To hate this reply to 'have a safe flight'?!

I think wishing a safe flight is not something to say, not that the response is good either. As has been noted, flying is the safest form of transport.

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Maybe it's not annoying if it's a once a year holiday situation, but if the bf is frequently flying maybe he's starting to find it a bit trite and meaningless. Or maybe it was just a one off response from him which he didn't really think about before it came out, and which he'd be very surprised to find random people analysing on the Internet. Who knows?!

That's because that was a normal interaction. I wish others a safe journey, they thank me and vice versa when I'm travelling .

I think what we are really saying is 'I hope you have a safe journey' and who can deny that wish for anyone ?

No we don't worry about it as the skies are filled with pilots that are highly skilled and will do everything in their power to ensure that it doesn't happen. We are also taught about some of the aircraft mechanics so have a better understanding of how things work and what to look out for.

Like pp have mentioned, you're statistically more likely to be in a car crash on the way to the airport than a plane crash.

That being said, unfortunately these things can and do happen. That's why we spend weeks and weeks in training, learning survival tactics, for those unlikely events.
We are trained in land and water crashes/evacuations, decompressions, firefighting, first aid, terrorism and avation security, e.g. passengers fighting, bombs. There's many more things that I won't bore you with but I feel confident in the hands of the pilots and I know that they always put safety first.

I have often wondered. So cabin crew worry about crashing ? Your post suggests that it is on their minds.

Have a safe flight is such a pointless thing to say though and it actually makes me anxious. Why would you even say it ?

Even with 2 pilots in the house I’d never dream of wishing them or anyone else a safe flight. It’s not what they, or anyone else needs to hear before they go out the door to make any journey by whatever means.

If someone says something like "have a safe .....x" to me I often reply something along the lines of "fingers crossed".

It annoys me too. I always wish my DP an enjoyable journey.

Cabin crew here. This is something the crew will always say to eachother before a flight. Just like an actor would tell their fellow crew to 'break a leg'.

It's said because our role is primarily for safety related duties and we know that anything can go wrong at any time. This is why we spend weeks/months in training. The customer service part of our job is a nice little extra for the passengers.

It's a completely normal saying in my circle and when we say 'have a safe flight' we really mean it.

Yep I wouldn't want anyone wishing me a safe flight! I would think 'oh great that means I'm doomed now'

I think "have a safe flight" is tactless and it would annoy me. Because a) I have no agency over how safe the flight is, and b) I don't want my attention drawn to the risks just before I fly. I know, I know, flying is safer than driving yadda yadda...but it's also a less commonplace experience, feels more dangerous (being 35k ft up in the sky) and if things do go wrong it's unlikely to be a bit of a prang/minor whiplash.

I do not like the phrase and never have. I worry about flying as it is.

I do not at all see the issue on the whole.

it doesn’t bother me really, it makes me think, hmm maybe it’ll crash exciting 😂

i am the sort of person that says, I hope your plane doesn’t crash, though 😂

so maybe take what I’m saying with a pinch of salt 😂

My family always say kalo taxidis. Greek for have a good journey. No issues for us.

I say this to my husband, but he’s the one flying the plane so at least has some modicum of control over the safety of the flight. 😅 to everyone else I’d just say have a good flight as nobody wants to be subtly reminded of plane crashes on their way to board.

Just replace “safe” with “good.”

Have a good flight is fine, but not safe. It would annoy me too. At least with have a safe drive, the person has some control, can be cautious etc, but flight is absolutely pointless.

A lot of people overreact unnecessarily to comments like this when it's clear what the meaning is.

"Have a safe flight" = I hope your flight is ok because I love you and would hate anything to happen to you.

"Drive carefully" = I hope your journey is ok because I love you and would hate anything to happen to you.

"Be careful getting home" = I hope you get home ok because I love you and would hate anything to happen to you.

You didn't increase his anxiety.

He just heard it as a pointless comment and replied accordingly.

I agree ‘have a safe flight’ is a pretty common thing to say.

I don’t like to hear it though, and I never say it.

Just wish people a good trip.

I'm one of those people who gets annoyed when people say the same thing over and over again and expect a different answer. For example DP will say, every evening, I'll just have a whisky and then I'm off to bed. EVERY EVENING. Grrrr

So could it be possible that is not the safety or lack of it on the flight that your DH is reacting to, but the fact you say the same thing, EVERY time. So possibly varying the goodwill message would be an idea ?