Told to f*ck off for forgetting a birthday

Even without the demands you currently face, your ‘friend’ is behaving like a petulant child. Unless she comes back to you with an apology and decent explanation for her response, you are better off without her in your life.

She was clearly looking for an excuse to cut ties with you and forgetting her birthday was the most serious misdemeanour she could contrive.

Id'd take her at her word and just fo. Her loss .

I couldn't cope with that, I've enough drama in my life & it sounds like you have your hands full too, like someone else said a thumbs up emoji is the only if any response, if you could be even bothered @Anonforthisq

I had a friend once actually call me to tell me off for not sending her a birthday card. I apologised profusely and made amends, then proceeded to be sure to make an extra fuss of her going forward.

This was 20 years ago. Since then I have woken up and noticed that it was one breadcrumb in a trail of unfriendly, self-involved princess behaviour.

If this might be the case here too, then I hope I can save you some time.

I've got friends of 20 years and we still can't remember each others exact birthdays! But they are there for all the important things and I always know I can count on them.

We actually had another friend who was very much into her birthday and every year did a birthday week with a series of events and it was just exhausting. We all lost touch with her eventually, ironically we all failed to live up to birthday expectations at different points. None of us regret losing touch but she was not a bad person. I liken it to when you hear people talk about 'love language.' I think hers was just different from ours. Her expectations of the friendship were different.

Please don't give a gift to someone who text you in this way. Let this person naturally exit your life 😂

Ah here that's ridiculous, jesus my friends & I have been friends over 20 years & we've all at one time or another forgotten Birthdays, what's the big deal? If it was a "big Birthday" with a party or whatever then I'd sort of understand but this is crazy, she needs to grow up & I wouldn't be taking her to a concert either

Just put a thumbs up emoji on her message and leave it at that....she sounds unhinged!

Leave it, and just ghost he put off your life

she is nuts and a drama Queen and self obsessed

your kids having SEN or anything is not even relevant, you are making too many unnessary excuses 😁. You forgot. Not a big deal. She responded so badly I would not have her as a friend

You've definitely done nothing wrong and your circumstances make it completely understandable, though it would be understandable without any of that. Very odd behaviour from her, so as pps have said, if you want to continue to be friends, maybe just ask her if she's okay and if she'd like to meet to talk about this?

Does she know it's a free gift ? Why didn't you offer to take her for her birthday? You still haven't actually given her anything except a belated text dispute saying you would.

My old best mate and I don't really talk after he forgot my birthday. He remembered I existed when he wanted to tell me about his Grindr escapades the week later though.

He had a lot going on at the time, but so did I. My mum had cancer I was going through a break up and thought I was losing my home. I needed a mate and he just wasn't there for me. Forgetting my birthday was the straw that broke the camels back.

You reel off all the things you're going through and I imagine these may dominate the interactions you have with your mate, but you haven't mentioned her circumstances. Have you considered these? Are you aware of them?

Are you sure the message was for you?

Even though you are both friends she is not entitled to anything from you.

As far as I would be concerned this friendship would be over. She would be dead to me. I would definitely not be giving her anything whatsoever.

Or perhaps princess wanted others to organize a shindig for her since her DH wasn't around? Just because she loves her birthday, doesn't mean others think of nothing else for the month.

Heck, I barely remember my family's birthdays. I forget mine at times. After you are 21 and then 30, birthdays are not that big of a deal. But then, I have never been fond of anyone making a fuss over me.

Yeah but suddenly the Op remembered ( despite all the important stuff) there was a gig she wanted to attended and wanted her birthday friend for that.

Presumably at some effort and cost to said friend.

Hence the fuck off.

You said her husband is away, I wonder if you weren’t the only person to forget.

Way too much drama. Am struggling to think of a situation where I'd tell someone to fuck off when they offered to drop a present round lol.

Actually strongly disagree. It's a great reason. Life is hard and I think op can be forgiven for a 40 something friends birthday not being too of her importance list. If the friend was genuinely upset she could have also enquired as to if her friend was ok and given some thought to what might be going on in her life for her to forget. Friendship works both ways.

She's ridiculous - my own brother forgot my 60th birthday and I completely understood (he had been unwell) it didn't bother me at all. I would leave a resounding silence following that text

When someone shows you what they are - believe them.

She sounds like hard work.

Respond 'Noted'. And don't give her another thought

Are you crazy ?
Why would OP do that now ? She was told where to go