Told to f*ck off for forgetting a birthday

Could have given birth around Christmas…or was it during summer…could have been anything really. 🤷‍♀️

Presumably that a MOTHER doesn’t know the dates her children were born. Dads I can see potentially weren’t in the room or working away… you can’t have a baby born without having a mother right there giving birth to it. Which is usually an at least mildly noticeable event for the mum.

It’s not even that the specific dates have been forgotten it’s that there isn’t even the vaguest idea!!!

Batshit crazy 😂

I have four grown-up children. I haven't the vaguest idea when their birthdays are.

How can anyone not remember their own children's birthdays? That's not something I've ever heard of!

Nor would I. That would end the friendship entirely for me.

Yeah I'll be having a birthday week simply because not everyone I love can get together on the same day. But it's not a big performance or anything. You a few different get togethers with different people. Everyone I know does the same!

Yes; there are definitely Birthdayzillas, who have tantrums if they feel that their birthday is not being sufficiently honoured. Some are arrogant bullies; some are people who seem prepared to accept being taken for granted or ignored 364 days of the year in exchange for being extravagantly honoured on the Special Day of their birthday.

But having a birthday week doesn't make you one. I wouldn't do so myself (in fact, I'm at the opposite extreme of never wanting to be reminded of my birthday at all), but I have a friend who has a birthday fortnight. But he isn't a Birthdayzilla.- he just enjoys parties and get-togethers.

i wasn’t having a goat you and I understand about there are more important things to worry about. I just thought children’s birthdays are emblazoned on people’s brains. My DH however has to concentrate to remember his kids’ birthdays so you might have a point! 😊

@Yalta

Who the hell has a Birthday Week

A few of us on this thread from now on! 😂

Is there such a thing as a Birthdayzilla

Who the hell has a Birthday Week

and is in their 40s

@OldScribbler

Because it doesn't matterthat much. Other things matter infinitely more. Are they short of money? Can they pay their way? Do they have decent jobs? Are their children happy? Do they have somewhere nice to liive? All more important to their happiness than when their birthdays are.

Most people would agree those things are important, I expect @Ilovecleaning was more incredulous that a parent wouldn't know the dates their children were born.

Because it doesn't matterthat much. Other things matter infinitely more. Are they short of money? Can they pay their way? Do they have decent jobs? Are their children happy? Do they have somewhere nice to liive? All more important to their happiness than when their birthdays are.

Ah so you get to be offended by something not meant offensively. Why not just reply with " contraception failure".
Your friend is offended you couldn't be arsed even though you didn't mean to be.

Honestly I think your friend is being ridiculous, we all forget things it’s human nature , I’m pretty good with dates friends and family not so much , do I care absolutely not they remember eventually and if they don’t it doesn’t matter, we are all adults life gets in the way sometimes. Will it matter in 6 months absolutely not. Maybe your friend has other stuff going on

I have four grown-up children. I haven't the vaguest idea when their birthdays are.

Is this a joke? 🤨

How can you not know when their birthdays are?

Quite so. In life we need to be aware of what matters, what doesn't and when, and act appropriately.

Things like did you help someone when they had a problem matters, not whether you remember their damn birthday.

I have four grown-up children. I haven't the vaguest idea when their birthdays are. But when they were young and birthdays were a big deal to them of course I paid attention. When they were older and needed money I came across.

But run of the mill adult birthdays? Unless it's a 50th or another landmark, not important.

The so called friend must have blessed life to get upset about such trivial non problems

Wow, can’t believe some of the responses here. YANBU OP, she’s unreasonable to be pissed off but she is very unreasonable to tell you to fuck off.

She must be constantly disappointed if stuff like this gets to her.

Agree. My friend was 50 in January. Because of various plans and things going on, we actually met up for a celebratory drink in March - no one died or told the other to fuck off. We just found a date that worked and had a great evening. Like adults

This thread is crazy. I can't believe people are having a go at OP for forgetting one birthday.

My birthday was at the beginning of the year and my one of my best friends of over 20 years gave me my present the other week!!!!! I gave her a hug, thanked her and we carried on about our day.

I quite like a birthday 'week' - I mean my birthday this year is on a Tuesday but I might take the day off as my adult kids have said they'd like to do something nice with me, but I have other friends who want to do something nice with who can't make it until either the weekend before or after. So I get to enjoy an extended birthday. But it's all pretty organic and I wouldn't be upset if it didn't happen that way.

You didn't forget; you just sent wishes a day late.

If she has a birthday week, that makes it even more unreasonable of her to kick off about your greeting not being ON THE DAY.

But one small point: are you certain that the delayed birthday greeting was the reason for her nasty behaviour? Did she make that clear? I wonder if she may, for example, be just in a foul mood, perhaps because of something to do with her husband being away, and want everyone to leave her alone and not contact her; hence the 'fuck off'. Not sure that this would be any better, but it would be slightly different.