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Can't afford to get engaged

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Feelslikewereonlygoingfaster · 08/07/2024 19:07

My partner of 4 years wants us to be committed but I just don't think we're in a good financial position.
I know the heading sounds a bit stupid but I just know he wants to get married and have kids.
We live in a studio flat and I earn minimum wage, I don't see myself ever earning more or doing better.
He keeps saying I wouldn't need to worry about wedding costs etc. But I just don't know.

OP posts:
mynameiscalypso · 08/07/2024 19:13

Do you want to get married? Do you want to have children?

Psspsspssssss · 08/07/2024 19:13

Can you afford to get married? Absolutely. Signing the papers costs less than £100.
Can you afford kids? Probably not.
If you're not going to have kids is there any point to getting married? Only you can answer that

Lostmymarblesalongtimeago · 08/07/2024 19:12

Feelslikewereonlygoingfaster · 08/07/2024 19:11

I think it's largely the expectation of kids.
I earn minimum wage on a 0 hours contract and my partner earns about 28k. I just don't think we're in the right situation for it.

I don't understand what this has to do with getting engaged. Have kids in a few years.

Bearpawk · 08/07/2024 19:12

Being engaged to be married doesn't cost anything.
Getting married can cost next to nothing if you don't want a ceremony, register office do the paperwork job done.

Allywill · 08/07/2024 19:12

well do YOU want to get married? You say he does but don’t mention your thoughts other than a worry about your financial situation which you can’t see changing.

Original poster
Feelslikewereonlygoingfaster · 08/07/2024 19:11

I think it's largely the expectation of kids.
I earn minimum wage on a 0 hours contract and my partner earns about 28k. I just don't think we're in the right situation for it.

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Purplebunnie · 08/07/2024 19:11

Engagement is the cost of the ring.

Weddings can be as cheap as you want. Buy your dress from charity shop/Vinted, registry office and pub afterwards. Ask guests to take photos

Lostmymarblesalongtimeago · 08/07/2024 19:11

eh? getting engaged is free. Getting married is as simple as popping down to the registration office (I did that). what cost are you talking about esp in relation to getting engaged???? you don't have to get engaged. Just marry.

Jegersur · 08/07/2024 19:11

Being engaged costs nothing at all.

heldinadream · 08/07/2024 19:10

Eh? Being engaged literally means intending to get married. It costs absolutely nothing. And if you want to be married you can do that for very little.

It's big weddings and parties that cost money. And they are optional.

FourEyesGood · 08/07/2024 19:09

You can have a marriage without having an expensive wedding.

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