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Partner only has pictures of his family in his office

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Trabenji · 08/07/2024 20:10

I'm not sure if this is me being petty or if he is being as weird.
So my partner and I have been together for 3 years and have a 16 month old son. He has one brother and two nieces aged 11 and 9. I have two sisters and one niece aged 3.
At home we each have our own office space - his is in the spare room.
A few months ago, his mum passed away. She was ill for a long time. He has been clearing things from her house and has brought back a few photos. Some are of his mum and dad (his dad passed about 20 years ago), but most (about 4/5) are pictures of his nieces.
Bear in mind that before he decided to decorate the spare bedroom with these pictures there were none in the spare room. I have printed lots of pictures of the three of us as a family but he didn't want to put them in the spare bedroom as it "crowded his office space". Now the room basically looks like a shrine to his family.
I asked him if he plans to give some of these pictures to his brother as they are photos of his daughters and he said no as they were from his mums house. When I mentioned it was weird that he only has pictures of his family and didn't even want pictures of his own son in the room he just got really short with me and didn't want me to bring it up again.
Am I being petty about this or is this as weird as it feels to me?

OP posts:
Mouswife · 08/07/2024 20:17

It’s his grief OP. It will pass

Didimum · 08/07/2024 20:17

His mother recently passed, I would give him a break over a bunch of photographs. It’s not about you.

Buddysbunda · 08/07/2024 20:16

They were his mums photos, he lost his mum and the photos probably remind him of her and her home and bring him comfort.

I don't think it's weird but even if it was I think you are allowed to be a bit weird when you just lose your mum.

OhHelloMiss · 08/07/2024 20:16

He's not 'weird' at all!!

Leave him to grieve and show some compassion ffs! You sound bitter and jealous

Lorie94 · 08/07/2024 20:15

I think you are being very in considerate considering he is clearly grieving his mom and seeing them photos in his space reminds him of his moms space. Surely you have photos of your son elsewhere in the house ??

Sirzy · 08/07/2024 20:14

It sounds like his way of coping with his grief. I would leave him too it

Topjoe19 · 08/07/2024 20:14

Maybe it's related to his grief? It's just a few photos, you're obviously attaching meaning to it that isn't there for him. I'd back off & leave him to it

Coffeerum · 08/07/2024 20:13

It’s not weird for him to have family photos in a room in your shared home.
I imagine he doesn’t see the need to have a photo of you or his son he literally lives with you and there are loads of photos elsewhere.

You sound incredibly jealous and petty over his family, which is awful considering both his parents have passed. These photos belonged to his mum and are obviously important to him because they were important to her.

Crunchymum · 08/07/2024 20:12

They are pictures his mum obviously loved.

He has just lost his mum and maybe finds some solace in having up pictures he knew she loved.

Cut him some slack.