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Child party dilemma

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Whistledown1005 · 09/07/2024 15:38

It's an awkward one. 2 parties on the same day.
1st invite was handed out a few weeks ago. This boy is friends with DS. However the party is an activity DS doesn't like and there are a couple people attending who are a bit mean to DS.
2nd party invite handed out yesterday. DS likes the party activity and gets on well with the girl. He would be the only boy attending though.

He wants to go to the 2nd party. I had already said yes to the 1st party a week or so ago but DS does not want to go now the other invite has been handed out. What makes it awkward is I'm good friends with the 1st party child's mum.

So I'm not sure on what to say to her? I don't want to be rude but how do I word it without offending her.

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Homesweethome23 · 09/07/2024 15:47

Did your son know you had replied yes to the first invite when it was activity he didn’t like and with kids he wasn’t keen on?

SpikeyDee · 09/07/2024 15:47

Definitely stick with the first regardless, but even more so if you’re friends with the mum in the 1st party. I’d be pretty unhappy if a friend of mine ditched my kid’s party because they had a better offer.

redskydarknight · 09/07/2024 15:47

If they are close enough to get between them quickly, can you go to half of each party? I've seen lots of parents do that.

pinkchristmaspudding · 09/07/2024 15:47

When are the parties? If it's soon I would be inclined to go to the first one.

If over 2 weeks away I would give apologies to the first and go to the second. They're unlikely to have confirmed numbers for any catering etc with a while still to go.

NevergonnagiveHughup · 09/07/2024 15:46

Here’s where you give DS a life lesson.

You’ve accepted party A, so suck it up.

Don’t be one of those flaky parents who bails at the sign of a better offer - and you OP then tries to justify it.

Lincoln24 · 09/07/2024 15:46

I'd say he has to go to the first party. Just explain to him it's bad manners to cancel the first acceptance just because he's received what he perceived as a better offer. Unfortunately life goes like that sometimes. You being friends with the mum is neither here nor there.

Comedycook · 09/07/2024 15:46

I'd say he should go to the first party. You have already said you would so it's bad form to go back on that.

Kyros · 09/07/2024 15:46

I would keep the commitment he's already made. Be honest with the second child's mum that he'd have loved to come but sorry, he has a prior commitment.

LittleCarrot12 · 09/07/2024 15:46

I think if you have already said yes to party 1 you need to see it though.

Newnamesameoldlurker · 09/07/2024 15:44

I think he has to go to the first party if you've rsvpd yes and he's been counted in numbers

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Whistledown1005 · 09/07/2024 15:43

Homesweethome23 · 09/07/2024 15:43

Are the parties at the same time? Could he not go to both?

Yes at same time, so that can't be an option

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Homesweethome23 · 09/07/2024 15:43

Are the parties at the same time? Could he not go to both?

Marmite27 · 09/07/2024 15:40

Oh I’m sorry we’re busy that day/time, X was invited to Y’s party.

It’s easy.

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