AIBU to think life falls perfectly for some people?

I agree, and it started making me resentful of others. I deleted Instagram and unfriended lots of people on Facebook. I have felt much better since. I also surround myself with friends who have had hardships, I don’t know if this is a conscious decision or if I just naturally gravitate to people who can relate to my hard life experiences. Let go of the resentment and remove what no longer serves you, you will feel so much better for it.

Of course it does.

Literally since time began but it does no good to dwell on it 🤷‍♀️

Yes, some people have good fortune.

Some people have terrible fortune.

But never compare your life to someone else's unless you are confident you know ALL the details - people often put their best face on for the outside world.

Life is unfair, but I think the phrase ‘don’t compare your insides to somebody else’s outsides’ is applicable here. You’re idealising her life and making things very black and white - ‘perfect family upbringing’ for example, there are definitely much better and worse upbringings but I don’t think perfection is a reality for anyone here, every single family has tensions and squabbles.

I know it’s easier said than done, but you need to put the time and emotional energy you are spending on her Instagram feed into making goals for your own life and working towards them.

I know though that TTC isn’t one of those things that’s necessarily controllable in that way, and it’s totally understandable you’re feeling emotional at the moment. I do wish you the very best of luck with it x

And some folks just want a roof over their head. Life is indeed not fair

It's true, life just does go better for some people than for others. That's just how life is, it's luck, chance.
Your life will be much better than some other people's lives, and there are other people whose lives are better yours.
But you've said it yourself so you know, comparison is the theft of joy. Be glad for those who are doing well, be sorry for those who aren't, then focus on yourself and what you can do with your own life.

Yeah, it's not fair. All I really want is to own a house outright, and I can't tell if I will ever accomplish that. Must be nice just having it given to you

This

You say you know them, but from what I’ve read it sounds like you only know of them through instagram. Like you say, that’s curated. Some people are very privileged, some people are privileged AND have good luck, but everyone has something rubbish going on.

Of course they might not come to her, don’t give platitudes the op knows full well likely won’t come true. She’s envious not lacking understanding.

Yes of course some people have better lives than others. You are one of them, you will have many privalges others do not have. Maybe a roof over your head, maybe you’ve food, maybe you’ve a partner, maybe you can pay your bills or heat your house. Maybe you have a loving family, maybe you’ve good friends, Maybe maybe maybe. You have more than others.

This person is presumably quite young from what you describe. Everyone has good and hard times in their lives. She may not have experienced the same hard times as you have so far, but they will come to her too. Don’t be envious of people like her, be pleased that things are going well for her now.

I agree op. But statistically everyone is going to be somewhere in a line of fortunate/lucky in life and less so. There are always going to be some people who are blessed in every area of life. It’s unfair but you need to take a long term view. You don’t know how her life and health will pan out later on.

You really don't know how they feel inside or what may happen in the future.