their family still wants to know them.

Snugglemonkey · 10/07/2024 22:21

Molone · 09/07/2024 21:32

I don’t have much time for the argument that his family will suffer, he should have thought of that before he broke someone else’s. Why should the victims family live in hell and his carry on as normal?
He shouldn’t ever be released, 17 years isn’t nearly long enough.

Because collective punishment and punishment of relatives fir someone else's crimes is not the stuff of civilised societies. It flies in the face of human rights law. It is North Korea style behaviour!

Snugglemonkey · 10/07/2024 22:16

Crispysheets · 09/07/2024 20:53

Kids benefit from seeing criminals in prison……why? …... because they are great role models for the next generation?? I don’t believe kids benefit from visiting prisons.

Also the families of the victims are punished every single day of their lives. They really haven’t done anything wrong.

You believe what you like, but children of prisoners have a host of improved outcomes via maintaining contact with their fathers vs those who do not.

ClawedUkelele · 10/07/2024 18:13

OonaStubbs · 10/07/2024 17:49

Just keep them all locked up so they cannot reoffend and law-abiders are kept safe. Bring back the death penalty for the most heinous criminals.

Basically the legal system should be run for the benefit of law-abiders. The wishes and wellbeing of criminals should be at the bottom of the list of priorities. They chose to break the law, they have to live with the consequences of their actions.

Yikes

DuesToTheDirt · 10/07/2024 18:06

I really don't understand the thinking behind the OP. Which "people in prison" shouldn't be allowed visitors? And why? Which crimes are you targetting OP? All prisoners have been convicted of something after all, and the prison is the punishment. Why should some prisoners get extra punishment?

(FWIW, yes he's scrum, and if I were his family I'd be cutting him off and not visiting, but that's beside the point really).

OonaStubbs · 10/07/2024 17:49

Just keep them all locked up so they cannot reoffend and law-abiders are kept safe. Bring back the death penalty for the most heinous criminals.

Basically the legal system should be run for the benefit of law-abiders. The wishes and wellbeing of criminals should be at the bottom of the list of priorities. They chose to break the law, they have to live with the consequences of their actions.

DdraigGoch · 10/07/2024 15:14

Generally it's proven that strong punishments eg life long imprisonment and death penalties don't improve offending rates
@Hasbean2 there is another point to incarceration that you didn’t cover. Public protection. While he remains under lock and key, he cannot jump into another car while drunk (given his record, he would do it again, given the opportunity).

And while I'm not saying that I'm in favour of the death penalty (risk of miscarriage of justice etc.), it's also true that no corpse ever reoffended.

DdraigGoch · 10/07/2024 14:54

Majority of people are able to drive to the laws of the roads.

They are not! It's mercifully rare that it's as egregious as this, but speeding and other road traffic offences are prolific, and offenders rarely face justice.

parkrun500club · 10/07/2024 12:11

PassingStranger · 10/07/2024 10:15

A mistake no.
A choice yes.

Made a choice to drive like that and drink.
Everyone knows it's wrong and dangerous.

Very insulting to the víctims to.mimimilise this.

You wouldn't be saying this if it were your family he killed.

It wasn't a mistake. If he'd momentarily lost concentration eg by adjusting his radio - THAT would have been a mistake.

When you go out and drive while drunk, that is a choice. You are reckless as to whether you kill or injure someone. It is way more serious than a mistake.

parkrun500club · 10/07/2024 12:08

Chatterbox98 · 10/07/2024 09:12

Didn’t know this, I have no words. How 17 years (likely will end up less) is justice I will never know. The past offences should be considered in my opinion he clearly hasn’t learnt or been rehabilitated.

My heart breaks for the family involved, I read the report after seeing this post hard to believe such evil exists 😔

I didn't know this. I thought at least he got 17 years - I know of another drunk driving case where someone killed two teenage girls and only got 6 years, so was out in 3 - so was glad this lowlife had a reasonably commensurate sentence for what he had done.

There's an argument for a whole life term in this sort of case, it's pretty close to murder.

Locutus2000 · 10/07/2024 11:58

Butchyrestingface · 10/07/2024 05:17

He’s a remorseless cunt and his sentence is inadequate. I hope - but doubt - his driving licence has been removed forever. He should lose the right to drive ever again.

