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Why does his Google history show he was at an industrial estate at night

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Nachosanddips · 06/07/2024 17:00

Last night I was on Dh’s phone-not snooping…initially at least. I was turning lullaby music off that he and our dc had fallen asleep to.
It showed the travel history of where he’d been/been driving etc. I just thought it was quite interesting at first, don’t think I have it on my phone or if I do, no idea how to access it! I started looking and it was all pretty boring-travel to work, certain shops, cafes etc, a friends house. One entry from last Sunday shows him going out in the evening driving for 30 minutes, it says here no location/location not shown. Then from around 10.30-11.30 pm, it shows a location and when I looked at it, it’s an industrial estate. This is really strange isn’t it?! Making me so paranoid, what would you make of it?

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HarryKanesDrool · 06/07/2024 19:32

DoingTheChaCha · 06/07/2024 19:29

I doubt there’d be many food places open on an industrial estate at 10.30pm on a Sunday night unless there are businesses with lots of people working overnight on it.

Also a 30 minute drive from home late at night just to get a kebab from a food van on an industrial estate is a just a little bit odd unless OP lives in a rural area with no food places nearby!

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OP lives in an undisclosed location but not the UK so who the fuck knows. I doubt many other countries have Kebab vans on their industrial estates.

DoingTheChaCha · 06/07/2024 19:29

Whothefuckdoesthat · 06/07/2024 19:22

So many responses spring to mind, but are you asking because you think I’m suggesting she check the bank for businesses with names like ‘Legover 4 U’?

Or because you didn’t read the bit about many food places working off industrial estates due to excessively high rents in the town centres? If his card was swiped at a business that sells food two minutes before he parked up, then it’s quite likely that he just wanted to enjoy a sneaky kebab without either sharing it or being told off for eating junk after he’d already eaten dinner. And then the OP has her answer and won’t need to either lose sleep, go investigating or start a row because she doesn’t trust her husband. Seems the most obvious first step to me.

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I doubt there’d be many food places open on an industrial estate at 10.30pm on a Sunday night unless there are businesses with lots of people working overnight on it.

Also a 30 minute drive from home late at night just to get a kebab from a food van on an industrial estate is a just a little bit odd unless OP lives in a rural area with no food places nearby!

deeahgwitch · 06/07/2024 19:29

Thank you @Whothefuckdoesthat

WirelessWendy · 06/07/2024 19:29

I'd go somewhere quiet to eat a burger without anyone in the family seeing me. Our local industrial estate has a late night kebab van.

Sometimes I go and sit in a layby with a coffee and an audiobook for a bit of peace and quiet. Generally not late at night, though.

Last month my google maps told me that I'd been in Portsmouth. I wasn't in Portsmouth.

Whothefuckdoesthat · 06/07/2024 19:28

deeahgwitch · 06/07/2024 19:24

Excuse my innocence- what are furries ?

You might regret asking…

Grown adults who dress up as animals. Usually cartoon style. They have heads and outfits for them. I won’t expand on why they do it. They have conventions and everything.

Coralsunset · 06/07/2024 19:27

gamerchick · 06/07/2024 19:17

My money he's gone there for a bit of peace and quiet for an hour with no wife asking questions or a child wanting attention. Who doesnt want a bit of chill time occasionally, totally alone?

But he could be chilling alone at home. OP is asleep in bed with their child. It is a bit odd he does this every other night…

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Nachosanddips · 06/07/2024 19:27

@sandragreen Its not every other night, he goes to his friends for a couple of hours a couple of times a week
I seriously didn’t think this was odd

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Bournetilly · 06/07/2024 19:26

Whothefuckdoesthat · 06/07/2024 19:22

So many responses spring to mind, but are you asking because you think I’m suggesting she check the bank for businesses with names like ‘Legover 4 U’?

Or because you didn’t read the bit about many food places working off industrial estates due to excessively high rents in the town centres? If his card was swiped at a business that sells food two minutes before he parked up, then it’s quite likely that he just wanted to enjoy a sneaky kebab without either sharing it or being told off for eating junk after he’d already eaten dinner. And then the OP has her answer and won’t need to either lose sleep, go investigating or start a row because she doesn’t trust her husband. Seems the most obvious first step to me.

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This! I drive around for work and if I’m eating food in the car I want to be somewhere quiet, not outside someone’s house. He could have just been eating a takeaway, especially if there are food places near by.

deeahgwitch · 06/07/2024 19:24

Excuse my innocence- what are furries ?

sandragreen · 06/07/2024 19:23

So you don’t ever sleep together. How often are you having sex @Nachosanddips ?

You are concerned enough about his behaviour to snoop on his phone, and have found something odd.

I would be worried. Do you have a brother or friend brave enough to drive out there at night if you can’t?

There is something not quite right about this whole situation, the visiting friends every other night (does he fancy either of them?)

What is your relationship like generally?

