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to think that in a functional household....

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RedWineSupernova · 09/07/2024 07:46

.....the parent of high school age children should be up before the kids and should oversee the getting ready for school, making sure everyone is leaving on time with everything they need etc, being on hand to help with any uniform issues/anything else going wrong etc.

Not sleeping in later than DC due to having stayed up late playing video games with their mates?

Parent has normal job wfh. No shift work. No illnesses or any other issues that would mean they need to sleep in later.

AIBU?

OP posts:
ranoutofquinoaandprosecco · 09/07/2024 07:57

Mine are 10 and 13 I'm a SAHP and I chose to get up before the 13 year old. To be honest she's very organised but I like to see her before she goes off for the day.

Shinyandnew1 · 09/07/2024 07:56

Depends on their age. I have one day off a week and sleep terribly so will often now take the opportunity to sleep in on that day. My 15 year old is fine at getting up and out. I wouldn’t have done it at 11/12 though.

ZenNudist · 09/07/2024 07:55

fieldsofbutterflies · 09/07/2024 07:51

I don't think a parent should have to be up early and available every single morning, no.

This. The staying up late gaming is a different matter.

I don't get up before my 13yo ds. He is old enough to organise himself.

Uniform issues in a teenager?

Meadowfinch · 09/07/2024 07:54

Definitely.

My ds would never get to school, partly because he sleeps like the dead and doesn't hear alarms, and partly because I have to drive him 6 miles to the school bus stop. 🙂

Plus it's hardly setting a good example, is it?

Ponoka7 · 09/07/2024 07:54

As said depends on the age. My girls could get themselves up and out at 13. My DD who is autistic and has a level of LD's could at 14, she started to independently travel on one bus and a train. I was a LP and sometimes had to leave for work. In a functional household with spare, clean uniform, well stocked pens etc and discussion the night before, everyone should be able to be self sufficient.

VerityBridge · 09/07/2024 07:53

Depends what you mean by high school age.

HowIrresponsible · 09/07/2024 07:53

It really depends. When I was a teenager I often wanted to say to my mother, would you just stop fussing around me please, in the mornings.

There comes a time when you are perfectly capable of getting up and dressed and getting your books together. If you can't do that when you're 14, 15, 16 then there's a problem.

11, 12, 13 not so much.

rookiemere · 09/07/2024 07:53

Well since DS became a teenager we expected him to get himself up and sort out his own uniform emergencies as often we had already headed out to work.

I mean I would expect an able bodied adult to be up in the morning, more to provide a bit of company for his DC, but I would expect a tween/ teen to get their own things ready.

Riversideandrelax · 09/07/2024 07:52

I do think it depends on the age. My 17yo doesn't need anything from me but my 12yo needs a lot!

CissOff · 09/07/2024 07:52

I have a 16 and 13yo and am awake but don’t need to get up and oversee them. They’ll let me know if there’s a problem but they are usually perfectly fine.

fieldsofbutterflies · 09/07/2024 07:51

I don't think a parent should have to be up early and available every single morning, no.

Billybagpuss · 09/07/2024 07:51

One off or regular, do they pull their weight around the house otherwise.

Vettrianofan · 09/07/2024 07:49

I am a SAHM and always up before everyone else each day. The household wouldn't run smoothly otherwise. I have teenagers and primary aged children at home. Busy household.

Tumbleweed101 · 09/07/2024 07:49

Depends if the child is 11 or 15 really. I don't get up on my day off now for my 15yo although I am usually awake. I always got up when they were Y7/8.

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