Rich ‘friend’ harassing me

You can get free sanitary products in lots of places now. I’d Google if I were you.

Imo some posters are being very harsh on OP
I'm on lifelong disability benefits.
I also have a beautiful " companion" dog who means the world to me and I pay a dog Walker 5x weekly to ensure his needs are met
I would feed him before myself if necessary.
I have had an unexpected purchase this month as my washing machine died so it's a similar situation
My DS Paid for a food shop this week
These things happen when on a low income.

YANBU, he should not be pressuring you when he knew that you couldn't pay until the date you gave him.

Are they still doing package for Sandy at Morrisons? You used to be able to get a couple of free sanitary towels from them. I know Tesco stopped the white envelope scheme unfortunately. Some local councils list places that you can get free period products from locally on their websites so might be worth a look too.

Again, what do you expect her to do? You don't know OPs circumstances, you don't know that this skint period isn't a temp thing, you don't know that OP might have fled domestic abuse with nothing. And yeah, you were sticking the boot in, like a lot of people who have probably never been poor

OP I’m sorry you’re in this position. Just keep counting down those days until payday!

Your friend is an arse. A real friend would either cover you or accept that you couldn’t afford to go out. They also wouldn’t get friends to harass you for money. He is an entitled prick and you sound lovely.

Keep him blocked and cross the street if you run into him again.

Actually, I think the OP should be praised for putting her pets first even though she is financially stretched.
Telling her to get rid of them is heartless and ignorant IMO.

This. What an arse.

Is it possible that your rich friend's male mates did this just for a laugh? I can imagine if he mentioned it in passing in a bar, there are some sorts of men who would find it hilarious to bombard you with messages about repaying. Toffs burning £10 notes in front of the homeless comes to mind - that kind of mentality.
Pay him as arranged, then block the lot of them, including friend.

I can’t get over that he didn’t just say “come out anyway, don’t worry about the money, I’ll pay,” like any decent friend would offer if they just wanted your company.
Reiterate that you’ll pay him back on the date you agreed and then cut him off, he sounds like a prick.

Don't want to stick the boot in but...you shouldn't keep animals if you can't afford vet bills.

If there is no immediate prospect of someone's finances improving, pets are a luxury. A luxury they can no longer afford. So yes, rehome them. Being in the situation that an unexpected vet bill (presumably because uninsured, or having to pay the excess) leaves you unable to afford basic sanitary protection is ludicrous.

The OP is the important one here. She should be able to afford the basics. And she can't, because she is feeding and medicating multiple animals.

A jerk that’s who.

Pay him back as agreed then never have anything to do with him again.

Ffs have some of you not read the information

op had wages enough to cover normal household expenses (but not luxuries) until next wage came in (next week)

friend asked her to go out for drinks, op replied I don’t have money for luxuries so he said il lend it she said il repay next pay day (next week)

after drinks night cat got unexpectedly ill so the wage which was meant to cover essentials (including sanitary supplies) was wiped out.

op is now having to go without until next wage comes in because the money she had budgeted to last until next week went on the vet bill.

in The middle of all this male and his friends is asking for the money to be returned a week earlier than agreed when it was lent to her.

she didn’t make any choices knowing there was no money to cover essentials!

she made choices then her circumstances unexpectedly changed.

this is the reality of living with low wages and literally only just earning enough to cover living expenses, it means an unexpected event destroys the money budgeted to last until the next wage.

I know some of you will jump on saying that means she shouldn’t have pets or drink at all or have anything that most would class as above an essential etc but that’s not how life works if it’s your permanent position rather than doing a low wage job while waiting for a better one to come along for some people that is their life forever.

Most of the time she manages perfectly well on the little amount that comes in and it covers all the choices she has made (rent, pets, bills etc) but occasionally something will happen that means she has to pull back or go without until the wage tops her back up again because there is no savings to fall back on.

@Brunchclub I know you’ll pay him once the wage comes in but my advice is don’t continue to be friends because he has treated you horribly and I know you know this but don’t borrow for luxuries. It’s hard I know iv been there sometimes you just want to say fuck it i deserve a treat but this is a perfect example of why not. You can’t know the future so don’t put yourself in a situation where you’re going to have to find money that could well be spent on something else at the next wage to pay for a luxury you couldn’t afford the week/month before it only leaves you feeling worse!

He can’t be as rich as you think he is. You aren’t privy to his finances really. Do you think he invited you out because he wanted more? And as nothing happened he has decided to be a dick now?

But YANBU here. He is being awful, so pay when you can and delete his number.

" he wanted more [money] for buying drugs and drinks"
It sounds like these are his priorities, unfortunately. Are his friends the same?.

All of this.

He's playing dirty.

I would pay him back on the agreed date.

Get proof of the payment and block him.

He's not a friend He has no comprehension that you are in a difficult situation
If he's so broke, why didn't his friends lend him money?!
Temporarily block him as you have told himthe date you'll pay him.
Nasty messages aren't going to change that
I would consider if you want to continue with this " friendship"

What do you expect her to do, chuck them out?

Circumstances change and there's nothing wrong with people having pets

She said she uses PDSA. If you do that perhaps you don’t have sn extra £40 to go out drinking.

Agree he’s a loser.

Why does this prick need his minion friends to help him speak out. It’s a pity they weren’t around when he was wanting to go out then he wouldn’t have been pestering you and putting you in a position were you owed money. You told him the day you could pay it back. With the best will in the world, you can’t pull money out of the air that you haven’t got.
If I wanted to go out and my friend had no money I just pay for him/her I wouldn’t dream of asking for it back. Why should they be out of pocket and have their bills fucked up because I want a night out.
I agree with PP who said block him as soon as he gets his money. Life’s complicated enough without arse holes adding to it.

I think this person is unreasonable and dodgy. I think it also a lesson not to go out if don't have any money.

You do understand that people's circumstances change, yes?

Because she thought he was a friend who wanted to go out and would wait for the money as agreed. Sadly she had an unexpected vets bill and as someone who got stung for £500 for two sick chickens who had to be put to sleep anyway (and they wanted to charge for that too); I know how that can hit.
Sadly he's a pathetic loser who relies on mummy and daddy with no concept or concern how people who thought of him as a friend live

Never lend money off someone unless it’s an emergency, it’s not worth the drama.

Do you still have the message where you told him you’ll pay him back the second week of July?

I would screenshot it and send it to him and his friends telling him that you’ll pay him back when agreed.

Once you pay him back then never speak to him again.