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To think Judy Murray is that mum!

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Mycatsmudge · 09/07/2024 10:03

So Judy Murray is astonished Emma Raducanu backed out of playing a farewell mixed doubles game with her son because she didn’t feel well that morning and wanted to prioritise her qualifying singles match the next day.

If it had been the other way round I’d be surprised if Andy didn’t do the same and Judy would have backed his decision. AIBU to think women are always called upon to sacrifice their own interests for those of men and Judy Murray is that mum!

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ExpectoPatronums · 09/07/2024 11:19

If being in your child's corner makes you 'that mum' then I suppose she is. I like her, she's straight forward and says what she thinks. She's raised two boys who have done very well.

Subfusc · 09/07/2024 11:16

littlefireseverywhere · 09/07/2024 10:29

Totally this!

Yes! I no longer live in the UK and thought he’d effectively retired several years ago.

Mrsjayy · 09/07/2024 11:15

SoundTheSirens · 09/07/2024 11:10

I love Judy Murray. She was being sarcastic, her main beef was with the scheduling.

I think it was a lovely Wimbledon farewell as it was - yes, he lost, but it was on Centre Court with his brother, Sue Barker out of retirement to interview him, then waving from the winner's balcony - and I think with hindsight Judy might agree.

Poor Duncan though, he never gets the limelight...

HA yes poor "Duncan" he is appearing in our local panto this year I wonder if Judy will be bothered to show up to watch him😀.

ClaribelLowLieth · 09/07/2024 11:15

It's taken absolutely YEARS but I quite like Judy and Andy Murray now

whynotwhatknot · 09/07/2024 11:15

emma got some ba abuse on twitter it was verging on harrasmment

whole thhing has been blown out of propotion

Noseybookworm · 09/07/2024 11:12

It's so ridiculous that people think Judy Murray was criticising Emma Radacanu - it's quite clear that her comment was sarcastic! In other words she didn't feel it was unusual that Emma would prioritise her singles match and want to rest her wrist. It's all a silly storm in a teacup!

Topseyt123 · 09/07/2024 11:11

I do like Judy Murray.

You could argue that she should have kept quiet and that Andy is a grown man (and a very wealthy one too) who fights his own battles, which I am sure he does most of the time. It even turns out that she wasn't directly criticising Emma.

You could also argue that Emma Raducanu, in light of her injury problems and wrist surgery, should perhaps have been more cautious about accepting the invitation to play mixed doubles with Andy. Then he might have had the opportunity to choose a different partner.

In reality though, we don't fully know what went on behind the scenes. We do know that Emma saving herself for her singles match due to the wrist stiffness is now a moot point, as unfortunately she lost that match the very next day. Can't blame her for trying to do the best thing though.

Wrist stiffness can be very painful. I have had carpal tunnel syndrome on occasions in the past and I can see how that sort of thing could be a very real problem to a tennis player.

Although it doesn't look good, I suspect that in the end the whole thing was just a series of unfortunate events, and unfortunate timing.

SoundTheSirens · 09/07/2024 11:10

I love Judy Murray. She was being sarcastic, her main beef was with the scheduling.

I think it was a lovely Wimbledon farewell as it was - yes, he lost, but it was on Centre Court with his brother, Sue Barker out of retirement to interview him, then waving from the winner's balcony - and I think with hindsight Judy might agree.

Poor Duncan though, he never gets the limelight...

FTPM1980 · 09/07/2024 11:05

I really don't think this is about Emma being female.
If it was a male player and mens doubles my reaction would have been the same.
I can see both sides but it is a shame.
She could have just shown up & played a couple of games before retiring so Andy could get his fairwell.
The day before she was very up for it.

CranfordScones · 09/07/2024 11:04

People seem to regard her as a pushy stage school mum. You do realise she was a very good tennis player who represented her country as a student, and who coached other successful players? She also sacrificed a lot for both her sons.

I can't think of a man with a better attitude to women than Andy Murray - and it's clear where it comes from - so it's inexplicable why so many women seem to hate her.

EsmaCannonball · 09/07/2024 11:03

Citrusandginger · 09/07/2024 10:06

Didn't Radacanu give the Murrays a different reason though?

I thought it interesting that on the day she pulled out, Martina Navratilova suggested it rarely works as a strategy. I think she meant that there is no value in conserving energy for singles.

