Rich ‘friend’ harassing me

Have you ever tried a cup? They're so easy to use and mean no washing of pads etc.

He could have just made it his treat if he wanted to go out so much and you couldn't afford it. He's a Kant. Message him "I remind you that my condition for going out with you on that specific day was that I would pay you back on..., which condition you agreed to. Therefore, I will pay you back on.... as per our verbal agreement. Please stop harassing me in the meantime! Please stop getting your friends to harass me!"
After you pay him back, block him on everything and make it clear he is not to contact you again in future. I would also threaten to call police, because it is quite obvious what's happening here.

And what is she supposed to do with the cat? You do know rescues are full to bursting and have long waiting lists? (Not that I actually think OP should or needs to rehome the cat)

He clearly didn't need the money -he was out with his friends. He set his friends on you for sport to humiliate you.

The guy is a total control freak. Like others have said pay the money back and don't have any contact with him again.

All other details of your post beyond "borrowed the money with an agreed repay date then matey welched on it"

Your financial position, his financial position, your priorities are all irrelevant.

The bloke is an arsehole, his friends are arseholes. If one of my mates asked me to ring someone and guilt them about money I'd be a) amazed I knew such an arsehole and b) tell him he was arsehole.

There's a place called All Yours, they give free sanitary products. There's a group on fb, called, All Yours Volunteers (private group) contact them for help. X

Borrowing / lending money between friends is rarely a good idea (regardless of financial status) but mostly, this bloke isn't your friend. A friend would say don't worry come over and I will get some wine in, not "lend" you money renege on the terms and then harass you & give your number to other people so they can also bully and harass you. Also - drugs. You can't trust drug addicts or those with a "drug habit". It's an expensive hobby & it turns people into selfish arseholes. At best. Steer clear!

Being poor sucks. Having some savings frees up so much mental energy and opens up so many more choices .
If you ever end up having some extra money to spend on drinks or other 'luxuries' try to stick it straight into a savings account or anywhere not easily accessible.
Try to trick your brain into seeing money saved as a a special treat to yourself. Aim for 50 pounds saved. Then when you've got that, aim for 100 and keep going from there.

Either that or a moon-cup, Brunch, which is easier to keep clean and lasts years and years.

I think it's wonderful you love your pets so much. As for that loser, pay him back and never speak to him again.

Never a borrower or a lender be with friends. If you're using loo roll for pads and have no food I'd think twice about keeping a pet.

Still waiting for you to show us where the OP is begging....

If he was a real friend he'd have bought you a couple of drinks, especially as he was the one pressuring you to go out.

At least you now know what kind of arse he is - £40 is probably a cheap price to pay so you never have to see the nobber again.

Aw you niave little sausage.

No, not superior at all. I think you might be projecting bit with the "povs". I live on a council estate and have had to use foodbanks in the not so distant past. What I didn't do, is post on the internet about not being able to afford hygiene products and borrow money a huge amount of money from my friends for a night out.

@Greenlittecat feeling better now? Nice and superior? All puffed up on how you tell the povs how it is?

I hope when the day comes you need the kindness or compassion of strangers, you only meet people like yourself.

Lovely post explaining your circumstances and I think the judgemental posts have come from people who are well off
As I said upthread I identify with your circumstances as I had to buy a washing machine which has left me very short until next week
My dog will always come before myself as my DC did in the past
Best wishes to you and your cat

Yet another total tit head! This is not what the post about, show us where the OP is begging on the Internet? Oh sorry yes you can't can't you because she's not begging at all.

Seriously, that's the best you can come back with?! Then again, after your comment to the OP, it doesn't surprise me at all!
Thank you, but I've already had something constructive to say on page one. If you can't be arsed reading the thread, at least have the decency to read all her posts, your comment is neither helpful or valid, from what she's already stated. Enjoy your day.

I agree with other posters who have said pay him back as soon as possible and no later than you promised. Then have nothing more to do with him.

Also, I suggest you don't borrow money from anyone. If you couldn't afford it at the time, you can't afford it now. You have unnecessarily made yourself poorer and more vulnerable.

Aw, great suggestion.

Maybe better to take your own advice though, eh?