Told to f*ck off for forgetting a birthday

Kids birthdays - 100% cannot forget.
Adults birthdays? No big deal as we rarely ‘celebrate’ on the actual day.

I have a friend who refers to it as her birthday month and besides wishing her happy birthday on the day, maybe a meal or night out to celebrate and dropping off a present, I refuse to be involved in her social media crap. She a twice divorced, 45 year old mother of two teenagers and she posts non stop during her birthday month.
It’s so cringe.

Do you have form for forgetting?

I couldn't get past the birthday week bit.
Jesus Christ, you're well rid.

Seems very bizarre response to your text over a missed birthday….im wondering if the text was really for someone else.
I’d probs text back and say….Was this meant for me…?

If she’s otherwise a good friend, I would text to ask if she’s ok.
She may have had a really bad day and you forgetting was final straw.

I’ve got friends I’ve known for 25 years. I vaguely know their birthday month, couldn’t give exact dates .
We just all get on with our busy lives and unless it’s a big birthday they just get a happy birthday message when fb reminds me.

Your friend sounds ridiculous.

This. I think if you were to hear the friends side of the story a lot of her upset is due to her husband being away. Maybe he forgot, couldn’t get access to a phone, or missed it due to time differences - we dont know where he is or why is away

If she is alone and usually makes a big deal around her birthday (which is fine and doesn’t make her a child regardless what some MNetters say) and her friend and possible others didn’t message her then I can see why she lashed out

Not necessarily your fault OP but maybe check in with her before ignoring her completely

Is the spirit of presents being an entitled twat who has a birthday week and tells her friends to fuck off because they have other more important stuff going on than massaging the ego of a 40 year old child?

"birthday week". Good grief

I would just drop the present off tomorrow , stick it through the door and then leave the ball in her court .

I think op what it depends on is whether or not you want to pursue this friendship and if this is normal behaviour for her or not?

If you do want to maintain the friendship then I'd drop the present round and see if she messages again, if she doesn't then I'd ask her directly what's bothering her.

If you don't then I'd leave it and let her make the first move.

I understand birthday's are a big deal to some people but telling you to f off is out of order. Unless there's a big back story then she's being highly unreasonable.

And for someone in their 40s!

PMSL at 'birthday week' 😂

No, I am more similar to you.

I'm sometimes alerted to friends birthdays via Facebook.

I'll quite often not see it until a few days later. Will send a message saying "happy birthday! When are you free and we'll meet for some cake?"

Never, ever been an issue.

I find adults to make a huge deal out of birthdays a bit I mean, fair enough, I guess, if they want to make a big deal out of celebrating their own birthday. No harm in it. But expecting others to also treat it like some important event is too much.

Can't believe people are actually defending this person if someone told me to fuck off, I wouldn't be giving them a fucking gift.

If text back, ok I will. Have a nice life and then block her. People who are princesses over their birthday are always hard work in other areas. Don't need the drama.

I like that!

I honestly would go round with the card and present and knock on her door. I'd say "here's your birthday present I said I would bring" and then just see what she does. It would be interesting.

That's just nuts.

I can’t stand ‘birthday week/weekend’ people. I wouldn’t be replying and I certainly wouldn’t be dropping a present round after that text.

Ditto. None of my circle do anything other than a SM happy birthday and a text.

Though we often do have a night out the nearest Saturday to a birthday but it’s more an excuse for a good girls get together than anything else.

Honestly anyone over the age of about 16 who expects people to make a fuss about their birthday I find a bit immature and attention seeking.

Its on you Op.
Turn up with a card and gift on time for birthdays or don't. But don't make out you're doing her a favour by doing so. That's not the spirt presents are intended for.

Shes your friend and you forgot something which us important to HER. She obviously feels she does more of the giving ( and not just talking birthday gifts). What do you bring to the friendship ?

Wise up willya!!!

Are you the friend?!

Special or "roundy" birthdays are ok to be marked by friends.

Any other year is a depressing reminder that age waits for no one!

I'm sure you will think me and my friends are nuts and uncaring, but we don't bother with birthday presents or cards. A nice text with a cake emoji is all we do. Unless it's special.

Mature adults don't need anything from friends, as long as they are wished Happy Birthday really. Family/partners/spouses/kids DIFFERENT though I think.

What an entitled baby your friend sounds! I could let this slide if she's had a really rough time AND she apologised. Maybe if you had been friends since you were very young this would be different too, just a different dynamic but this is a friendship forged well into adulthood - I'd probably pull back from the friendship anyway.

Poor woman , her husband is away and it’s her birthday and her mate can’t be bothered. I see why she’s upset .