But no, I don’t agree with no visitors. His punishment is the removal of his freedom for (hopefully) at least 17 years. That is no mean thing. We are not savages and should not behave as such towards those in our prison systems.

This man will one day get out and it is important to help maintain some kind of order whilst he’s in prison that he believes he has something to get out FOR - the preservation of familial bonds can be a strong feature in this. Not sure I’d want to see him myself, but if his family do, then they should not be impeded.

I hope - but doubt - his driving licence has been removed forever.

Judge gave him a 21.5yr driving ban but reports differ as to whether that is concurrent or consecutive to his sentence.

"Police found an empty vodka bottle in the wreckage of his car."

"He had been using WhatsApp while he drove and took a photograph on his phone in which Ms Warner's Peugeot could be seen, showing the speedometer at 141mph, moments before the crash."

"Analysis of the Audi's computer showed he had the accelerator fully depressed, did not brake before impact, and that a collision warning light was illuminated on the dashboard."

What an utter piece of shit.

Tearful mum of baby killed by drunk-driver at 141mph says 17-year jail term will ‘never make up for what we’ve lost’

A drunk-driver who hit speeds of 141mph moments before crashing into another car, killing an eight-month-old baby and his aunt, has been jailed for 17 years.

https://www.lbc.co.uk/news/drunk-driver-killed-baby-aunt-jailed-17-years/

5128gap · 10/07/2024 11:23

Because the punishment for his crime is the loss of his liberty, not the loss of contact with his own loved ones. His family would also potentially suffer from this, and they are innocent. He is also a person for whom it would be anticipated there would be rehabilitation and reform. This is far more likely to be achieved if he has a life to rehabilitate himself for, and family visits also act as a carrot to help control behaviour in prison. Take everything away from a person and they've nothing left to lose, which makes people more of a problem to society rather than less, both inside and outside of prison.

Sondheimisademigod · 10/07/2024 11:12

sonofrageandlove · 09/07/2024 21:43

One of the saddest things I’ve ever read, cannot even imagine how the mother goes on.
he deserves to rot in hell.

No such place

NannyGythaOgg · 10/07/2024 11:08

rwalker · 09/07/2024 21:47

Human nature makes you want him To suffer as much as possible and have no privileges whatsoever

but when people have nothing to lose it can make them 10 times worse

it’s like when people are on death row there beyond dangerous because they have nothing to lose

Just because you feel a certain way, doesn't mean it's 'human nature',
I don't feel that way and nor do many others.
Your (and the others expressing similar desires) says more about you than him.

PassingStranger · 10/07/2024 10:37

Hoppinggreen · 10/07/2024 10:13

I saw this case and was horrified.
He got drunk on the plane on the way back from holiday and then drove home from the airport as speed while using his phone. I saw the footage of him being arrested and he was whining about how he was having a bad day and how he had a Business he needed to run after being told he had killed 2 people.
While I absolutely hope he rots in Hell I am not sure banning him from having visitors is appropriate even if it were possible.

Another reason why people shouldn't be allowed to drink on planes either.
Notice he lost his licence for 21 years too.
Why not forever?
It's like this country is just too scared to come down hard on people.

Pandadunks · 10/07/2024 10:22

No. Sorry, but people in prison will one day be out amongst us again and while this fucker appears to feel no remorse, hopefully he will one day accept responsibility for his actions and that will make him a better person.
Dehumanising prisoners is to the detriment of society.

OneTC · 10/07/2024 10:19

redalex261 · 10/07/2024 01:15

Fair or not, prisoners are entitled to visits - usually monthly I think not weekly. I can see why people are aggrieved about it, but their family are not responsible for the crime and shouldn’t be punished any more. I don’t know if visits can be withdrawn if the prisoner breaks the rules? and used as an incentive to push good behaviour. Hope this can happen, I suspect visits would be one if the most important issues for most inmates.

I believe they get a set minimum (provided anyone wants to visit them) and can get extra for good behaviour

PassingStranger · 10/07/2024 10:18

Choochoo21 · 09/07/2024 22:56

I understand what you’re saying.
Some people’s crimes are truly evil.