I thought Martina's take on it was very interesting and wished she'd been pressed by Clare Balding to expand on why dropping out of the doubles never worked as a strategy to improve your chances in the singles. Martina seemed a bit disparaging of Raducanu (you could see her giving a bit of an eye-roll when the subject came up) and it was as if Balding wanted to shut down any talk that wasn't positive and cheerleading. I think there was an implication that Raducanu and other modern players need to toughen up a bit. Quite a few of the ex-playing commentators and pundits have made pointed remarks about playing doubles improving your singles game.

Liv999 · 09/07/2024 10:56

She's definitely that mum, of course Emma was going to prioritise her singles match

Mrsjayy · 09/07/2024 10:55

Oh she's definitely that mum but she is really competitive but fair she is entitled to her comment she's a tennis coach in her own right not just Andy's mum and thought giving a "wrist a rest" was not good sportsmanship, even if she was being sarky about it.

MrHarleyQuin · 09/07/2024 10:52

Of course she's that mum. No reason to dislike her for it though.

LizzieSiddal · 09/07/2024 10:50

Cherandcheralike · 09/07/2024 10:45

Didn't she say she was being sarcastic about it and absolutely understood? Pretty sure she said something ratty about bad scheduling forcing the decision.

Yes she did say she was being sarcastic. People will miss that bit out though. 🤔

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 09/07/2024 10:48

Citrusandginger · 09/07/2024 10:06

Didn't Radacanu give the Murrays a different reason though?

I thought it interesting that on the day she pulled out, Martina Navratilova suggested it rarely works as a strategy. I think she meant that there is no value in conserving energy for singles.

It wasn't about conserving energy but about protecting her wrist.

Cherandcheralike · 09/07/2024 10:45

Didn't she say she was being sarcastic about it and absolutely understood? Pretty sure she said something ratty about bad scheduling forcing the decision.

Americano75 · 09/07/2024 10:42

ssd · 09/07/2024 10:38

I'm sure she regrets it. I think she's great. I seen her drawing white lines in an old run down council tennis court near me years ago, so she could teach kids tennis. Shes always encouraged kids whose parents cant afford a private club to play tennis.

Dont get the hate here.

I know, it's nonsense.

LizzieSiddal · 09/07/2024 10:41

I like her and she’s helped to bring up two good men.

EarthlyNightshade · 09/07/2024 10:40

I like Judy, I've seen her talk live and she certainly was that mum when they were younger as she had to take them long distances to compete and manage this mainly on her own.
I'm inclined to think that if you agree to do something you should do it. Emma agreed to play tennis with him, then left him without a partner and no option to find someone else. Different if she had pulled out of the singles as well.
Emma lost anyway so hard to say if that worked out for her.

Anyone who hasn't seen the video of Judy and the other Murray brother should watch it. Judy is excellent at laughing at herself.

mikado1 · 09/07/2024 10:38

CyanideShake · 09/07/2024 10:22

She's obviously entitled to whatever opinion she likes but publicly voicing it is surely embarrassing for her son. He's a big boy, Judy love, he doesn't need you leaping to his defence.

Agree she shouldn't have bothered saying anything, tho she was probably asked for her response. Otherwise, I'm a big fan of hers, she great on Twitter, very funny and a huge supporter of girls in tennis. She gives lots of coaching ideas too.

ssd · 09/07/2024 10:38

I'm sure she regrets it. I think she's great. I seen her drawing white lines in an old run down council tennis court near me years ago, so she could teach kids tennis. Shes always encouraged kids whose parents cant afford a private club to play tennis.

Dont get the hate here.

betterangels · 09/07/2024 10:37

Mainoo72 · 09/07/2024 10:08

If I was Andy, I’d be embarrassed that my mum was wading in on issues like this & creating more drama. She needs to let her adult son deal with these things himself.

It is embarrassing. Why did she get involved?

He's taking forever to retire, it seems.

Sarah2891 · 09/07/2024 10:34

Yeah she seems insufferable.

Grrrpredictivetex · 09/07/2024 10:30

I read her comment was about the scheduling not that Emma R had pulled out.
I think of all people she realises the stresses of professional tennis. Obviously she's disappointed Andy's career at Wimbledon has ended the way it did.