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Why does his Google history show he was at an industrial estate at night

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Nachosanddips · 06/07/2024 17:00

Last night I was on Dh’s phone-not snooping…initially at least. I was turning lullaby music off that he and our dc had fallen asleep to.
It showed the travel history of where he’d been/been driving etc. I just thought it was quite interesting at first, don’t think I have it on my phone or if I do, no idea how to access it! I started looking and it was all pretty boring-travel to work, certain shops, cafes etc, a friends house. One entry from last Sunday shows him going out in the evening driving for 30 minutes, it says here no location/location not shown. Then from around 10.30-11.30 pm, it shows a location and when I looked at it, it’s an industrial estate. This is really strange isn’t it?! Making me so paranoid, what would you make of it?

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silverhamster · 06/07/2024 18:26

TheShellBeach · 06/07/2024 17:17

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TheShellBeach · 06/07/2024 18:26

Sunnydiary · 06/07/2024 18:21

So do you mean one or other of you sleeps with DD all night every night?

So many people seem to do this. They should get the Ferber sleep training book and reclaim their evenings.

NotAgainWilson · 06/07/2024 18:26

Wickes midnight sale? Pizza place or takeaway? Some takeaway business now operate from industrial estates as the rent is cheaper and the vast majority of their clients were only asking for delivery.

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Nachosanddips · 06/07/2024 18:25

@Sunnydiary Yes at the moment, that’s not really the point of the thread though 🤷🏻‍♀️😬

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Sunnydiary · 06/07/2024 18:21

So do you mean one or other of you sleeps with DD all night every night?

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Nachosanddips · 06/07/2024 18:17

We take it in turns to do DD’s bedtime as we stay with her in bed, so there’s no point both doing it together as we’d never get a break. If Dh is doing it I watch tv or sit in the garden, but could also go to a gym class or see a friend, but I’m mainly too knackered! On some of his free nights he’ll go to his mates, he sits in the garden with his friend, listening to music, having a beer or a smoke for a couple of hours and comes home. He’ll probably message me before going that he’s nipping to his house (message so as not to come up and wake up Dd) but he doesn’t always and may nip out to the petrol station etc, I’m not really bothered if he doesn’t always tell me exactly where he’s going, not sure if that’s weird or not 🤷🏻‍♀️
This location does seem weird though

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pontipinemum · 06/07/2024 18:16

You'll have to ask him. He might have just driven to a random location and parked for a while for a bit of space.

Pieceofpurplesky · 06/07/2024 18:15

If there is a cafe nearby he could have been there - when I used to drop DS at school it always showed I was in the local pub (at 845 in the morning).

Ask him.

Lavender14 · 06/07/2024 18:15

I wouldn't immediately jump to something nefarious. It could be he's wanted some headspace so he's gone and got a McDonald's and just parked there to eat somewhere quiet. I used to do that sometimes when I didn't want to go home (lived alone) but no one was free to hang out. I'd just hang out in the car and watch Netflix and eat McDonald's and go home after. I think you need to ask him and see what he says. Is it on the way somewhere and he could have pulled in to take a phone call or something. Do we know how reliable the app is? If you're suspicious then I'd do some digging and trust your gut but I wouldn't automatically assume the worst.

Asparename · 06/07/2024 18:12

I find it’s not always accurate. It often puts my family random streets away, on the edge of fields, in random housing estates.

Myblindsaredown · 06/07/2024 18:11

StandingMyGround888 · 06/07/2024 18:10

I'd be mightily pissed off if i stopped for a bit and was then tracked and speculated about. He could easily have gone out for something to eat, a smoke, a chill out with music, a long phone call. Why does everyone's mind immediately jump to prostitutes and dogging?

You often go out at night, don’t tell your partner and kid where you’re going and go and sit in an industrial estate?

Bleurfghjj · 06/07/2024 18:11

Just ask him where he went on Sunday

Scorchio84 · 06/07/2024 18:11

HarryKanesDrool · 06/07/2024 18:04

The First Rule of Fight Club..........

😂oh man yes!!!

Myblindsaredown · 06/07/2024 18:10

Where does he say he was, I find it odd he goes out and you don’t discuss where he was or is going.

im afraid I also thought prostitute.

StandingMyGround888 · 06/07/2024 18:10

I'd be mightily pissed off if i stopped for a bit and was then tracked and speculated about. He could easily have gone out for something to eat, a smoke, a chill out with music, a long phone call. Why does everyone's mind immediately jump to prostitutes and dogging?

Bleurfghjj · 06/07/2024 18:10

samarrange · 06/07/2024 18:03

I wouldn't ask him. He's hardly likely to say "I lost a bet in a dockside bar and had to fellate a monkey", so will you believe what he does say? And if he's actually innocent (for example, because Google screwed up, or because he meets with a secret Warhammer club that he thinks you would think was a bit pathetic), how do you think he's going to take to you having scrolled through his entire location history? (It might be different if he had left his phone open to a page saying "11:30pm meet Dave and Julie at the dogging spot", but it sounds like you embarked on a pretty thorough search.)

In your position I would leave it be and see if anything else about his behaviour over the next few months gave me grounds for suspicion. You probably also need to find a way to resist the temptation to search his phone again, or at least, some way to do it without being caught.

Ultimately, marriage is about trust. He may have violated yours, but if he is innocent, I think you are close to violating his.

Yes this is the trouble with snooping! What do you do if you find something you don’t like 🙈😬

BirthdayRainbow · 06/07/2024 18:09

StandingMyGround888 · 06/07/2024 17:20

OP people want to ruin your marriage!!

Location is not always accurate at all!

No one wants to ruin anyone's marriage. Have a word with yourself.

What posters want is to not have a woman cheated on or made a fool of.

TickleMyPickle · 06/07/2024 18:09

As a family we use Life360 and a couple of months ago I was in New York with work.
Landed and got to the hotel at 11pm and went straight to bed.
When DH looked at Life360 the next morning it showed me having gone for a 90 min walk at 2am all around Hell’s Kitchen!!!
So there is a chance that it’s a glitch.

sleepylittlebunnies · 06/07/2024 18:08

The dogging places round here are local woodlands, think there’s be too many cameras in industrial estates.

My tracking app showed me leaving a night shift at 01.00 in the morning, I never left the building, so they definitely play up.

HarryKanesDrool · 06/07/2024 18:08

I wonder what country it is. UK industrial estates have allsorts. Could be a curry house, could be a gym, could be a meeting of the flesh.

BirthdayRainbow · 06/07/2024 18:07

Dinnerdinnerchickenwinner · 06/07/2024 17:17

The key thing here is where did he say he was going? I have been known to drive to places just to have an hour's peace from the kids, so could he have done that?

Except the kids were being put to bed. Peace was coming.

YarsidokaLoafer · 06/07/2024 18:06

I'm thinking he's gone there to pick up a prostitute. Industrial estates are often red light districts at night time.

But in all probability he's just gone out for a drive and pulled over in a quiet spot for a smoke or some peace & quiet.

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Planesmistakenforstars · 06/07/2024 17:53

There will only be a food van if there are people about. Is that likely on an industrial estate late at night?

Yes, given the amount of prostitutes and doggers who apparently hang out there.

Not forgetting the furries...

My timeliness isn't always correct took us 22 hours to do a 30 minute drive the other day.

OP you'll wear yourself out with all this jumping to conclusions.
Pluck up the courage to ask him you're just going to keep getting the same answers of him being with prostitutes, dogging or watching furries going at it.

If he is up to no good at least he'll know you're on to him.

HarryKanesDrool · 06/07/2024 18:04

The First Rule of Fight Club..........