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To actually feel sorry for the woman driving the car in the Wimbledon car accident

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bagpuss90 · 06/07/2024 16:44

I’m sure I’ll be flamed here . I totally sympathise with the bereaved parents- I can’t stress that enough. I can understand them wanting justice . As we know the driver of the car suffered an epileptic seizure at the wheel - she had no history of epilepsy. I don’t see what she could have done differently. She has to live with what she did although it wasn’t her fault. AIBU to feel quite sorry for her ?

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WiddlinDiddlin · 06/07/2024 18:09

Some folk seriously lacking in medical understanding or critical thinking here!

Yes, of course, they just took her word for it and did no further investigation following the horrific deaths of two little girls, in front of their classmates. Thats how policing and the british justice system works don't you know?

No.

They've spent a YEAR trying to find evidence that would prove she committed an offence.

In that year she has provided evidence from neurology experts, that show she had a seizure and given everywhere is quoting she is diagnosed with epilepsy now, that must mean she has had at least another seizure since the accident.

In that year, the police have failed to find any other evidence suggesting she did not have a seizure - so forensic investigation of the car, CCTV footage, eye witnesses etc etc.

There is sufficient evidence that this was not a crime, that CPS say there is no case to answer. If there were, even a little bit of doubt, there would be a trial.

Theres a lot of misinformation about epilepsy here...

Anyone can have a fit at any point without any warning, at any age.

There may or may not be visible evidence on a scan to show a prior fit.

Drivers who have had fits in the past, but haven't had one for a year (at least, sometimes longer) can apply to have their licences back. You can do this multiple times too (a friend of mine has had to hand in her licence several times, and has had it back several times. She has never had a fit whilst driving, hers have some warning to them.

I feel very sorry for everyone involved, it would be hugely unreasonable not to be!

HonoraBridge · 06/07/2024 18:08

Sirine1708 · 06/07/2024 17:11

I think it's a very convenient diagnosis - human brain is so complex, they can't prove she didn't have a seizure. Never heard of a person diagnosed with epilepsy at 40 though - I believe if you have it, it starts at the childhood.

This driver lives in a detached house in Wimbledon (worth millions in that area) and her car was not the cheapest one so apparently she could afford good lawyer and suitable diagnosis.

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What a nasty, nasty comment.

ClockBiscuit · 06/07/2024 18:05

I feel sorry for her. What a thing to have to live with.

I couldn't believe my eyes when I saw a photo of the car as I've never seen one in real life. I do think it would be a good idea to look at whether these vehicles are necessary in cities.

Serencwtch · 06/07/2024 18:04

Sirine1708 · 06/07/2024 17:11

I think it's a very convenient diagnosis - human brain is so complex, they can't prove she didn't have a seizure. Never heard of a person diagnosed with epilepsy at 40 though - I believe if you have it, it starts at the childhood.

This driver lives in a detached house in Wimbledon (worth millions in that area) and her car was not the cheapest one so apparently she could afford good lawyer and suitable diagnosis.

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Absolutely not the case.
Appx 10% of the population will have a seizure at some point in their life. At any age. There are some developmental/genetic syndromes that can cause epilepsy & these are present from childhood, however these are a small percentage of people with epilepsy.

Epilepsy is defined as recurring seizures so if you have just a one off seizure you aren't technically epileptic. Many people will have just 1 seizure & many more will have a seizure & realize.

ginasevern · 06/07/2024 18:04

HandyDandyNotebookWanker · 06/07/2024 16:53

YANBU. It's an awful situation for everybody involved.

I would like to see a review of the availability of these massive cars or their suitability for urban and suburban areas, though. If she'd been driving a Punto, this might not have happened. That's not to blame her - she made a perfectly legal choice of vehicle - but I don't think it's unreasonable to question whether they belong in densely populated areas.

Yes, this. Just look at the press pictures of the aftermath. The "car" is the size of a fucking Sherman tank. Nobody and nothing in its wake would stand an earthling of a chance. There is no need, absolutely zip, nada, zero reason to drive something like that unless you live on a farm. Don't these drivers know that people don't look at them with admiration or envy. At best, they're seen as pathetic tossers and at worst as dangerous selfish cunts.

OneTC · 06/07/2024 18:02

She's fairly far down my list in terms of sympathy if I'm perfectly honest.

ArcaneWireless · 06/07/2024 18:02

I do feel desperately sorry for all affected.

LlynTegid · 06/07/2024 18:01

In part I do feel sorry for someone to discover a medical condition in that way. However, had a standard sized car been the one being driven, I am convinced the outcome might not have been fatalities.

Gymmum82 · 06/07/2024 18:01

Sirine1708 · 06/07/2024 17:11

I think it's a very convenient diagnosis - human brain is so complex, they can't prove she didn't have a seizure. Never heard of a person diagnosed with epilepsy at 40 though - I believe if you have it, it starts at the childhood.

This driver lives in a detached house in Wimbledon (worth millions in that area) and her car was not the cheapest one so apparently she could afford good lawyer and suitable diagnosis.

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A friend of mine had her first seizure at 35 out of the blue. Turned out to be caused by a brain tumour. Seizures can be caused by all sorts of things and at any time of life.

lanthanum · 06/07/2024 18:00

Anyone who thinks that she should be held responsible should themselves stop driving, so as not to put anyone at risk from the possibility that they too suffer an unpredictable medical episode.

It's hard - people want somewhere to put the blame, but sometimes it's just an unforeseeable accident.

Scorchio84 · 06/07/2024 18:00

TheFallenMadonna · 06/07/2024 17:15

My mum had her first seizure aged 44.

