Told to f*ck off for forgetting a birthday

Ditto. My circle are not really birthday people - honestly if someone didn’t wish me happy birthday I wouldn’t give a shit. It’s what someone does the whole year that makes them a good friend not one bloody day.

OP - your friend is an entitled idiot. She’s shown her true self. I wouldn’t bother contacting her again

I think the ‘more to it’ is the fact that there will not be the usual big party because her partner is working away. She’s pissed and OP conveniently got in the firing line.

Tbh, if I received a text from a friend saying that I’d think they’d mistakenly sent the text to the wrong person. It sounds like a massive overreaction to a belated birthday wish if that is what it’s about.

SHE'S being completely unreasonable!!

Pathetic, rude and self absorbed. I lost a friend in a similar way over her 60th (yes, 60th) birthday party. Sometimes folk just show their true colours.

You didn't forget, you were like 24 hours late. I get it, some people are more into birthdays than others. But you got her a present you thought about it you just didn't make a huge fuss on her birthday. So you've still been thoughtful and generous just slightly late...and she has been childish and nasty.

As per her instructions, I'd fuck off. Permanently. Someone who is so sensitive about things that to me, just don't matter that much, are probably not people I'd want in my life

Of course you can make a mistake .. and I do see your point. I hope she says sorry.

She’s a ‘birthday week’ twat, this is the ideal opportunity to block and delete her. Don’t drop off the card and present!

I’m a ‘birthday’ person - I always send cards and make sure people get them on the day and I know how hurtful it can be when you’re the one who always makes the effort and others can’t be bothered, but even I think ‘fuck off’ is a bit extreme!

So I also think there is more to this - people don’t just do this over one birthday…

My advice is just take her at her word. For whatever reason - she’s cut you off op.

OP didn’t make plans to drop it round did she ? I’m sure she said she would drop it round on her way past friends’ house at some point. Personally hell would freeze over before she’d get a gift from me after that behaviour. I’d send her a photo of me enjoying whatever the gift was !!

I think that you were both rude tbh.

She didnt have a big party this yr cos her husband is working abroad 4 six months and she didnt want to organise it alone.

there’s your answer princess is on one and forgetting her birthday put you in the firing line

she’s not a close friend brings little to your life . Sack her off wouldn’t contact again and if she did just tell her not falling out but your friendship has run it’s course

That was horribly rude and uncalled for.

Unless she personally delivers a grovelling apology, block, ignore and forget. A five year old wouldn’t behave like that. You genuinely forgot and apologised and as a result she showed you who she really is - a fair weather friend.

This is so weird. I barely remember or even know my friends birthdays and same with them to me. If we happen to remember we might get a happy birthday text but I don’t think I’d even notice or care if someone text the day after 😂

I would take a picture and send it with the message:

Was going to drop this round tomorrow as I’m passing your house. Never mind.

What you did was accidental, what she said was hurtful and purposeful. Don’t rise to it

I would be blocking anyone who told me to F off. How rude. If you are just casual friends I don't see why you forgetting is a big deal. No I wouldn't bother with her anymore.

It all sounds very odd to me, but if I valued the friendship otherwise then I might send a follow up "?" immediately or "OK... What's that about?" later. That said, I don't think I've ever sworn at, or been sworn at by, an adult friend, so for me this might be a deal breaker. I prefer people who communicate any issues clearly.

But, I'm not that precious about birthdays. I don't have any of the things going on in my life that OP does, yet I still sometimes forget dates (or, more often, what date today is). And I'm always delighted/embarrassed when someone remembers mine, but unless it's very, very close family (parents and kids), I'm not remotely offended if others don't!

I wouldn’t drop a card or present round to someone who had just told me to fuck off. I’d be sending it straight to the charity shop and blocking.

For a long time old friend I’d have checked whether she was ok or if there was something else going on, and maybe apologised. But after the first go it is on her to mend fences. She’s an adult after all.

Do NOT give this lunatic a present or card. He’s not even a longstanding friend and sounds appalling self-centred. If her birthday was that important then she would have invited you to a party.

She’s ok to feel hurt but there’s no need to be so rude!

We all forget things sometimes and if your kid has been off school then it’s easy to forget the date.

I would ask her why she’s being so rude when you didn’t intentionally forget.

She’s either a drama Queen or this was just the icing on the cake.

YANBU. Personally I don't remember most of my friends' birthdays and they don't remember mine. Most people wish each other happy bday if there is an actual bday party/dinner. She's unhinged.

Just let her be. Don't get sucked into it.

She sounds like a spoilt child. I wouldn't bother with her again in your shoes. Friends don't remember my birthday because it's near Christmas and the last time I made a fuss was as a teenager. What person in their 40s cares this much about a birthday. She needs to grow the fuck up.