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Told to f*ck off for forgetting a birthday

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Anonforthisq · 07/07/2024 19:54

First off I know im unreasonable for this part but I forgot my friends bday. I remembered the day after and texted on weds to say so sorry I forgot, happy bday, will drop a pressie round soon. Dont hear anything back but dont think anything off it, we both have young kids and busy lives. Texted her again today to ask if she wants to come to a concert I have tickets for next week and she just texted back ‘fuck off’

AIBU to think she’s totally ott?I know it’s bad I forgot (she always remembes!) but j apologised. It’s been a hard week. My youngest has slapped cheek and is miserable, oldest is SEN, I’m pregnant and have ADD. She knows all this btw. We’re women in our 40s, I like birthdays and celebrating but I wouldnt mind even a little bit of someone forgot my bday, especially if they apologised after.

I haven’t texted back and don’t know what to do now

OP posts:
FeliciteFaff · 07/07/2024 20:01

The lady is a biyatch. Have some self respect and throw this one in the bin. She has told you exactly what she is. A nasty piece of work. Seriously what is wrong with some women these days. Self importance is very dull.

PaintingErica · 07/07/2024 20:01

I don’t know … there’s more of a backstory here and we’re just hearing this from a biased point of view.

ItsVeryHyacinthBucket · 07/07/2024 20:01

I had a friend of 20+ years ghost me because I forgot to text her on her birthday once. Once. It hurt at the time but now I realise I was well rid. Some people are just completely unhinged and it’s not our job to fix them. Move on and find nicer friends OP!

Frazzledmummy123 · 07/07/2024 20:00

Sounds to me like there is more deeper things going on with your friend than just the fact you forgot her birthday. She is definitely unreasonable to have told you to fuck off, if she was hurt she should have discussed it with you like an adult.

My thoughts are, she isnt a happy person at the moment, perhaps very stressed (not that that's an excuse), and her hurt at you not wishing her a happy birthday has been escalated into a big deal.

I wouldn't respond.

Original poster
Anonforthisq · 07/07/2024 20:00

Polomuncher · 07/07/2024 19:59

What! Is she 5 years old

My first thought too 😆

OP posts:
Brendabigbaps · 07/07/2024 20:00

Ive considered doing this to a friend of mine in the past, it was the last thing in a long line of “moments”

Polomuncher · 07/07/2024 19:59

What! Is she 5 years old

Thedogscollar · 07/07/2024 19:59

Leave it she's being ridiculous.
She's 40 something for goodness sake.

holjam · 07/07/2024 19:58

She's completely out of order and I wouldn't be texting again.

BingoMarieHeeler · 07/07/2024 19:57

How strange. I wouldn’t be messaging her ever again 😄

IncompleteSenten · 07/07/2024 19:57

She's being ridiculous.
Leave her to get on with her sulk now.
If she decides to grow up she'll text you I'm sure.

Molone · 07/07/2024 19:57

I wouldn’t text her again, she’s out of order.