Being so tight with money?

That sounds so mean. You're missing out on life apart from anything else.

Move on!

Omfg count yourself lucky that you can easily get out of this. Leave the bastard and don’t look back. This is about so much more than money. You deserve way better.

Lack of generosity to the one whom you love is the most unattractive and unappealing quality- and when it extends this far is quite repulsive!

He's incapable of being a team player.

£2.50?! I’d happily give him £2.50 towards his obviously much-needed therapy. He sounds miserly and utterly insufferable. I would run away so fast I’d do at least £2.50 worth of damage to my shoes

Because, many times, until it's all written out, read and commented on by others, is it possible to be as if you are outside, looking in, and be able to see the true picture.

Plus, honestly, what he is doing to you is called "mind-fucking". He messes with your head and makes you doubt yourself, so, little by little, he starts to sound reasonable. Basically gaslighting you, making you feel that you must be crazy if you think he is wrong.

I am very happy for you that the veil has lifted, and you see him for what he really and truly is. Don't let him mess with your head any longer. Come here and reread the thread whenever you doubt yourself. 99% of the votes show that YOU are not the one who has destroyed the relationship. He did.

My ex was like this.

He hated me spending money on myself as in hair, nails, clothes and would kick off. So I stopped just to keep the peace. Then my self esteem began disappearing and I felt ugly, no one else would want me, became trapped.

He cried one time because a pound missed the toll booth so he had to put another pound in.

If we went food shopping he wouldn't let me put anything in the basket that wasn't on our list or if I'd not told him I wanted it before we went into the shop.

He wore the same white t shirt greyed with age for years.

I eventually finished with him.

Yes, I know someone who had a partner like this, he used her to accrue money, when they split up he had a big wad to put down on a large property in an upscale area.

he has had me convinced that I've been the tight one or reckless with money.

Can you even be both?!

Oh please get rid OP. What a miserable life you'll lead staying with this man.

Get out now. I dated a man like this and honestly it becomes repulsive. I remember him getting his phone calculator out once at a restaurant (even though we both had the same pizza each and shared a bottle of wine). He said he had been “watching the tide line” on the wine throughout and calculated I’d had an extra glass and wanted to price up 60 / 40 % instead. Vomit.
Misers never change as money values have been built up over a lifetime of tightness. They will be ungenerous in other ways. Leave now.

He is saying you owe him £2.50!!!!! When you have taken him on holiday and bought him meals in the past!!!! Been together 4 years. How can you still be attracted to this man?

Really really this is no way to live. You two must spend your lives sorting out who owes what. Money must rule everything.

My DH is the most generous man imaginable, that is why we have been married for decades and after all these years nothing has changed, he is still like it. For instance, we have just been on holiday and he used notes and cash a bit more abroad and every time he broke into a note, he just gave me all the change until my bag was weighed down with coins and I bought lunch with it!

I am generous too and two generous people together is a match made in heaven. I had a boyfriend like yours once. It was hell. Every time we met I knew he was on edge, because he wanted to say... oh by the way you owe me £3.27 or whatever. He would almost be jumping from foot to foot in the desperation to ask me for what I owed him. At one point I gave him a 'float' like £20 and told him to stop asking me for all these stupid amounts. That satisfied him till the £20 ran out! Because he would be keeping a tally of the most stupid things, completely false, because I was forever just treating him without thought so I never really owed him these pathetic amounts. It's a total passion killer, I went right off him.

Ditch this tight wad and found yourself a generous man

Please update us when you have ended this ‘relationship.’ What a turn off.

In that case I'd be moving out today! And if he says you owe him for anything tell him not half as much as he owes you!

Pay up the £2.50 quick OP, before he adds interest 😂 seriously though, what a miserable way to live, life is way too short.

Do you still see your group of friends together or do you see any on your own?
This sounds quite isolating.

How many months left on the rental contract? Can you start getting organised to make a break?

Why spend the rest of your life with this miserly git?

I agree there is a double standard generally.

Do you really think if a woman came on here saying ‘I spent an extra £2.50 on my OH so I asked him to reimburse me’ everyone would be saying ‘yeah, too right! Don’t let him take advantage!’?

I've. Got the ick just from reading this.
Leave him. Generosity is one of the nicest traits imo

This all sounds very miserable tbh. When we were dating DH and I split the first few dinner bulls evenly and then he would grab the bill and pay so I would buy him the odd expensive gift to even it up. When I move in I’d do a food shop or grab some bills to pay etc. it’s never made much of a difference. We still share everything, theres no difference, it’s all ours.

Have you asked him how things would work financially if you have kids? His answer would likely be the final nail on the coffin