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To hate this reply to 'have a safe flight'?!

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Rizzo8 · 07/07/2024 14:34

So my partner often travels for work. I always wish him a safe flight and he never said anything apart from thanks. When I travel he does the same.

Well I wished him a safe flight today and he responded: 'It will be or won't be. Leaving soon anyway.'

What the hell? We are from different countries so sometimes have cultural 'what the hecks' but this is a strange reply right?!

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LakeTiticaca · 07/07/2024 14:59

Simple solution. Don't say have a nice flight and then he won't have to respond
Reminds me of the old joke
Patient: doctor it hurts when i do this
Doctor: well don't bloody do it then!!
🤣🤣🤣

EndlessSummer · 07/07/2024 14:59

Can you say, Have a good journey.

AcrossTheOceanMissingHome · 07/07/2024 14:58

I don't like it when people say have a safe flight. The last thing I want to think of just before a flight is that some flights don't arrive safely.

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Rizzo8 · 07/07/2024 14:57

Oh dear.

I'm going to stop saying this. I didn't realise people felt this way and now worry I've been annoying people for years.

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OrwellianTimes · 07/07/2024 14:57

foreverhidden · 07/07/2024 14:44

Does it matter? It's such a run of the mill comment. 'Get home safe', 'safe flight', 'drive journey' is no different to 'hope this email finds you well' and when I was in a job and would speak at events people would say 'good luck'. Why would I need luck? It suggests I'm not prepared, I don't need luck but I accepted it's one of those comments that lacks meaning.

It matters if you’re a nervous flyer. Many more people are nervous flyers than drivers, because whilst car accidents are statistically more common, plane accidents are more catastrophic.

Chemenger · 07/07/2024 14:56

I think it’s an odd thing to say. I don’t think I’ve ever said it or had it said to me.

OrwellianTimes · 07/07/2024 14:55

Rizzo8 · 07/07/2024 14:36

Really @OrwellianTimes ?

Would never cross my mind someone would feel that way to such a message

Yes, it’s like saying “hey if that thing you’re in goes wrong you’re all screwed, but I hope that doesn’t happen bye!”

Dontcallmescarface · 07/07/2024 14:53

"Have a safe flight" would wind me up too. Unless he's the pilot or crew he has no control over the flight being safe or not, you may as well have said "hope you don't crash".

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Rizzo8 · 07/07/2024 14:49

Yes @JawJaw he can be brusque and is from a country like that. I am obviously just wishing him well.

Last night I was having dinner with my best friend and she said her partner had been complaining she's too brusque. I like no nonsense people but there's another side to it!

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Peonies12 · 07/07/2024 14:49

Have a safe flight is a weird thing to say, it’s not like anyone can control it!

MalcolmTuckersSwearBox · 07/07/2024 14:48

There seems a fairly simple fix to this. Just stop wishing him a 'safe flight'.

Greentreesandbushes · 07/07/2024 14:46

I might wish people “Safe journey” or “Safe travels”

JawJaw · 07/07/2024 14:46

I don’t think I have ever wished anyone a safe flight. It’s not the 1930s and a motorway journey is probably just as risky, if not more. Millions of people over the world fly safely every day and have done for about a hundred years.

Having said that, your DHs reply is a bit dismissive. Although I think that wishing someone a good flight is unnecessary it is obviously a caring thing to say and his response is insensitive to that. It’s just the kind of thing my DH would say. He comes from a country notorious for brusqueness. Could that be it?

MiddleagedBeachbum · 07/07/2024 14:44

I know loads of people say it, but it feels so pointless and empty.
i mean, realistically what’s he going to do to ensure he has a safe flight? Exactly fuck all. So what’s the point in even saying it, other than word salad for something to say!

minipie · 07/07/2024 14:44

He sounds grumpy.

Maybe he’s fed up with “have a safe flight”. Maybe he was grumpy about something else.

Either way it was a bit of a knobbish response

foreverhidden · 07/07/2024 14:44

Does it matter? It's such a run of the mill comment. 'Get home safe', 'safe flight', 'drive journey' is no different to 'hope this email finds you well' and when I was in a job and would speak at events people would say 'good luck'. Why would I need luck? It suggests I'm not prepared, I don't need luck but I accepted it's one of those comments that lacks meaning.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 07/07/2024 14:43

I always say have a good journey it covers pretty much everything

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Rizzo8 · 07/07/2024 14:43

I wished my best friend a safe flight two weeks ago and she just replied 'thank you!'.

Never thought anything further.

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DinnaeFashYersel · 07/07/2024 14:43

We don't all use language the same way.

Mostly people are just being nice.

If you get pissed off by people being nice you are the one with the problem.

leopardski · 07/07/2024 14:42

Hate being told have a safe flight. I’m a very nervous flier it makes me so anxious! DH knows to say ‘have a good trip!’ or something when I’m travelling with work!

murasaki · 07/07/2024 14:42

I hate flying so it probably would put my mind into over drive. And therefore require two rather than my normal one magic plane juices (bloody Mary) at the airport.

I'd rather no mention of the flight, and have a good trip or similar instead. But my family and friends know that.

Hillrunning · 07/07/2024 14:41

At least with "drive safe" you have some control. Have a safe flight is so very annoying. I can't have any say in what kind of flight I have.

BleachedJumper · 07/07/2024 14:40

It’s a common enough saying op, so I get why you say it. But I don’t think he was rude/out of line to point out what he said.

CloudPop · 07/07/2024 14:40

I'm more concerned about the journey going smoothly in terms of delays etc, than actual safety

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Rizzo8 · 07/07/2024 14:39

I'm really surprised by these replies. A revelation!

Have definitely had lots of people wish me a safe flight and thought nothing further.

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