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To not look at this couple in the same way anymore?

706 replies

AvrilAprill · 07/07/2024 23:17

At the end of last year I made friends with a mum who’d just moved to the area. We got on great, as did our partners.

However, I’ve now found out that they first got together when she was 16 and he was 20/21. It genuinely makes me feel uncomfortable knowing that, and my husband says I’m being weird

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Vespanest · 07/07/2024 23:36

It’s not something I like but it is also individual, my niece was just under 17 when she met her husband who was 20, so technically 16 and 20. They were however both at the same life stage, both at college and for a 20 year old he was a quiet nerd type, has never drank and I believe my niece was his first and only partner. They have been together about 15 years.

GiveOverAndOver · 07/07/2024 23:28

4 years older, and she was of age. What's your actual issue with it?

notatinydancer · 07/07/2024 23:27

Well she was of legal age , she may have been mature and him a bit more immature.

RaininSummer · 07/07/2024 23:24

I don't think it's grim but it is a big gap at that young age.

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 07/07/2024 23:22

I agree with your husband. 4 years isn't that much and they are together now so i genuinely dont see why anyone would you have an issue with it. I think there is an issue in your own life clouding your judgement here.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 07/07/2024 23:21

Yeah, that’s grim.