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To hate this reply to 'have a safe flight'?!

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Rizzo8 · 07/07/2024 14:34

So my partner often travels for work. I always wish him a safe flight and he never said anything apart from thanks. When I travel he does the same.

Well I wished him a safe flight today and he responded: 'It will be or won't be. Leaving soon anyway.'

What the hell? We are from different countries so sometimes have cultural 'what the hecks' but this is a strange reply right?!

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WonderingWanda · 07/07/2024 16:12

I usually say something like "Have a good trip" rather than have a safe flight...not really in anyone's control. My Mum always tells me to drive carefully....just in case I forget I'm a mum and drive like a maniac with my children in the car...it drives me round the bend.

potionsmaster · 07/07/2024 16:11

Tbh I think it's probably his way of trying to gently let you know that it irritates him a little bit... Just switch to 'have a good trip' in future and all fine.

RomanRoysSearchHistory · 07/07/2024 16:10

I mean, he's not wrong- it either will, or won't be 😂

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 07/07/2024 16:04

Everyone is different. It doesn’t bother you. But his reply does.

’have a safe flight’ bothers some people and his reply wouldn’t. Just one of those things.

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Rizzo8 · 07/07/2024 15:59

@Moonshine5 you're the first! And maybe the only by the looks...

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DonnaBanana · 07/07/2024 15:57

Keep saying what you want, just don’t be surprised when people react to you in a way that doesn’t go along with your prescribed social rules. How about trying to be a bit more accepting and forgiving in how you interpret other people? Or sure take your toys home and sulk.

Moonshine5 · 07/07/2024 15:57

I'm going out on a limb - I'm pro "safe journey"

fluffi · 07/07/2024 15:56

Yeah I dislike it when people say “Have a safe flight”, it’s out of my control. And unsafe flights are so unusual they will end up on news if not!

Have a good flight is fine … lots of things make a flight less nice, like delays, no catering, lost luggage, annoying other passengers!

TheHateIsNotGood · 07/07/2024 15:52

Just because I can never forget saying this 55+ years ago to my pilot DF before he left for a few weeks earning the money:

"bye forever Dad" just because I was curious and just wanted to mix it up a bit....

Of course he looked mortified and calmly said "don't ever say that" and I felt dreadful (still do) and said sorry.

He'd been a very young bomber Sgt Pilot in WW2 and 'luck' did play a part in survival. I tend to say to people now have a 'good' flight/bon voyage but think nothing of it if people say to me 'safe' flight.

Bobbotgegrinch · 07/07/2024 15:51

Yeah, I've always dislikes "Have a safe trip / flight".

I'm not anxious or anything, it's just seems really doom-y on the part of the person saying it. Why is you first thought hoping that I won't die? Why is me dying even crossing your mind?

I'm going on holiday, why not say "Enjoy your trip!", or "Have a good time!"

TorroFerney · 07/07/2024 15:43

Rizzo8 · 07/07/2024 14:36

Really @OrwellianTimes ?

Would never cross my mind someone would feel that way to such a message

Yes, if you are a bit of a nervous flyer. It suggests that it may not be. You don't want those ideas in your head!

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Rizzo8 · 07/07/2024 15:42

Thats a new one for me @MichaelFabricantsSyrup 🙂

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MichaelFabricantsSyrup · 07/07/2024 15:41

I prefer 'Happy Flighting'.

Octavia64 · 07/07/2024 15:40

I mean I sometimes say to members of my family

"Don't get murdered"

So I don't think there's anything wrong with what you said but his reply is also fine?

lemonmeringueno3 · 07/07/2024 15:39

I think 'have a safe flight' is fine.

But then I also think his reply is fine and don't really understand why it shocked you

Isn't he just saying that the safety of the flight is out of his control, what will be will be?

willWillSmithsmith · 07/07/2024 15:34

BobbyBiscuits · 07/07/2024 15:12

Maybe it is a cultural thing. I would never wish someone a safe flight, nor would anyone I know.
It's almost like, of course it'll be safe. If it's not you're dead and we'd rather not put such images into our minds. It would exacerbate flight anxiety for some people.
Have a nice/good flight is better. The captain doesn't say 'wishing you all a safe flight' when he announces departure does he?

God I’d freak if they did! 😯

RaisedEyebrows11 · 07/07/2024 15:34

I agree with not liking it. I’m a nervous flyer and don’t like to be reminded that some flights aren’t safe and do crash and I have no control over it as a passenger. I had to say this to a friend last year, so now get a ‘have a good flight’ instead when I’m going off for work which just feels sweet as intended.

willWillSmithsmith · 07/07/2024 15:33

Rizzo8 · 07/07/2024 14:39

I'm really surprised by these replies. A revelation!

Have definitely had lots of people wish me a safe flight and thought nothing further.

Are they saying safe or good? I always say to my son good as I don’t want to give him any ideas it might not be safe (I’m a very anxious flyer).

Itisjustmyopinion · 07/07/2024 15:32

Have a safe flight is as bad as the stay safe nonsense during the pandemic. Unless I do something to myself I have no control around whether I am safe or not

Both are just odd expressions in my opinion

BiggerBoat1 · 07/07/2024 15:12

Have a safe flight is a bit of an odd thing to say. Maybe he just suddenly had enough of it and wished you'd stop (although he could have just said that).

BobbyBiscuits · 07/07/2024 15:12

Maybe it is a cultural thing. I would never wish someone a safe flight, nor would anyone I know.
It's almost like, of course it'll be safe. If it's not you're dead and we'd rather not put such images into our minds. It would exacerbate flight anxiety for some people.
Have a nice/good flight is better. The captain doesn't say 'wishing you all a safe flight' when he announces departure does he?

savoycabbage · 07/07/2024 15:10

I sometimes say to my older teenagers 'don't get murdered' when they go out at night. Same sort of idea I suppose.

ClockBiscuit · 07/07/2024 15:08

Dontcallmescarface · 07/07/2024 14:53

"Have a safe flight" would wind me up too. Unless he's the pilot or crew he has no control over the flight being safe or not, you may as well have said "hope you don't crash".

This is my exact thought. I would find it irritating. How is he supposed to have a safe flight?

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Rizzo8 · 07/07/2024 15:02

Yeah I guess it does.@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing

Last time I'll be saying it...

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 07/07/2024 14:59

I guess it winds him up that you say this, otherwise he wouldn’t reply in that way!

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