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Is she really my best friend?

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firsttimemumchar · 08/07/2024 13:05

I’m due my first baby in a couple of weeks, and since finding out my best friend has been very odd.

Have seen her three times since finding out - keeps cancelling all the time saying she’s poorly but then I see she’s out elsewhere. A few days before we’re due to meet I get the typical message “oh I’ve got a sore throat” and then I just know what’s coming on the day we’re meant to meet up.

has said some quite hurtful things about the things we’ve bought for the nursery being too expensive, explained I will have rules when baby is here such a no kissing her and told I’m treating the baby like a possession. My close family member is getting married when I’m 39 weeks, I’m meant to be bridesmaid. Best friend said I looked like a pink whale or a huge canopy in my bridesmaid dress. been a fair few comments on how “fat” I look with my bump too.

Can’t decided if I’m being over sensitive because I’m so close to my due date or whether or not I should just take this with a pinch of salt and laugh it all off

OP posts:
Liv999 · 08/07/2024 13:17

She sounds jealous but I don't know why if she has two kids herself, anyway she's definitely not your friend, friends don't bring you down

PossumintheHouse · 08/07/2024 13:16

She sounds like a jealous, bitter arsehole, not a friend. Certainly not a best friend. Honestly, I'd have binned her after the first fat comment. I wouldn't be making any more plans or contacting her. Enjoy the last weeks of your pregnancy without her negativity.

Wgdici52828 · 08/07/2024 13:14

She’s being really unkind. These aren’t the actions of a friend.

Needamagicfairy · 08/07/2024 13:14

She's not your friend at all

HansBanans · 08/07/2024 13:14

KimberleyClark · 08/07/2024 13:11

Do you know if she’s struggling to conceive? Doesn’t excuse her behaviour though.

This was my initial thought too.

I've suffered a loss while everyone around me was having successful pregnancies and it really hurt, but I was nothing but positive about their pregnancies.

Even if your friend is struggling to conceive/had a loss, she isn't being a very good friend to you OP.

firsttimemumchar · 08/07/2024 13:13

KimberleyClark · 08/07/2024 13:11

Do you know if she’s struggling to conceive? Doesn’t excuse her behaviour though.

No she has two children herself, it’s all just so upsetting and obviously not what I want or need when I’m due soon

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AngelDelightButNotStrawberry · 08/07/2024 13:12

No you’re not being over sensitive, she’s sounding thoroughly unpleasant. I would stop contacting her and making plans.

Justcallmebebes · 08/07/2024 13:12

She's not your friend and certainly not your best friend

KimberleyClark · 08/07/2024 13:11

Do you know if she’s struggling to conceive? Doesn’t excuse her behaviour though.

Itonlytakesone · 08/07/2024 13:11

@firsttimemumchar
She sounds jealous of you

Idontjetwashthefucker · 08/07/2024 13:08

She doesn't sound like a friend at all, never mind a best friend