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To think Judy Murray is that mum!

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Mycatsmudge · 09/07/2024 10:03

So Judy Murray is astonished Emma Raducanu backed out of playing a farewell mixed doubles game with her son because she didn’t feel well that morning and wanted to prioritise her qualifying singles match the next day.

If it had been the other way round I’d be surprised if Andy didn’t do the same and Judy would have backed his decision. AIBU to think women are always called upon to sacrifice their own interests for those of men and Judy Murray is that mum!

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Allfur · 09/07/2024 20:47

Mycatsmudge · 09/07/2024 20:04

Back from work now and catching up on all the comments. My thoughts are Andy Murray would not be where he is without his mum’s ambition for him but he is now in his late thirties with a successful career behind him and she needs to let go and let him be.

Her comment did come across as criticising Emma for dropping out of the mixed doubles and even if Judy felt annoyed she should have kept quiet as it makes Andy look like he needs his mum to speak for him. Not a good look!

I'm sure he'll be fine

MartinsSpareCalculator · 09/07/2024 20:47

I think she's great actually, and was giving her view of poor scheduling. I don't really understand why some people are so desperate to paint her in a bad light so twist her words totally out of context.

And she's clearly done a fantastic job raising Andy and Jamie. Andy Murray has a superb attitude towards women, which will undoubtedly be due to his mother.

crockofshite · 09/07/2024 20:40

Mycatsmudge · 09/07/2024 20:04

Back from work now and catching up on all the comments. My thoughts are Andy Murray would not be where he is without his mum’s ambition for him but he is now in his late thirties with a successful career behind him and she needs to let go and let him be.

Her comment did come across as criticising Emma for dropping out of the mixed doubles and even if Judy felt annoyed she should have kept quiet as it makes Andy look like he needs his mum to speak for him. Not a good look!

I think everyone knows 'Andy's mum's is her own woman and is entitled to say what she likes, whether Andy agrees or not.

She's not just Andy's mum, she's Judy Murray, a very successful tennis coach - a woman of experience in the tennis world, with opinions.

Whether her comments are welcome, correct or appropriate is for her to deal with.

TellMeWhoTheVillainsAre · 09/07/2024 20:22

Mycatsmudge · 09/07/2024 20:04

Back from work now and catching up on all the comments. My thoughts are Andy Murray would not be where he is without his mum’s ambition for him but he is now in his late thirties with a successful career behind him and she needs to let go and let him be.

Her comment did come across as criticising Emma for dropping out of the mixed doubles and even if Judy felt annoyed she should have kept quiet as it makes Andy look like he needs his mum to speak for him. Not a good look!

Judy Murray is AS WELL KNOWN as Andy Murray is. She was asked an opinion, and gave it. It may have been tongue in cheek. It may have been sarcastic. It may have been said in all seriousness. But the fact is SHE WAS ASKED so she answered.

Is she supposed to say "I'm sorry, as a woman and a mother, I am not allowed voice any opinion".

Yes he's a grown man.
But she's a grown woman.

Is it only mothers you have a problem with @Mycatsmudge? or if it was a father/male coach/male colleague/competitor etc commenting would you ask are they "that dad/coach/colleague/competitor".

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Mycatsmudge · 09/07/2024 20:04

Back from work now and catching up on all the comments. My thoughts are Andy Murray would not be where he is without his mum’s ambition for him but he is now in his late thirties with a successful career behind him and she needs to let go and let him be.

Her comment did come across as criticising Emma for dropping out of the mixed doubles and even if Judy felt annoyed she should have kept quiet as it makes Andy look like he needs his mum to speak for him. Not a good look!

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letsgoooo · 09/07/2024 16:46

ssd · 09/07/2024 10:38

I'm sure she regrets it. I think she's great. I seen her drawing white lines in an old run down council tennis court near me years ago, so she could teach kids tennis. Shes always encouraged kids whose parents cant afford a private club to play tennis.

Dont get the hate here.

Agree. The vitriol on here is breathtaking. People hate her for what?
She's fine so much for youth tennis in Scotland and widening access for those who wouldn't have had access before. She's truly passionate about youth tennis.
Strong woman. Her sons love her. Wish more were like her.

