It's a money one - Parent

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 07/07/2024 10:44

My parents have always been very fair and equal when they have given my sibling or myself money, the other sibling instantly get the same amount. This has always been the case.

My parents gave my sibling a large amount of money, and I have been told that I will have to wait until my parents have died to receive the money.

My parents have got the money in investments and have the amount of money sitting in the bank.

AIBU and should just wait or AINBU to think I should be given the money now as has always happened.

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MolkosTeenageAngst · 07/07/2024 10:53

Why have they given the money to your sibling now? Why are you having to wait? More context is needed, for example if they’re giving it to your sibling now because s/he is on a low income but needs help to pay childcare fees for their nursery aged children hilts you’re childfree and on a high income and don’t need the money right now I don’t see it as unfair. If they gave you both ££ for a house deposit but you bought in a cheap area when mortgage rates were low but your sibling is buying now with higher rates and is in a more expensive area for work where it will cost £££ I don’t see it as unfair for your parents to help your sibling with extra money now, if you don’t need the money then I don’t see that they have to give you the same right now. The inheritance will be adjusted so it will still work out as fair, maybe your parents don’t have enough to give both of you the money in cash right now so are prioritising the sibling who needs the help right now.

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 07/07/2024 10:50

Jk987 · 07/07/2024 10:47

Why are they still giving you money now that you're adults?

Does your sibling need this lump sum for a critical purpose? Maybe he'll share some with you?

My sibling was given this money a year ago, no critical purpose.

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TheSpoonyNavyReader · 07/07/2024 10:49

tortiecat · 07/07/2024 10:45

YABU - you're not entitled to any of their money?!

I am not entitled to their money, my parents have always been fair that if they pay for a wedding or helped with a house deposit the other sibling gets the same amount of money, so its totally fair.

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gamerchick · 07/07/2024 10:48

Oh dear. Hard hat on OP.

AnneLovesGilbert · 07/07/2024 10:47

What do you think your options are? You can’t make them give it to you. I can see why you’re put out when the normal dynamic has changed but it doesn’t look like you have a choice but to accept it.

Jk987 · 07/07/2024 10:47

Why are they still giving you money now that you're adults?

Does your sibling need this lump sum for a critical purpose? Maybe he'll share some with you?

tortiecat · 07/07/2024 10:45

YABU - you're not entitled to any of their money?!

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