AIBU to think life falls perfectly for some people?

Just be happy that things are going well for her and get on with your own life. Some of the most unhappy people are those that compare their own life to others. They're so busy being jealous and bitter about others that they fail to notice the good things in their own life.

I never get why some people make themselves feel better by saying 'their time will come' type comments, like they're wishing and waiting for something to go wrong for others.

Watch the news for 10 minutes and you'll realise how high up the chain you are in reality.

You're not sleeping in your clothes because you have to get to a bomb shelter when the missile siren goes off.

You're not identifying a loved one's remains that are in a carrier bag.

The majority of people on the planet would also see you as one of the ones life falls perfectly for, even if it doesn't feel that way to you.

If she’s happy, who cares if anyone else finds it interesting? Why denigrate someone for being different to you?

People might look at me and think many of the things you think about your acquaintance.
We are very lucky in many ways.
BUT the last 12 months have been very different. Serious health issues for 3 very close family members. Job concerns etc etc
Its not always as wonderful as it looks.

I agree with you OP and it's hard to not feel bitter sometimes.

I did 10 years of gruelling ivf to finally have my son.
He has a neurdevelopmental issue.
Last month my husband was diagnosed with advanced cancer completely out of the blue so now won't see our longed for child grow up.

I envy people who haven't had the huge emotional loss and trauma I've suffered

Well, the person you describes sounds very blah. She's thin and photogenic. Her parents bought her a car and a house and she married someone rich and good-looking, and they're probably going to have a baby. None of that is interesting.

If that's all you want in life, I suppose this person's life is perfect insofar as you can see it via Instagram. My standards are different (and higher).

You don’t know what is going on in somebody else’s life.

From the outside my life might look perfect to some. I had a school mum sarcastically comment on how nice it must be for me not to work, even though my children are now teenagers.

What she doesn’t know is that the reason I don’t work is because I have bipolar disorder and it’s a constant battle to keep myself well. I don’t work because I had to make the decision to ensure I reduce my stress levels as much as I possibly can. So I walk my dog, go to the gym and generally have what she clearly sees as an easy life. But it’s not easy it’s fucking awful. My whole life is controlled by my mental health.

Curious: how do you know for sure which people have had a cushy life? If you met me, you might think I have. Actually I haven't. I am just a private person and don't talk about my problems on social media or even to many friends.

I think some people are much luckier than others and don’t have to work much in order to get it.
I don’t necessarily envy people who are extremely lucky, but I do dislike the ones that claim they’ve worked hard for it when you know they haven’t (im talking about the ones who haven’t worked in their life, have nanny’s and cleaners all paid for by their husbands, - someone I know has that sort of life) or claim they are in the same boat as everyone else, when they aren’t. The ones that say they struggle to make ends meet when they are mortgage free and have a household income over 180k (I’m still talking about the same person!), meanwhile others they are comparing themselves to as “in the same boat” struggle to pay for food and heating.

Ive found, the older i get, i prefer people who haven't had an easy cushy life. They are generally nicer, kinder, more understanding than the ones who have had everything handed to them on a plate.

I agree op.

Or how much fucking effort, self denial and discipline they go through! 😊

I know how you feel. Many of my old school friends fit into this lifestyle of your friend you describe. I on the hand come from a broken home of domestic violence, have minimum contact with my parents, and have a severe mental health issue.

But I'm lucky in so many other ways. I have a full time job I love and I'm bloody good at, 2 amazing adult children who are doing well, a roof over my head (even if it's social housing), food in my cupboards, the heating on when I want,I can afford the occasional holiday and a fiancé that adores me. I may not have much compared to some of my friends, but I also have a lot more than other people.

Social media is great for keeping in touch with people, reminding you of memories and having a Live Photo album. But it can also rob you of your happiness if you let it.

You never know. I had a similar friend who yes conceived quickly but the child was profoundly disabled and still does not talk age 11.

All of this. Sadly life is very unfair. But also, what looks lovely from the outside isn't always lovely from the inside

We were on holiday in Greece recently. We saw extreme poverty on the streets of Athens (full families of immigrants sleeping on the side of the road with barely any belongings) and then days later, multi-millionaires (possibly billionaires?!) on their yachts in the harbours of the Greek Islands with staff running round after them.

I felt jealous of all these wealthy people on their yachts, who probably have the money and freedom to just sail and holiday whenever they want, but then remembered the families in Athens who has absolutely nothing and will never have a holiday in their lives.

My point being, there are always people better and worse off.

Also remember, just because people have money, doesn't mean they're happy.

My cousins. Life has jut gone on for them during my beloved gran's illness and horrible death while my mum and I have been left utterly battered. I am as upset about that as actually losing her (I know, grief isn't rational)

How about you start comparing yourself to those much less fortunate that you that would love your life. Either you haven't travelled to areas with serious poverty or you have blocked out the lives some people live.

No I don’t like the attitude of something bad maybe going on or might happen, it’s just envy in disguise.

im not envious though, i know im better off than many, worse off than some, i dont care, i only focus on my life, and want those around me who i love, like or care for, to be happy.

You have no idea what truly goes on inside people's lives and heads.

Learning to accept that life has ups and downs is v powerful

IMHO, too many people expect to be happy all the time. That's unrealistic

I've had struggles in the past. And I daresay there eill be bumps in the road ahead. Right now, my life is going well and I'm v grateful for that. But it's unrealistic to hope it'll always be that way

Yes, plenty of people are very lucky and continue to be so throughout their lives. I never like the attitude that a lot of posters have already mentioned of "you never know if they're really happy", "you never know if something awful will happen to them one day". Plenty of people are just damned lucky and will continue to be so all their lives. No one’s life is 100% perfect but plenty of people live a life that’s as close as can be.

I'm definitely jealous of those people. But all you can do is think of the ways you have been lucky and whether there's any way you can improve the things you haven't been lucky with. There's literally nothing else that can be done.

I think they are rarer than social media would have us believe but yes some people are lucky and I think it started by having parents who loved them and each other.

The nature of chance means that there will always be some people who experience a lot of good luck in their lives and some who experience a lot of bad luck. I think that, psychologically, a lot of people find it hard to accept the fact that life is absolutely and unequivocally extremely unfair. But it is.

That doesn't mean we shouldn't do everything we can within our control to make things fairer - in fact, we definitely should do that, and that's a big factor for me in forming political opinions. But there will still always be some things that are fundamentally just completely down to chance.

Hate these threads as always end up everyone comparing themselves. Listen to Wear Sunscreen. It's a banging song and astute.