LlynTegid · 09/07/2024 15:58

I can see where Andy Murray gets his sense of humour from. Remember the anyone but England one a few years ago?

peeweemermaid · 09/07/2024 15:57

JanefromLondon1 · 09/07/2024 13:24

No Judy knows what a woman is and does a huge amount for grass roots tennis. The only thing that Judy and Nicola have in common are their accent and their sex chromosomes.

Shows how much you know then. I have seen them hanging out with each other together often at events in Scotland. If that doesnt denote friends what does?

Although having said that apparently they have more in common than Chromosomes, but that's the streets talking.

BeaSure · 09/07/2024 15:53

Tell me you know nothing about tennis without telling me you know nothing about tennis.

Cringe!

Where has this nonsensical "tell me you know nothing about xxx ..." come from?

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 09/07/2024 14:58

@Mycatsmudge to be honest, i dont know why she thinks she can make those kind of statements!! can andy not speak for himself? she has become well know by the skin of his coat tails! how many other ex tennis coaches can you name? she hasnt even been his coach for years! I couldnt name any other!! not a likeable person and way too pushy

Windchiming · 09/07/2024 14:30

Liv999 · 09/07/2024 10:56

She's definitely that mum, of course Emma was going to prioritise her singles match

To be fair to Andy, Emma should have not agreed and made big speeches about her dream to play with him when clearly it was bit. I would have understood about wrist if she completely dropped out of tournament. Not sure why some posters made it about man versus woman issue.

Americano75 · 09/07/2024 14:19

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 09/07/2024 13:03

Thinking someone said something tactless and is pushy isn't " hate". Stop exaggerating

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twilightermummy · 09/07/2024 14:16

Topseyt123
I don't think so as she described it as "unforgivable" . I don't like how she's behaved well towards a young woman at all. I can't even believe Ann Diamond has become a thing in this whole debacle! How strange 😂

MrRydersParlourGame · 09/07/2024 13:59

Whatever your opinions of the rights and wrongs of Emma pulling out, Andy Murray is 37 years old and doesn't need his mummy's public commentary on whether or not somebody was mean to him at work!

SureJanOK · 09/07/2024 13:48

Am I alone in thinking I will really miss seeing Kim Sears/Murray's HAIR at Wimbledon?!!!

<pray a moment's silence for the hair>

decionsdecisions62 · 09/07/2024 13:45

Can't stand the woman. He's a grown man Judy! Back off! He has a wife!

Riapia · 09/07/2024 13:45

She’ll no longer be able to share in the glow of his spotlight.

SureJanOK · 09/07/2024 13:43

Oh yeah, true, I forgot she was friends with Nippy. Points off for that, Judy!

OhsunshineWhereAreYou · 09/07/2024 13:40

Judy has explained her comment. It was taken the wrong way.

Judy has had ambitions for her children since they were young. Yes she’s probably been “that mum” at times but as a result she has raised successful children who she can be incredibly proud of.

She’s admitted there are things she would have done differently.

Ultimately she’s just a mum who has tried her best.

CremeEggThief · 09/07/2024 13:38

YABU to bring this up now. In fact why are you so far behind the times, OP? Both players are now out/gone; why bring it up 3 days later? Tennis moves on a lot quicker than that; people are now focussed on the remaining players in the tournament...

peeweemermaid · 09/07/2024 13:38

Shes best friends with nippy sweety, what can you expect.

tobee · 09/07/2024 13:37

Yes and some criminal @Sarah2891

SoundTheSirens · 09/07/2024 13:36

Laiste · 09/07/2024 12:55

Re: JM; i can remember back when AM was getting married ect thinking jesus - AM's wife is a brave woman. I'd guess that not much goes on in AMs life without his mother's input ....

AM himself - he's so very dour isn't he? Never seems particularly pleased about anything!

I find the big retirement hoo har a bit weird when he's going to the olympics in a couple of weeks 🤔

He's got a great sense of humour - watch either of the old Mock the Week episodes where he was in the audience. The comedians rip the piss out of him (and his mum) and he and Kim find it hilarious.

Sarah2891 · 09/07/2024 13:33

tobee · 09/07/2024 13:27

What would people be saying if it was Willie Murray saying it?

There have been tons of tennis dads who have been hugely over involved in their (especially) daughters careers btw.

A lot of the tennis dads come across as way too possessive too

burnhambreeches · 09/07/2024 13:33

I misread the title as.
Judy Murray is That Man.
Sorry Jude