To say thank you to Mumsnet?

I am on my way home from a long shift but its been a decent one ( everyone pulling their weight) it made me remember your thread and what working for arseholes is like.
I really hope your meeting went well .

How did you get on OP?

Been thinking about you today

Me too , what kind of people would begrudge this ?

Just wanted to say well done op! None of us think resources should be wasted but compassion is so important too. I would happily donate to my local children's hospital to fund such things in fact (happen to know they are good about such things) hopefully you will be able to be redeployed in a better environment

Justice will be served, along with tea and biscuits for all

I also joined a union because of Mumsnet posters. I've never had to use it but I'm glad it's there.

I hope it goes well for you tomorrow and justice is served.

Thinking of you tomorrow.

Please update us

Wishing you all the best for tomorrow. Hold your head high for caring for the children and family in your care.

Good luck @Mamtorr

Thanks for making a stand for human decency

Also if I was a consultant and heard something like this I’d march down to the ward, personally make a cup of tea for every visiting family (& patients who were able) and tell the staff to make sure Nurse Ratchet heard, and if she wanted to make a complaint about me she was welcome to.

Good luck tomorrow op.

You sound amazing @Mamtorr , thankyou so much for looking after your patients with care and compassion .
I hope everything goes well for you tomorrow, you have a good union rep and the mumsnet army behind you.

I agree that no matter what role you are in you should join a union.

I have been in one for 30 ish years , twice they have stopped me from getting made redundant, and once they have backed my to get my place of work to change their safety code of practice.
Dont wait until you need one , do it today !

Of course in some instances its for management to be seen to be doing something but there will also be serious misconduct that needs urgent investigation and suspension, like Lucy Letby ( joke it looks months to do anything ). I'd ask the panel to add up the costs involved in this case vs the cost of a hot drink and 2 meals.,its all about do as we say, policies, once you do it everyone else will blah blah. The kindness and empathy gets lost in the pig headedness

I remember hearing someone say once HR are for the benefit of management so I wouldn't trust them. Confidentiality in NHS is pretty slack for staff members.

This is really shocking but I am not surprised. I absolutely agree if you work in the NHS impaericular you must join a union today.

What does your site Matron think of this? It's absolutely ridiculous! That this has even become a thing now how many resources are being used for a full investigation?.

Just to be clear, when I said It's good that it's being addressed, I meant the fact that parents don't get fed when their children are in hospital. Not that I'm glad that the OP is getting a disciplinary.

imho Sophie's legacy can't come in soon enough and should be expanded to include siblings as well.

Yes, where’s the Daily Fail when you need it ?
And I’m afraid I can think of several words for the housekeeper and the manager ……🤬🤬🤬

Good for you, ,let your rep speak for you, its impossible to argue with idiots who won't back down. id be requesting an immediate move to a different ward and the warning to be dismissed, removed from your employment file or, if they continue with this nonsense at best, downgraded to a verbal. What level of warning did they give you. Hopefulky your manager will also be spoken to about wasting resources,

Budgets are squeezed tight. So what a waste of resources to get into a legal challenge with staff for making a fucking cup of tea or giving a couple of sandwiches to the family of a dying child.

For goodness sake. If money needs to be saved it could start with the (often) overpaid, useless management in most NHS trusts.

What's the meeting tomorrow about, are you appealing the warning or is it for them to decide what they are going to do. Have you already had a investigative meeting followed by the discipljbaru where they issued a formal warning, it all sounds really
Petty and I'm surprised hr and the investigating officer has let it lead to this instead of just a ward and matron meeting.

Because they are petty penny pinchers and the hostess might be embarrassed to say she was rude to me so they've turned it into a mountain not the teeny weeny Mousehole it could have been.

Op says the investigation is for "inappropriately using ward resources" rather than rudeness or unprofessional behaviour. Not that anything she's done should warrant this.

I'd have been tempted to chuck 5p at the manager to cover the tea bag and 1/20th of a pint of milk and tell her to stick that in the budget.

How can they seriously justify the cost of a cup of tea and 2 patient meals versus the cost of having you suspended on full pay, therefore needing agency to cover your shifts, the time taken for everyone in the investigation etc - would come to 30x more the alleged resources you "wasted", its completely disproportionate.

We always make a drink and biscuits for relatives with very sick patients or follow, it takes nothing to be kind. Our lovely ward hostess offers to do this if we're busy, on the tearoubds what's an extra few teabags to anyone really. If I were the unit manager this is something I'd bring up in the managers meeting, let the meanies give their reasons and costings to the Trust. Ask them how they would handle the situation in your meeting, ask how you can all improve the care for parents, acknowledge the ward hostess may have felt undermined but that you stick by what you did . Offer to pay for the meals which of course they will say no to. If they decide, or you decide, to move then it's for the best reasons as you cannot work in an uncaring environment that leads to a disciplinary, it will be their loss.