Whothefuckdoesthat · 06/07/2024 19:22

HarryKanesDrool · 06/07/2024 18:44

@Whothefuckdoesthat do pro's have card readers these days?

So many responses spring to mind, but are you asking because you think I’m suggesting she check the bank for businesses with names like ‘Legover 4 U’?

Or because you didn’t read the bit about many food places working off industrial estates due to excessively high rents in the town centres? If his card was swiped at a business that sells food two minutes before he parked up, then it’s quite likely that he just wanted to enjoy a sneaky kebab without either sharing it or being told off for eating junk after he’d already eaten dinner. And then the OP has her answer and won’t need to either lose sleep, go investigating or start a row because she doesn’t trust her husband. Seems the most obvious first step to me.

Bleurfghjj · 06/07/2024 19:20

AllyCart · 06/07/2024 19:13

Yes, of course you hate telling OP this and are definitely sorry.

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I hate it when people put ‘I’m sorry’ at the end, as if their wild speculation is definitely what’s happened and they’re breaking the news to OP

TwigletsAndRadishes · 06/07/2024 19:19

Nachosanddips · 06/07/2024 17:04

I haven’t asked him where he was. We do alternate nights taking Dd to bed and often fall
asleep, he sometimes nips out to his friends house for a chat/drink (both friends with his friend and wife etc, kids) so I assumed he’d gone there for an hour or two

You mean he went out at 10pm a night on a Sunday and you just 'assumed' he'd gone to see a friend? Does he usually disappear late in the evening without discussing it with you first? That is frankly very strange.

gamerchick · 06/07/2024 19:17

My money he's gone there for a bit of peace and quiet for an hour with no wife asking questions or a child wanting attention. Who doesnt want a bit of chill time occasionally, totally alone?

GoneFishingToday · 06/07/2024 19:13

Sorry OP, but I'm afraid it sounds like the sort of place he might take a girlfriend, where they're out of the way, and unlikely to be spotted by someone who knows them. Whether or not it's a suitable place for a shag at that time of night, only you will know, but that's what it sounds like to me.

AllyCart · 06/07/2024 19:13

Dita73 · 06/07/2024 18:57

Hate to tell you this but a friend of mine is having a casual (sex only) affair with a married man. They meet on an industrial estate and have sex in his car. I’m sorry

Yes, of course you hate telling OP this and are definitely sorry.

Eviolle · 06/07/2024 19:12

Does he like driving? Does he like listening to loud music or podcasts? Is your house quite noisy in the daytime?

I've driven to random parks and just sat in the quiet for half an hour or so before. Not at night, but I'm a woman and there's no way I'd do it at night, he's a bloke though.

Shitandrun · 06/07/2024 19:12

Google the industrial estate and press the news tab. There might be some local news reports on drugs/hookers/furries prowling the estate at night.

Dinnerdinnerchickenwinner · 06/07/2024 19:11

Nachosanddips · 06/07/2024 19:06

When I say I’m paranoid, I mean that just the way I am, have seen far too many friends be cheated on/affairs etc

Talk to him. The relationship is done for if you say nothing because it will fester and come out in anger during a row. The communication and trust are gone.

Cuppachino · 06/07/2024 19:11

Nachosanddips · 06/07/2024 18:29

@CombatLingerie Maybe it isn’t normal then, I don’t know? Do your husbands go to the pub or visit friends in the evening or just never out in the evening? I don’t know, maybe I have been naive and he could be up to all sorts? Should I be saying he has to stay in, I’ve no idea

No don't do that. I love a bit of peace when DH goes out for a few hours. TV to myself etc.

Spirallingdownwards · 06/07/2024 19:09

In some areas it is where prostitution can take place unhindered by locals.

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Nachosanddips · 06/07/2024 19:06

When I say I’m paranoid, I mean that just the way I am, have seen far too many friends be cheated on/affairs etc

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taylorswift1989 · 06/07/2024 19:05

Nachosanddips · 06/07/2024 19:03

Sorry I didn’t say/mean I looked also on his phone a month ago, when I looked, I went back a month on the history, looked at the entries for around a month ago

I can ask him obviously but then I’ll have to say what I was doing looking and also it it is dodgy, he might then switch it off and I’ll never know

Yes you'll have to explain and apologise for snooping.

It's called communication and relationships do not survive if both of you don't learn how to do it.

If you don't trust him and think he'll lie to you, it's already over.

Hb7x3 · 06/07/2024 19:04

Had he ever shown an interest in skip/bin dipping?

There's currently a man showing up late at night on our office cctv going through our industrial bin once a week for the past couple of weeks lol

Perhaps it's your dp 😄

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Nachosanddips · 06/07/2024 19:03

Sorry I didn’t say/mean I looked also on his phone a month ago, when I looked, I went back a month on the history, looked at the entries for around a month ago

I can ask him obviously but then I’ll have to say what I was doing looking and also it it is dodgy, he might then switch it off and I’ll never know

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