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To dress up for doctor’s appointments?

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PollencaCalling · 07/07/2024 21:03

Really re: classism in medicine!

Unless desperately ill I never go to see a GP/consultant etc without making sure that I’m looking well put together. Of course I’m not talking formal attire - just nice, tidy outfit and good hair/makeup. My opinion is that this way things are taken more seriously, and from experience this has been the case. Spoke about it with a friend earlier who thinks I’m bonkers!

Although it shouldn’t be the case I do think that to some extent I am justified in thinking this. Some doctors certainly do still have a class bias and I have experienced it myself. Took DD to A&E a few years ago and got quite a nasty doctor who implied that she was making it up! Once she took her coat off and revealed a hoodie from her (quite MC grammar school) his opinion of her completely changed and he couldn’t have been more pleasant or helpful. It really bothered me at the time and has stuck with me since

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GeneralMusings · 07/07/2024 22:06

This is sad. As if having money/interested in bling makes you a good parent??

Lavender14 · 07/07/2024 22:06

I do think this is true but it shouldn't be. When I was on mat leave I remember throwing myself together to get to an early dentist appointment and I was 3 minutes late because the car park outside was full and I had to park elsewhere and walk down with the pram. It was a really hard morning and we had both been up since 4am and ds was distraught any time I set him down to get myself ready. Not a great morning. Had my hair scraped back, leggings and a hoodie on and the receptionist refused me (fair enough i was late) but talked to me like I was a piece of dirt and alluded that I just couldn't get myself out of bed and insisted I should make an afternoon appointment incase I slept in again. I left in floods of tears. Next time I went was after work so I was much better put together and she was so much more professional towards me.

JennyfromtheBlok · 07/07/2024 22:06

How weird

Comedycook · 07/07/2024 22:05

I do too op.

If I'm taking my kids to appointments I always dress nicely and use my nice handbag and make sure my hair is done and I'm wearing make up. Even though I have absolutely no reason to be worried, I've always been absolutely terrified that if I'm not nicely put together they'll think I'm a useless feckless mother who can't cope.

Needmorelego · 07/07/2024 22:04

If I am ill enough to see a doctor I wouldn't give a toss what I am wearing.
Totally not a priority.
The thing about the school hoodie was probably your imagination.

nothingcomestonothing · 07/07/2024 22:04

I think A&E drs have got other things to think about than your outfit tbh

Bluebirdover · 07/07/2024 22:04

Don't be ridiculous!

Ivycott90 · 07/07/2024 22:02

You sound deranged

PollencaCalling · 07/07/2024 22:01

Anyone?

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