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To think Judy Murray is that mum!

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Mycatsmudge · 09/07/2024 10:03

So Judy Murray is astonished Emma Raducanu backed out of playing a farewell mixed doubles game with her son because she didn’t feel well that morning and wanted to prioritise her qualifying singles match the next day.

If it had been the other way round I’d be surprised if Andy didn’t do the same and Judy would have backed his decision. AIBU to think women are always called upon to sacrifice their own interests for those of men and Judy Murray is that mum!

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tobee · 09/07/2024 13:27

What would people be saying if it was Willie Murray saying it?

There have been tons of tennis dads who have been hugely over involved in their (especially) daughters careers btw.

JanefromLondon1 · 09/07/2024 13:24

No Judy knows what a woman is and does a huge amount for grass roots tennis. The only thing that Judy and Nicola have in common are their accent and their sex chromosomes.

plainjayne8282 · 09/07/2024 13:21

Yeah, I agree.

It's her career and she made a decision. There's nothing "astonishing" about it.

mondaytosunday · 09/07/2024 13:21

Of course Judy is 'that mum'! Her boys would not have got as far as they have without her pushing pushing pushing. Successful athletes are a team effort, and it's usually a parent who has to be the number one support, cheerleader and advocate.

notacooldad · 09/07/2024 13:20

Storm in a teacup.
I really like Judy Murray.

SureJanOK · 09/07/2024 13:19

I like her. I'd want her help in a crisis. I'd be slightly terrified if she was my mil tho.

And yy to Andy having respectful views of women.

JanefromLondon1 · 09/07/2024 13:19

She's amazing, really stands up for women's rights (a true TERF) and wasn't having a pop at ER at all.

bridgetreilly · 09/07/2024 13:16

She is not ‘that mum’ as anyone with reading comprehension would grasp, but for those hard of understanding, her second tweet made it completely clear. ‘Astonishing’ was sarcastic, and the reason she was entirely unsurprised was nothing to do with Raducanu and everything to do with the scheduling.

Laiste · 09/07/2024 13:15

itsnotabouthepasta · 09/07/2024 13:03

AM himself - he's so very dour isn't he? Never seems particularly pleased about anything!

He's really not though! If you've ever seen him on something like A league of its own, he's got a great sense of humour and is always poking fun at things (as is Judy).

I hold my hands up and say i have only seen him speaking in interviews wrt matches he's just played or is about to play. I'm sure he's fine.

To be honest i find a dry sense of humour very funny.

TellMeWhoTheVillainsAre · 09/07/2024 13:15

LarkspurLane · 09/07/2024 13:12

I can be forgiving of that mum when you raise two such successful tennis players (and of course Duncan).
It's when that mum is trying to railroad her very average 7 year old into a leading role in the school play despite zero talent that I find it hard to take.
#totallyteamjudy

Maybe "that mum" sees potential that you don't see yet?! 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'd let the little one be the lead. Have the video at the ready and sell it to whatever media outlet when she's the next Taylor Swift 😉🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

Parsley1234 · 09/07/2024 13:14

Judy Murray is that mum
Richard Williams is that dad
The world is a better place for people like that

LarkspurLane · 09/07/2024 13:12

I can be forgiving of that mum when you raise two such successful tennis players (and of course Duncan).
It's when that mum is trying to railroad her very average 7 year old into a leading role in the school play despite zero talent that I find it hard to take.
#totallyteamjudy

ruffler45 · 09/07/2024 13:11

Motnight · 09/07/2024 12:57

I know next to nothing about tennis but I think I know more than you!

Also why the comparison to Nicola Sturgeon?!

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NIcola Sturgeon only had one subject on her agenda, Scotland as an independant nation, look where that got her (and her husband and her party)..

RealFeminist · 09/07/2024 13:08

redfacebigdisgrace · 09/07/2024 13:01

Lot of misogyny on here. Wtf with the Sturgeon comparison 🙄

AH HUV GOAT A MEAN BACKHANDER

SleepingStandingUp · 09/07/2024 13:08

Mycatsmudge · 09/07/2024 10:03

So Judy Murray is astonished Emma Raducanu backed out of playing a farewell mixed doubles game with her son because she didn’t feel well that morning and wanted to prioritise her qualifying singles match the next day.

If it had been the other way round I’d be surprised if Andy didn’t do the same and Judy would have backed his decision. AIBU to think women are always called upon to sacrifice their own interests for those of men and Judy Murray is that mum!

If Judy was the mother of Andrea and Eamon had withdrawn from the doubles, Judy would still think it unreasonable because she IS that mother but it's not about sex.

ruffler45 · 09/07/2024 13:07

SoundTheSirens · 09/07/2024 12:30

To be precise, he was knighted off the back of the second of his two Olympic gold medals rather than his Grand Slam successes (though I'm sure winning Wimbledon twice didn't hurt).

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Lewis Hamilton had to win 7 F1 world championships (and god knows how many races) to get his Knighthood, What Andy did to get his knighthood pales into insignificance compared to Lewis.

ArabellaScott · 09/07/2024 13:06

LizzieSiddal · 09/07/2024 10:41

I like her and she’s helped to bring up two good men.

She's done wonderful work for grassroots sport in Scotland, too.

Nevergoodenoughforthem · 09/07/2024 13:06

I like her. It’s professional tennis here, not a game at your local tennis club.

Switcher · 09/07/2024 13:06

I adore Judy Murray so...I'm biased. But yes keeping quiet is always better.

ConsiderabloiRicherthanYow · 09/07/2024 13:05

StrawberryWater · 09/07/2024 12:51

Tell me you know nothing about tennis without telling me you know nothing about tennis.

Name me another British tennis player in the open era who has done what Murray has (46 titles, 3 slams and 11 slam finals, a Davis Cup which he pretty much won single headedly even though it was a team event, a year end title, 3 Olympic medals, two of which were gold, 41 weeks at number 1 and numerous other accolades).

Yeah, he's crap that Andy.

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I'd like to think that poster you responded to was being sarcastic...otherwise, what a gobshite.

Wins the biggest tournament in his sport, twice, the first Brit to do so since Fred Perry in the 1930s, and does so in the hardest era ever, an era which includes the most gifted player to pick up a racket, Federer.

Add in a US Open and two Olympic gold medals too.

Murray has had an incredible career.

redfacebigdisgrace · 09/07/2024 13:04

AM has a very dry delivery but he’s very funny. The dour Scot trope is a bit tedious and tired now.

itsnotabouthepasta · 09/07/2024 13:03

AM himself - he's so very dour isn't he? Never seems particularly pleased about anything!

He's really not though! If you've ever seen him on something like A league of its own, he's got a great sense of humour and is always poking fun at things (as is Judy).

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 09/07/2024 13:03

Americano75 · 09/07/2024 10:42

I know, it's nonsense.

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Thinking someone said something tactless and is pushy isn't " hate". Stop exaggerating

redfacebigdisgrace · 09/07/2024 13:01

Lot of misogyny on here. Wtf with the Sturgeon comparison 🙄

redfacebigdisgrace · 09/07/2024 13:01

She’s really stuck up for Raducanu in the past. I love her. She takes no prisoners and is a fierce supporter of women and girls. She’s done a great job with her sons too.