Being so tight with money?

Take as much as you like,( up to half), towels, bedding, kitchen knives, cooking stuff, plants, garden tools,
you have paid for half & will go on to need to buy it again

Well done for realising AND do something about it, that takes a LOT. I've been there - you're living with a covert narcissist. Once you see it, you wonder how you missed it.

Good luck with Sunday - the start of a new chapter in your life, not a negative thing by any means.

Keep us updated how it goes and don't be sucked in with his promise to change - I also did that, but we did have 3 children - he didn't change at all, if anything got worse.

Well done you, you're doing brilliantly! This is the tough bit but you will be through it soon and on the other side is a free and happier life! Look after yourself lovely 💐

When have your share of the rent until? Plus if he gave notice on Monday how long until the tenancy would end at the earliest.

I hope all goes well for tomorrow. We're all here for support if you have a wobble or you're just feeling a bit shit.

Hi OP, best of luck for tomorrow.

As to your decision not to tell him it's his miserly behaviour that has driven you away, you're probably right... but also, if he has half a nous, or even quarter of a teensy weeny brain, he will work it out for himself. Deep down, he will know.

Whether he grows from it is his look-out and not your concern!

Absolutely take them with you. And any fancy glasses or kitchen stuff.

Both to be honest

There's a story about the late Ken Dodd bringing beer to a party, swigging spirits all night and then, because no one wanted warm cans of unpopular beer, when people were drinking glasses of cocktails and spirits, his cans were still there on the side, to take home with him

Misers are happy with getting something for nothing and only pay the bare minimum when they have no choice

This is solid advise about meter readings/bills you need to speak to the landlord to hun x

OP I came here to type the short phrase left only for worst of situations - 'LTB'

But Thankfully the whole thread has elaborated on why you just cannot continue to live like this - and you have thankfully seen the light from your own reassessment of your extensive unfortunate experiences quibbling over £2.50 and extra sips of wine if you even dared to!

Some of us had to learn from bitter experience with children in tow, would never wish it on any young lady to go through that and advise you to leave Now.

All the Best of Wishes for a lighter life living away from this absolute misery of a miser.

Sensible. Don’t take baggage from this relationship into the future. Walk away with only the things you want and put it behind you. It’s only stuff.

I was thinking similar, take kitchen stuff, pots, plates etc stuff that is easy to store until you have a new place but is expensive to buy.

I was with a man like that. He wouldn’t buy me an engagement ring because it was a “waste of money” & I got so sick of people asking I bought myself one from Argos. After we were married it we went out for dinner he would split the bill to the penny (& like yours eat half my dinner) so I said let’s just take it in turns to avoid the hassle. He then accused me of choosing more expensive places or dishes when it was his turn to pay. We paid half into a domestic account for bills and the final straw was when he said he “paid” me to shop, cook and clean” for him and when I asked him to go to Tesco 24 hours after I gave birth to our baby said I was “taking the piss”. Reader, divorced him. OP - run for the hills now!

And take meter readings…
Actually, if he’s away today I would just move out. Then leave a note. Much easier as he simply won’t accept he’s been unreasonable and why put yourself through that? Take everything you want empty the freezer and go.

Then take bedding and towels instead…. And maybe some cushions etc…
I would also take things from the freezer…. You have to eat and you’ve already paid for the food. Get as much out today as you can without him noticing.

Leave him your half of the stuff (you don't want) in lieu of your share of the rent.

Ensure all the utility bills are moved into his name before you tell him. Tell them you have moved out and he is still there as sole occupant.

Good luck OP. I'm sure the relief after you have left will be enormous. The release of stress can trigger ill health so take great care to look after yourself. Decent food, water and sleep should be high on your list.

How long have you been living together? Is it going to be tricky to split belongings or are they entirely separate?

I hope it’s not too stressful, he could make it quite difficult for you by counting the tea spoons when you are packing!

I know I shouldn't laugh...

😂😂😂

@Venice241
Mean people are obsessed with coming out ahead in EVERY single situation.
It consumes them.

Wow! You have managed to sum up the meanest person I have ever come across. Totally Bazaar.
They seem totally miserable as well as being mean. Your totally right about always wanting to appear on top. I can't say much about the relationship between them and partner but it's weird!

Op sorry for taking your thread off on a tangent. Hope you are getting on OK packing stuff.

Definitely sounds like leaving is the right decision. This guy won’t change.

go find yourself someone who will watch as you empty your wine glass so he can top it up for you! Or enjoy a bottle to yourself without having to split the cost!

Good luck

My ex used to moan at me for this. He was not quite like your partner in other ways but it used to piss me off so much. Still to this day I fill the kettle full just to prove to myself I don’t need to put up with shit like that