Oh god that's really scary! Has she had any since if you don't mind my asking?

very tragic for alll involved

@Mooda yeah those big monster tanks have no place in a city, I shudder looking at how high up they are when we're walking into Tescos for example with my son & there's one parked up , even for an adult it'd be catastrophic

Mooda · 06/07/2024 18:00

I do feel sorry for her from the epilepsy point of view but the car was absolutely enormous. There's just no need to be driving a tank like that in a suburban area. If she'd been in a sensibly sized car the damage would have been significantly less. Anyone unfortunate enough to be in an accident with a vehicle like that, whatever the cause, is going to be very vulnerable - and that's a good reason for not driving one, never mind the obvious environmental considerations. It's tragic that these vehicles have been normalised for urban usage.

ArcaneWireless · 06/07/2024 17:59

wp65 · 06/07/2024 17:14

You are sadly ill-informed.

They are indeed.

This has just happened to a colleague.

No history whatsoever. Early 50s. Thankfully they were not driving at the time.

Sirine1708 · 06/07/2024 17:59

TheaBrandt · 06/07/2024 17:56

Agree op a dreadful accident terrible for all concerned. I honestly don’t understand the zeal to prosecute. There’s a “class war” tinge to some of these comments. If she’d been a cleaner driving a Nissan micra think she would have got more sympathy.

I would more willingly believe the cleaner because she would not have a shrewed defence team.

maudelovesharold · 06/07/2024 17:58

whatafaf · 06/07/2024 17:53

If they were just accepting her word, it surely wouldn't have taken this long to investigate? Would/ should her medical records be shared with people other than the professionals involved? Just questions. I don't know the answers or what should be the case. Horrendous situation.

I don’t know either, but I would have thought it would be a bereaved parent’s right to be shown proof that the incident which killed their child was the result of an unavoidable medical issue.

Sirine1708 · 06/07/2024 17:56

whatafaf · 06/07/2024 17:53

If they were just accepting her word, it surely wouldn't have taken this long to investigate? Would/ should her medical records be shared with people other than the professionals involved? Just questions. I don't know the answers or what should be the case. Horrendous situation.

I think that's why the parents are upset with the ruling - they are simply not convinced.

TheaBrandt · 06/07/2024 17:56

Agree op a dreadful accident terrible for all concerned. I honestly don’t understand the zeal to prosecute. There’s a “class war” tinge to some of these comments. If she’d been a cleaner driving a Nissan micra think she would have got more sympathy.

Runnerinthenight · 06/07/2024 17:55

Sirine1708 · 06/07/2024 17:51

Google "critical thinking" love.

That's rich!!!! Don't make me laugh. You could do with googling it yourself and a lot of other things!

HcbSS · 06/07/2024 17:53

You can feel sorry for the families of the girls and for the woman driver in different ways. The two are not mutually exclusive.

Lovemusic82 · 06/07/2024 17:53

Anyone can have a seizure at any time of life, the same as anyone can have a heart attack at the wheel. If she did have a seizure then there was nothing different that could have been done? I had a seizure when I was 14, have not had one since, I am allowed to drive but there’s always a small chance I could have another seizure….but anyone could.

I can imagine that anyone could have driven there car into children on purpose (not impossible I know).

whatafaf · 06/07/2024 17:53

maudelovesharold · 06/07/2024 17:36

I think the parents are naturally enough wanting a more….robust case for not prosecuting, than ‘I blacked out and don’t have any memory of what happened’. I know I would, in their position. Absolutely not saying that she didn’t have a seizure, but has she been examined - neurological tests, brain scans etc? I get the impression that either the parents and teachers feel that her ‘defence’ hasn’t really been put to the test, or if it has, they haven’t been kept in the loop about the results. Is she still allowed to drive?

If they were just accepting her word, it surely wouldn't have taken this long to investigate? Would/ should her medical records be shared with people other than the professionals involved? Just questions. I don't know the answers or what should be the case. Horrendous situation.

justabigdisco · 06/07/2024 17:53

Sirine1708 · 06/07/2024 17:11

I think it's a very convenient diagnosis - human brain is so complex, they can't prove she didn't have a seizure. Never heard of a person diagnosed with epilepsy at 40 though - I believe if you have it, it starts at the childhood.

This driver lives in a detached house in Wimbledon (worth millions in that area) and her car was not the cheapest one so apparently she could afford good lawyer and suitable diagnosis.

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And your qualifications in neurology are…?

bfsham · 06/07/2024 17:53

Ahh...@Ozanj
I thought there was more to it when I watched the interview with the 2 teachers.

Catpuss66 · 06/07/2024 17:53

Sirine1708 · 06/07/2024 17:11

I think it's a very convenient diagnosis - human brain is so complex, they can't prove she didn't have a seizure. Never heard of a person diagnosed with epilepsy at 40 though - I believe if you have it, it starts at the childhood.

This driver lives in a detached house in Wimbledon (worth millions in that area) and her car was not the cheapest one so apparently she could afford good lawyer and suitable diagnosis.

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I once was at a cinema watching a horror movie this guy probably in his 30’s had a fit, I looked after him until the ambulance arrived. He gd never had one before.

think your comment about how wealthy she is is disgusting, this is a sad episode for all involved without people like you trying to make it out more than it was….an accident.

you obviously not medical in your diagnosis of the person driving the car so I would reflect on what you have said & try to be a better person.

Lavender14 · 06/07/2024 17:52

I do feel sorry for her. Any of us who drive could have a medical crisis at the wheel at any given moment and have no forewarning, all we can do is hope that it doesn't happen and assess our own wellness to drive as best we can. From the article I've seen it sounds like the family are unhappy with the way the investigation was conducted rather than with the driver specifically so the review is more of the investigation than the driver to my knowledge? I may be wrong. But I think that's fair if you've been affected by any incident or crime and feel the police haven't done their due diligence and shared information appropriately regardless of whether or not it would change the outcome?