But the punishment is being in prison and having most of the freedoms taken away.

Also his parents/kids did nothing wrong and this also affects them.

There is also the prison staff who have to deal with these men and there has to be some privileges and punishments to keep them on track, else they would act worse than feral animals.

Prison staff do manage prisoners who.have whole life sentences already
It's possible

PassingStranger · 10/07/2024 10:15

Scammersarescum · 09/07/2024 22:10

Locking someone up is punishment.

Whilst they are locked up they should rehabilited to rejoin society as they do in Norway which has the lowest reoffending rate. Their system is based upon humanising the offender as opposed to dehumanising them as the OP seems keen to do.

Posts like these always shock me. First of all, has the OP never made a mistake? People do and tragically the results can be horrific but none of us are perfect. There but for the grace of God and all that.

Secondly I don't feel sorry for the driver one bit, but neither do I wish him undue suffering. There's some real nastiness in the vengeful desire to utterly destroy his mental health by isolating him. I'm surprised the OP isn't suggesting lashes or electrodes.
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The OP is advocating causing the purposeful prolonged suffering of another human whilst decrying the man who caused the prolonged suffering of other humans.

A mistake no.
A choice yes.

Made a choice to drive like that and drink.
Everyone knows it's wrong and dangerous.

Very insulting to the víctims to.mimimilise this.

You wouldn't be saying this if it were your family he killed.

Hoppinggreen · 10/07/2024 10:13

I saw this case and was horrified.
He got drunk on the plane on the way back from holiday and then drove home from the airport as speed while using his phone. I saw the footage of him being arrested and he was whining about how he was having a bad day and how he had a Business he needed to run after being told he had killed 2 people.
While I absolutely hope he rots in Hell I am not sure banning him from having visitors is appropriate even if it were possible.

Longma · 10/07/2024 10:10

Nolongera · 10/07/2024 09:53

He won't do 17 years in prison, it's normally half, so 8.5 years, I know in some cases it's 2/3 but I can't work out if his conviction meet the criteria for that.

This is built into our prison sentencing rules.

Don't imagine " prison justice" will work against him, that's mainly revenge fantasy bollocks.

He will spend much of his time hanging out with like minded scumbags, playing video games and watching trash TV. Probably able to get drugs too.

My work has taken me into a number of prisons, at least ten and I worked in forensic mental health.

Prisons are run on the cheap, every corner cut, keep the prisoners happy so they don't kick off.

Due to the length of his sentence he will most likely be expected to be imprisoned for at least 2/3 of his sentence. He will then be eligible for release if he has met certain criteria, which often includes showing a level of remorse and engaging in rehabilitation programmes, usually when it's a lengthy sentence more than one prison worker will need to agree that he is ready for release on licence.

A lot of people often don't realise that our sentencing isn't just about the time spent in prison, it also includes a period of time on licence outside of prison, where they are monitored and bound by certain guidelines and rules.

Also in many crimes/sentences it isn't always automatic release after half/two thirds of a sentence.

I used to sit on early release/tag/open prison/licensing panels in my role working in a prison. The decision to release early under licence wasn't always straight forward.

dottiedodah · 10/07/2024 10:08

This is similar to a dreadful accident nearby .The driver was on cake and had been drinking as well .Hit a young Mum an her baby of 4 weeks! Managed to push baby out of the way .She had life changing injuries! Got 12 years in prison. His family are innocent though.

JohnTheRevelator · 10/07/2024 10:02

Because the visits aren't just for his sake,they're for the sake of his family too.

Longma · 10/07/2024 09:57

Would you feel the same if it happened to one of yours?

This is an irrelevant question.
There are many very good reasons why the victims of crime, and those closest to them, have no say in the punishment of a criminal.

A criminal's sentence is based on legal decisions and judgements, not revenge.

Longma · 10/07/2024 09:54

How a country treats its criminals is a good judge in how a country treats everyone else. A civilised country will treat its criminals in a better way than an uncivilised one.

It's also not just for the benefit of the criminal. Visitation is also for the benefit of their families - children, spouse, parents, grandparents, etc.

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