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To not want to go to the red light district

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Filletsteak · 08/07/2024 13:29

Going to Amsterdam next week with my partner. We've both said we have no interest in going to the red light district. Told friends this and they laughed and said we were being daft as it's a tourist attraction. Also they said it's pretty unavoidable, is this true?

I personally don't see prostitutes stood in windows as an attraction I need to tick off. Am I being silly? Surely there's plenty in Amsterdam to see and do that doesn't include that. Just don't understand why it's seen as socially acceptable to visit?

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Filletsteak · 08/07/2024 14:06

Thank you ladies, much appreciated! X

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HmmWhatNameToHave · 08/07/2024 14:03

I agree you can avoid it easily. And be aware many places don't take cash and VISA cards are not widely accepted, so you need a MasterCard. You also need to pre-book museums as they sell out quickly. Have a great time.

Iaskedyouthrice · 08/07/2024 14:01

I have been going to Amsterdam my whole life, me and my mum used to go for a cheap weekend all the time when I was younger. It has changed. I was last there just before lockdown and the red light district was particularly intense. Most of the girls looked very young and very spaced out. Tbh, they looked like they had just been dropped there with no idea what was going on. I would not walk my children around that area for any reason.
It is easy to avoid and there is plenty to do there OP, you will have a great time.

longdistanceclaraclara · 08/07/2024 14:01

I've been to Amsterdam twice. Went to the red light district the first time and we were very unnerved by the drug dealers. We got out of there as quickly as possible. Didn't go back the second time.

Love Amsterdam though.

SiobhanSharpe · 08/07/2024 13:58

When we went a few years ago now we walked through the red light district (not on purpose) in the morning and it was pretty much all closed up. It was not at all obvious what it was, although I do recall some big (empty) windows.
The area was pretty much deserted, nothing to see. (Fine by me.)

Gymmum82 · 08/07/2024 13:58

I’ve been to Amsterdam a few times and never looked for it but have walked through inadvertently. I believe there are a few areas so it’s possible you might stumble across one without realising as we did.

AutismHelp1980 · 08/07/2024 13:56

I went albeit it a number of years ago, I found it really sad to see the men go through the doors knowing that women would be selling themselves for sex.

my DH has never had a particularly high sex drive (that I know of anyway) and it made me wonder why men do it.

OneTC · 08/07/2024 13:55

JudgeBurrito · 08/07/2024 13:53

Umm of course but if I had a moral objection to something, I wouldn't choose to visit somewhere famous for it. For example I won't set foot in UAE. The red light district is unlikely to be as seedy as OP imagines, it just looks like a row of pubs.

I don't know what kind of pubs you go to but... 😅

Waitingfordoggo · 08/07/2024 13:54

I’ve been to Amsterdam twice and managed not to see it. To be fair though, I am the least observant person ever so I might have walked right through it and not noticed 😂 I certainly didn’t want to see it so I’m glad I didn’t.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 08/07/2024 13:54

Screamingabdabz · 08/07/2024 13:36

Morality and legality are two separate issues no? Prostitution is the very definition of seedy and I would not be interested in it either. YANBU op.

Me neither.

OneTC · 08/07/2024 13:54

I'd still go to oude kerk, that's on the edge of the biggest area but you can approach it without going down the narrow alleys.

JudgeBurrito · 08/07/2024 13:53

Screamingabdabz · 08/07/2024 13:36

Morality and legality are two separate issues no? Prostitution is the very definition of seedy and I would not be interested in it either. YANBU op.

Umm of course but if I had a moral objection to something, I wouldn't choose to visit somewhere famous for it. For example I won't set foot in UAE. The red light district is unlikely to be as seedy as OP imagines, it just looks like a row of pubs.

Wgdici52828 · 08/07/2024 13:52

I would have no interest in this either and I think it’s gross to call it a tourist attraction.

I spend a long weekend in Amsterdam a few years ago and didn’t see anything of the red light district, it is largely avoidable.

JudgeBurrito · 08/07/2024 13:52

pinkyredrose · 08/07/2024 13:45

Where what's legal? There are red light districts here too.

It's a bit different, isn't it? Decriminalised then, if you want to be pedantic

LordPercyPercy · 08/07/2024 13:52

It's a shame to miss the area from an architectural perspective, it's actually lovely. The windows themselves aren't on every single street, they are down a couple of them that you could avoid or just walk past quickly without looking.

faffadoodledo · 08/07/2024 13:50

@BigDahliaFan agree! Takes you into another time and place.

BigDahliaFan · 08/07/2024 13:49

@Filletsteak highly recommend the Church in the Attic - fascinating about the history of religion in Amsterdam.

zerored · 08/07/2024 13:49

From personal experience I thought it would be harmless walking through, naively thinking they'd all chosen to be there, until I saw one of the women crying in the window, then seeing her go off with a paying customer (who would have noticed she was upset). It still upsets me now to think about it, I wouldn't blame you if you avoid it.

BigDahliaFan · 08/07/2024 13:48

We went through it as part of a walking tour (it wasn't advertised as a red light district walking tour) and found out a bit about the history - fascinating. But it is weird.

faffadoodledo · 08/07/2024 13:48

Easy to avoid. There's so much else to see and do in Amsterdam.
The city authorities don't much like it as it is either, and are seeking to move it out of the centre. It's not the working women there I object to - it's the punters. I just don't want to be anywhere near the sleazy men!

amp.theguardian.com/world/2023/oct/19/amsterdam-sex-workers-protest-against-plan-to-move-red-light-district

JudgeBurrito · 08/07/2024 13:48

CornflakesOnTheSolesOfHerShoes · 08/07/2024 13:41

Why is this odd?! The Netherlands is one of our nearest neighbours and has hugely rich cultural history. I’d love to go to Amsterdam for the art, the museums, the architecture. I’m hugely uncomfortable with the approach to drugs and prostitution, but would find the suggestion that I couldn’t go to see the Vermeers without simultaneously endorsing the idea of the legal purchase of women’s bodies very weird…

But you're not the one posting asking why it's socially acceptable to visit, are you? Everyone makes their own choices on what they're comfortable with.

ClareWilsonNS · 08/07/2024 13:47

It is only a few streets so it is certainly possible to avoid them.

TheDogsMother · 08/07/2024 13:46

Amsterdam is a lovely city for walking and it is very easy to avoid the red light district. The very centre of Amsterdam can be super busy but head out by a canal or two and it's a great place to explore.

pinkyredrose · 08/07/2024 13:45

JudgeBurrito · 08/07/2024 13:32

Well don't go then. No it's not unavoidable at all. It's also probably nowhere near as seedy as you're imagining. It seems odd to have a moral objection to the red light district but choose to holiday in a country where it's legal.

Where what's legal? There are red light districts here too.

Movinghouseatlast · 08/07/2024 13:44

If you are wandering around the canals yes, it's hard to avoid but it's not immediately obvious 'in your face'. From example there are 3 windows just beside the big church that is a tourist attraction.

The history of it is really interesting but of course now there are a lot of Eastern European girls with pimps. I used to live there and what I hated most was seeing young lads going in while their mates waited outside.